Anxiety before a date

SammyTPoker · 2018-09-22T15:26:17+00:00

Literally just force yourself. You’ll find it tough at first but it’ll get better over time. I used to feel the exact same way because you build it up in your head and don’t think it can ever live up to your expectations.

Scootmcpoot · 2018-09-23T04:58:38+00:00

She poops.

redpill_swagger · 2018-09-22T15:56:00+00:00

Don’t pedestal women, imagine her with no makeup ( at least two points down ) you are not lucky to be going on a date with her... wtf?!

firula98 · 2018-09-22T17:58:14+00:00

Meditation

shimmyshammy2119 · 2018-09-22T15:51:52+00:00

You have to just take a shot at it. The longer you wait the harder it is, and the more likely you miss your window.

piperson · 2018-09-22T15:35:57+00:00

Yeah, I get that. I try not to force anything. If I don't feel it, I honor my feelings. But if I am committed and have to go through with it, I work to not blow it up in my head. I would stop looking at the girl as a potential lay and take a critical look at her and see her flaws. I don't want to put her down, I just want to see her realistically that way I don't inflate her to the status of idol or goddess.

All girls are just people and they may be just as nervous about screwing up the date as you are. No matter how pretty someone is, they have insecurities just like everyone. This attitude helps me be more practical and not treat her special or get nervous around her.

nastyamerican · 2018-09-22T16:32:45+00:00

Therapy my friend.

Leionart · 2018-09-22T18:03:28+00:00

I had huge anxiety issues when I first started getting dates from girls. My hands would tremble, I'd get sweaty, I would over think every little detail about how the date will go.

The biggest thing to do I'd say is to expect nothing from her. The reason why you get anxiety before a date is because you really want it to work out and you really care about the outcome. Take a deep breath. Take another deep breath. You are okay, the reason why you have a date in the first place is because this girl likes you enough to even go out with you. Unfortunately this anxiety will not completely pass until you have adequate reference experience of doing this again and again.

I want to reiterate what other posters have said and say that you do just need to say "fuck it" and go through it. It's something you will get over overtime if you just keep at it.

This post brings me back to all kinds of awkward stories when I first started game lol :)

Evan87688 · 2018-09-23T03:54:27+00:00

Know that you can handle whatever is coming. that will help.

aamfs94 · 2018-09-23T15:17:44+00:00

“One of those women you don’t find often”

Maybe you just need to reconfigure your understanding of what it means to be a woman. Seems like you fetishize them in some weird and rarefied way.

RussianFakeNewsBot · 2018-09-24T08:00:51+00:00

Stoicism, all that anxiety is is just a thought. Imagine zooming out over the city/land above your head with all the other people there going about their day with their worries/anxieties. Meeting someone for a drink means nothing in the whole scheme of things, if it goes badly it goes badly. It's not going to end in your death, it might actually lead to something exciting.

You should be nervously excited

AHigherTruth · 2018-09-22T15:17:30+00:00

Stop being a pussy

Title	Anxiety before a date
Author	rsyed21
Upvotes	9
Comments	12
Date	September 22, 2018 3:12 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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