Approaching women at bar/pub

Broad-Cranberry-9050 · 2026-05-22T16:37:52+00:00

not really. But going with firends helps with confidence becuase if youg et rejected you arent alone and can go back to your friends.

But i used to have this friend who was good at going out alone. But first off, he focused on just having fun. he'd go to the club, get in line talk to other men in line to get his social battery going. Try to befriend people in the line and just talk to as many people as he could.

Then once he felt his social battery was high, he'd just go in and tlak to every person, maybe even try to get a group of guys to hangout with. At some point he'd try to introduce women to his new friends. And wingman. And now he had a group of people and to women it didnt seem like he was trying to sleep with them because he was so focusd on making sure everyone had a blast.

ANewCleanSlate · 2026-05-22T17:20:07+00:00

I think it makes a huge difference. Men who hang out in bars by themselves are often viewed as sketchy alcoholics. Men who are out with their friends for a 'night out' are demonstrating that they have social skills - they are fun guys with friends.

Find a couple of wingmen.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-05-22T16:38:53+00:00

Yes and no. I find it easier with friends but if you can socialized and have fun alone it doesn’t matter

epimpstyle · 2026-05-22T21:02:23+00:00

Depends on who you ask. To some it matters, to others it doesn't. But this is about you, are you comfortable in your own skin when you're alone? If you aren't comfortable with it, then it's clear you're going to have major issues being single.

I’ve been single many times, but I ALWAYS gave off the impression that I was waiting for someone. I never had that cowboy attitude, the type who walks into a saloon all by himself, orders a drink, and just sits at the table, lost in his own world.

burncushlikewood · 2026-05-22T22:13:04+00:00

Technically it's nice to have a wingman, but that doesn't mean you can't go solo, usually women go to bars in groups, having a wing will help you break the ice, someone to occupy her friend

Wildslayer3 · 2026-05-23T14:59:50+00:00

I often go out in a group and recently I started going out alone and I’ve noticed that women are way more attracted to you when you don’t have a posse of dude’s creeping behind you😂

Title	Approaching women at bar/pub
Author	ExtremeMap6563
Upvotes	19
Comments	10
Date	May 22, 2026 4:31 PM UTC (2 months ago)
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