There's always posts on how guys should approach a woman they find attractive, so today I will describe how to do just that.

When approaching women, you can either approach directly or indirectly. Over the years, I've found that direct game is what best for me and compliments my personality. There are situations where going direct is better than indirect, but generally, the style used is just dependent on what you find works best for you.

A direct opener is when the first thing you say indicates that you are romantically interested in a woman. This style is best to use for people who are more conventionally attractive, bold, have good social skills, and confidence.

I advocate for beginners to approach women directly, because often times what happens when they embark on their cold approach journey is they will approach a woman indirectly and not escalate the conversation/ establish romantic interest and still attempt to close. This confuses the woman, because there is an incongruence in what you discussed during the conversation and what you attempted to do at the end. Closing with a woman has to make sense. You can't just make boring mundane small talk and then ask if she would like to go out on a date.

So, at the very least, direct approach allows for your intentions to be known from the jump. I personally don't recommend having canned openers, but rather, having the social savviness to generate openers instantly given the circumstances of the situation. This will help you develop your social skills and make you better at game overall, which should be your end goal.

I was walking downtown the other day, and a woman was walking her dog. I told her that her dog was gorgeous and asked if it needed a father. This is an example of a direct opener that I produced instantaneously in the moment. Having canned material in the very beginning isn't bad, but you will become a much better seducer if you can think of them naturally.

If approaching directly, a woman's receptiveness to your opener is highly dependent on how conventionally attractive you are, and your delivery of the opener. I've found that even if I'm not a girl's type, or if I find out that she is married or has a boyfriend at the end of the conversation, that women are far more likely to converse with you if you are well groomed, in good shape, and just generally clean looking.

After reading that paragraph people are going to complain about how obvious that is, but luckily, everyone can become more attractive if they're willing to put in the work. Everyone can get in the gym, become jacked, ripped, develop healthy skin, have a nice haircut, and be well groomed.

I don't recommend complimenting a woman's physical appearance during the opening statements because, assuming that the woman is average, it's something she's heard hundreds if not thousands of times before. When that's your opener, she begins to associate you with all of the dorks who approached her / cat called her on the basis of her looks, and associates a negative connotation with you. If you're approaching a woman directly, (like how I asked a woman if her dog needed a father) there's an implication that you find her physically attractive, so it's not necessary.

With that being said, and while I don't recommend it, you can compliment a woman's appearance during your opening statements, if you genuinely think the woman is beautiful and non verbal body communication (facial expressions and gestures) genuinely demonstrate that you find her to be very attractive. This sincerity will emit from you and it will make the woman feel good, just make sure you actually mean it.

Also, if you are high social status like Drake or Michael B. Jordan, you can obviously get away with complimenting a woman's looks.

Furthermore, complimenting a woman's appearance works if she finds you to be very physically attractive. You aren't going to be every girls type, but if she thinks you're hot you can get away with it.

After your opening statements, if a woman responds with anything other than complete enthusiasm and agreeability, you are going to have to build her conversation during the conversation. You will know if she is very into you by her non verbal communication (body language, facial expressions, and gestures) after your opening statements. Typically, in my experience anyway, if a woman finds you to be relatively attractive she will respond in a way that suggests she is not sold yet but will be willing to give you a shot with a conversation.

When this happens, build her attraction. In this post a week or so ago, I discusses how to build attraction with women during conversations via fun and playful conversations:

Lastly, one huge mistake men make when approaching women directly is having good openers that are playful and fun, and then going into boring and mundane conversation where emphasis is on the information exchanged and not emotions. Years ago I was at the gym and approached a woman and told her that my cat was looking for a father, she then told me her dog was looking for a dad, and I then went into asking her ordinary, unlinked, rapid fire questions. This bored her and she concluded the conversation by saying that it was nice to meet me and that she was going to get back to her workout. I pretty much had this in the bag, but I turned her off when I started asking questions like we were in an interview because there was an incongruence with how she thought the conversation would go, and how it actually went. I approached her boldly in an fun and exciting way, and then went into boring conversation which is not what she expected. Don't make that mistake.

With all of this being said, if a woman finds you very physically attractive and she is horny, she will make life easy for you and you will be able to pull her, and it may even get you laid, however, if you can't stimulate her emotions and bore her she will leave, I can assure you of that. This is coming from someone who is jacked and ripped.

This article goes into more detail about how to approach women directly: https://open.substack.com/pub/jackedguy/p/how-to-approach-women-direct-game?r=31tj3q&utm\_campaign=post&utm\_medium=web

TL;DR When beginners are learning cold approach, they should go direct because when they go indirect they often don't ever let their intentions be known and don't attempt to close, or they attempt to close and don't escalate the conversation and establish romantic interest. Women are more receptive to conversing with men that are physically attractive so yes, you should optimize your looks but your looks (unless you are the woman's physical type) will only get your foot in the door. Her emotions must be stimulated in order for her to want to see you again. Never have a fun and playful opener and then proceed to go into boring and mundane conversation, this incongruence confuses women because they expect the conversation to be fun and playful, and asking boring, rapid-fire, unlinked questions reminds them of being in a job interview and causes her to associate feelings of boredom with you. This is coming from someone who is jacked and ripped. I'm not saying this to toot my own horn, but because it's something I've observed from the field.