Balancing going out and working on yourself

SmokingTheBear · 2022-08-25T09:54:58+00:00

Yes, this is hard. Sometimes it's going out all the time and then periods of reading, working out etc. Not really going out much.

I think the balance is to make it a point of when in an introspective period to go out atleast once a week to a bar/club or other social activity. It's super hard when not in that mode to want to do this, but 15 mins of being in that environment you will loosen up and will be good. Don't even worry about trying to get with any girls, talk to them have fun but just focus on letting go and having fun.

Then periods of going out again all the time will come again and it will be really hard to sit still long enough to even read a chapter in a book... the cycle repeats.

Amikatey · 2022-08-25T11:09:32+00:00

Combining the two is the best man.

Calamity__Bane · 2022-08-25T16:08:00+00:00

Going out and talking to people is also working on yourself.

OrderGroundbreaking · 2022-08-25T17:12:46+00:00

Same boat here, sometimes it feels like not enough hours in a day to get everything done. One advice I can give is to practice daygame. When you're out getting something at the store or out and about, try chatting up some strangers and be playful. For myself it's one of those use it or lose it kind of skill set. It's great knowing that you're working on yourself and making progress in life but also realizing you're losing the social skills you have because you're not out socializing and getting rusty.

texaspete3 · 2022-08-26T14:42:11+00:00

Staying busy , motivated and focused on accomplishing a task is an aphrodisiac to a woman. A woman doesn't want you to focus your attention on her, she wants you to be focused on something other than her. So never give that up. As far as the balance goes, what you could do is spread yourself even thinner by picking up a part time job as a bartender.

Here you are working , but also its a social job with its perks. Best of both worlds.

Temporal-Distortion · 2022-08-27T16:48:56+00:00

The Grind leads to burnout eventually, especially if your job and side hustle(s) are done from home.

V-god666 · 2022-08-25T09:31:23+00:00

Have the same problem...

Additional_Plant_539 · 2022-08-25T11:24:53+00:00

Summer has been tough for me too but for the oppposite reason. Too much front end not enough back end. Winter is coming.

Andrewy42 · 2022-08-25T12:10:26+00:00

Im in the same boat

booniedog1 · 2022-08-25T14:13:28+00:00

Yeah I'm in a similar position. Except I work 1-9:30 which leaves almost no social opportunities during the week.

BFoe_ · 2022-08-28T00:57:58+00:00

If you need to work on yourself. Don't prioritize women until your improvements

Title	Balancing going out and working on yourself
Author	sussykeke
Upvotes	13
Comments	12
Date	August 25, 2022 8:40 AM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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