I don't want to make this post needlessly long. Long story short: I've only had one previous girlfriend in my life. That relationship ended about a year ago. Overall it was a terrible relationship. I invested way too much into her than she did into me ("she's the one", etc). But I learned a lot. A few months later I decided I needed to turn my life around, read Models by Mark Manson, and about 7 months after that I'm in a totally different place mentally and physically and I feel great.

I'm in my last year of college. I had a crush on a girl that I never had the balls to approach until two weeks ago when I walked up to her table during lunch and, in front of her friends, told her I thought she was cute and that we should get coffee soon. She told me she had a boyfriend, but things weren't going great and she was probably going to break up with him very soon. The next day she sends me a friend request on Facebook and we exchange numbers, we get coffee, have a great time talking, hold hands and makeout.

Things escalate in the next week with a spin class date and a frozen yogurt date (nothing beyond making out). She tells me a lot about herself and her past and I think she's amazing. I'm openly sexual in our conversations and over text. She tells me to "chill out" when I mention wanting to kiss her over text. She tells me she wants to take it slow. I ask her how slow is "slow", she says "a few months," because she doesn't want to the honeymoon phase of the relationship to ruin it (?).

The next week is shit because we both get sick and she is extremely busy and stressed out. I only see her once and she's not in a good mood. Meanwhile I get a feeling in my gut that she is losing interest, and like clockwork, I ask her how she's feeling today and I get a text saying "I don't have the time or patience to do this right now. I can't see myself moving forward with you." Blah blah, I get rejected.

Now I really liked this girl. I would think about her constantly and check my phone often to see if she texted me. I realized this was a terrible sign and a total mental drain. I even found myself not being interested in asking out other women. Was this relationship doomed from the start because of my lack of experience and because of how long it had been since I had dated anyone? It honestly felt like she was a drug at times.

How can I avoid this in the future? What can I improve on? I realize texting too much is a bad idea, and that I was too eager to make her my girlfriend. I've also realized that there was a large chance we were incompatible sexually. I never got to talk to her about it in-depth with her unfortunately.