Being shameless

saulisdating · 2024-02-09T10:47:59+00:00

I mean sure, on the one hand, it's great that you decided to say FUCK IT like that and brute-force through rejections to desensitize yourself to that stuff.

On the other hand, you're not really going about it in a good or even healthy way.

There's such a thing called self-respect. And going into a cafe full of people and blatantly going from one girl to the next like you did is a bit pathetic. Not to mention desperate, because girls see that you're basically approaching all the girls there, one right after another, not really caring about them at all and you'll ask anyone out as long as they're "breathing." Basically, you give off the "I'd fuck anything with a pulse" look and it isn't great. And self-respecting guys don't do that.

If you did this in a night-club, you would not be getting laid. You'd quickly ruin your reputation and become "That Guy." Because every girl who sees you get rejected by others like you did, and then run directly to another girl, will also reject you. To protect both her ego and to not look like a desperate girl herself in front of others.

What I'm getting at is that the spirit of what you're doing is AWESOME. But there's a right way and a wrong way to do it. As there's such a thing called tact.

What you wrote and the way you described shows you're being manic about the whole thing. And that's not really great for your self-esteem. Even though it's great for desensitizing yourself to rejection. But this is a wrong strat to use if you want to learn all this in a healthy and sustainable way.

You yourself admitted feeling despair, shame, trauma, humiliation and a so on and so forth. Which is a decent sign you're doing it wrong. Because a good approach involves none of these things, even if you fail. Since rejection is actually GOOD for you.

A solution to this would be to actually give a damn about the women you approach, instead of looking at them as a life support system for a vagina. Basically, approach women to find out who they are, and only after a decent chat DECIDE if you want to ask them out. Instead of running up to women to ask them out right away, without any info.

Here's a much more in-depth explanation for you on how to handle rejection well, so you can become MUCH better at cold approaching: The Secrets Of How To Overcome Fear Of Rejection With Women

You're wrong, rejection is real. But you're right - it doesn't matter because it's the default state of things. Just like when you cold call people in sales - you'll get rejected more than you won't be. That's just the numbers game. But being in denial and saying it's not real will not help you get better at this.

The last girl most likely just gave you her number just to get rid of you. If she saw you hitting on others in the cafe like that.

iiTryhard · 2024-02-09T13:13:23+00:00

How to get flagged as “that creepy guy” on the campus

LilSkills · 2024-02-09T08:51:51+00:00

Approach anxiety is afraid of bro

Jolly-Jaguar8664 · 2024-02-09T08:06:09+00:00

Being shameless is a good thing, if you manage to be socially calibrated and polite at the same time. If you are not polite and calibrated, you will annoy people, negatively affect the reputation of yourself and cold approaching in general and ... get worse results.

mister_k1 · 2024-02-09T12:04:21+00:00

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TRTGymBro · 2024-02-09T19:35:27+00:00

Tomorrow's post: hey guys, I got suspended from my 100K a year college for harassing women. Now I have to get up in front of the school panel and argue why I shouldn't be expelled.

LeatherConscious7682 · 2024-02-09T16:54:11+00:00

In first paragraph when you said "looking for hot bitches" I knew you failed. Your struggles will continue until you dont view women as sexual objects.

Charge36 · 2024-02-09T18:53:39+00:00

Shameless is one thing. This is borderline self sabotage

BraveOcelot1824 · 2024-02-10T02:47:43+00:00

I get limp from reading this

nocturnalanimal69 · 2024-02-09T08:07:19+00:00

The cold approach motivation I needed, thanks bruv.

IWouldButImLazy · 2024-02-09T13:41:44+00:00

Lmfao this man is a menace

ell1s_earnest · 2024-02-09T17:55:39+00:00

Although you are getting lots of criticism in the comments I instead want to compliment you because you are doing what 99 percent of guys will not do out of fear and with adjustments will eventually lead you to success and growth.

I mostly disagree with comments here, "embarrassing yourself" are ways for other people to control you, i.e, shame you. It depends where it is coming from and only you can answer that. If you genuinely want to get laid, (instead of wanting validation like most guys) and you approach every girl and just be honest and plow through that is what you should do. Just that girls will shame each other so you gotta be more tactful to get results.

3boodqt · 2024-02-10T04:22:07+00:00

I’m not one to speak, but that approach seems hella detrimental in the long run, cause it create a reputation of an asshole/creep and no one want to hang out with you anymore which eventually lead to being lonely. I could be wrong but that’s how I saw your life story flashing when I read the post.

Also who told you that opener is a good opener?

I would definitely try all sort of different things in the street or a new city where no one knows me and it doesn’t have much consequences so you can be as shameless as you want.. And it does help you kill approach anxiety and develop good communication skills (maybe), but doing it in campus is a dangerous territory

ChurchofCaboose1 · 2024-02-10T04:29:35+00:00

I'm guessing calling women "bitch" and having that attitude doesn't help

Title	Being shameless
Author	winnereffecting
Upvotes	24
Comments	32
Date	February 9, 2024 7:22 AM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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