Cold Approached with immediate regret.

JeffTheSpider · 2020-03-02T14:47:13+00:00

Wait, did you not make any convo before asking her out?

ImJustSomeDude10 · 2020-03-02T14:07:20+00:00

This is kind of weird and hard to do if you are not just a 10/10. Most of us are not so it is quite hard. My advice would be to start with a casual opener such as "You do not look from here." Or "Youre cute for name of uni girl" and see where it leads from there. Then few minutes in you could ask to see her again or grab her number or instagram. Respect your courage tho!

edu2004eu · 2020-03-02T15:18:10+00:00

That's not cold approach. That's cold asking a girl out. Cold approach would involve talking to her before asking for her number / date.

joypadeux · 2020-03-02T15:16:43+00:00

It was wise to stop it there

yurifca · 2020-03-02T15:31:46+00:00

You were too direct, you gotta build some trust between you both to ask her out by talking to her and being friendly/interested.

Think of it as if someone you never met asked YOU to go out so directly, it would be kinda awkward or weird, amirite?

Take this as a lesson to not be so direct, maybe get to chat a little bit more next time.

2020-03-02T16:04:37+00:00

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2020-03-02T16:13:26+00:00

I don't mean to sound like a dick but dude, what did you expect? It was a terrible way to ask someone out.

spenrose22 · 2020-03-02T15:24:31+00:00

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wccAWeek · 2020-03-03T14:44:21+00:00

Man, these are some brutal comments. Don't worry man, you did the hardest part and that's talking and asking a girl out you don't know. Keep at it and keep reflecting on your mistakes, it's normal to have some pretty off moments.

le_GoogleFit · 2020-03-02T16:32:30+00:00

I mean there's "direct" and "direct". This was way too strong and had very little chance of actually working.

A more proper direct approach would have been: "I don't have much time blablabla but I thought you looked cute and wanted to talk to you". Then you exchange some banalities for like 1~2 mins and ask for her contact to continue the conversation.

Straight up asking for a date like that is not direct, it just doesn't make sense.

theconcentrated · 2020-03-02T18:11:41+00:00

You didn’t have to be mr. nice “i don’t want to take your time” and “i am a geography student” Well nobody asked about your course. “I don’t know you” is a sane reply “Well that’s the whole point of a date” Don’t expect the girl to be wet for you like a whore to say “okay, lets go on a date” for the first words that came out her mouth. Don’t be completely out of your mind and don’t try to rub niceness on her back.

intelectualycurious · 2020-03-02T19:08:35+00:00

kudos for taking action. most guys would have let that opportunity slip by. but it sounds like the only ‘regrettable’ thing that occurred was not setting up any sort of context for a date. it sounded like you just saw the girl and asked if she wanted to hang. maybe the interaction would have panned out differently if you took a more indirect approach.

manonpoint_com · 2020-03-02T22:27:46+00:00

Never just go up to a random girl and ask her on a date after introducing yourself. That is a horrible strategy that pretty much never works.

Throwaway_6664206969 · 2020-03-03T01:12:47+00:00

Genuine question: are you autistic?

ABZOLUTEZER0x_x · 2020-03-03T02:53:00+00:00

Try to have an actual conversation, even if it's just for a few seconds. The more she talks to you the more comfortable she'll feel. If you try to go straight for the kill you're just gonna look like a creep

2020-03-04T16:13:53+00:00

Weirdest approach I have seen in my entire life.

OldSoulBiz · 2020-03-02T15:59:18+00:00

You want to avoid saying "I don't want to take up much of your time". It makes it seem like you're already demanding stuff from her.

Avoid that kind of line in any situation when you're opening a conversation. When closing a conversation, say something like "Thank you for your time."

theconcentrated · 2020-03-02T18:03:02+00:00

Hahaha did you just leave when she said “i dont know you”? haha thats so dumb bro

Title	Cold Approached with immediate regret.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	21
Comments	48
Date	March 2, 2020 1:56 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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