Confidence

ReindeerFun3762 · 2026-07-27T02:40:48+00:00

No, it takes more than confidence. I'm tall and I get girls but I never get laid

becomesharp · 2026-07-27T02:35:01+00:00

Its not just confidence. It's Confidence/Self Esteem + Social Skills/Charisma.

When we talk about "game" we're really just referring to all of those things under one umbrella.

ac2334 · 2026-07-27T02:32:08+00:00

find 3 friends who are 5’3

charlizard1000xy · 2026-07-27T02:01:09+00:00

Here's my perspective. Confidence isnt an inherent quality. I have three notions, it comes from utter ignorance (which is extremely common and is attractive too), or its a byproduct to the investments you have made in yourself or in your presentation (which attracts different kind of people, but is attractive too).

The third is unshakable belief/faith in yourself, but it in a pragmatic way which in itself takes a little courage to do so.

A finance bro or high earning man would wield a different kind of confidence than a guy which hits on thousand women trying to score on the street. Both are confident, but actually are polar opposite on their approach in some way or another.

TheNattyJew · 2026-07-27T02:13:57+00:00

Confidence def helps. but the fact of the matter is, that being short is a handicap. It doesn't mean that you can't get girls, but you're gonna have to have some other skills to compensate. BTW I'm short too and going out with my tall friends was not that fun. But I did fine on my own and got plenty of girls

random_question4123 · 2026-07-27T02:48:36+00:00

Just be smart about the girls you go for, and the guys you hang out with when you're talking to girls. If you're 5'5, theres really no need to be hitting up girls that are like 5'8 even if you find them good looking. the odds just aren't in your favor (even though there might be exceptions to the rule).

Your pool is clearly smaller - I would be looking for girls in the 5'2 range and below.

So are all your guy friends over 6 ft and good looking?

Realwoujo · 2026-07-27T03:53:33+00:00

Confidence is an important element, but its not everything. Being 5'5 is surely a disadvantage, but you can make for a lot of it with confidence. But the point is that you should not be thinking about yourself at all when approaching girls. You should be thinking about them and how much fun you are having.

Back2theCouture · 2026-07-27T13:50:36+00:00

Even a lot of people who are great at something can’t explain how they do it. That’s why we often hear “just be yourself” or “just be confident”. They don’t realize they’ve become very good by doing a lot of practice over the years, mostly since younger age. Others say they look natural when they do it, their conversation flows smooth and feel organic.

The game basically has 2 combos; the inner and the outer game. They’re the whole package. The inner game talks about your character or personality traits; being confident, having charisma/aura, outcome independency, fun and easy going, able to read the room, active listening, etc etc.

While the outer game talks about the conversation and seduction methods, they consist of stages that need to be escalated, need to be pulled and pushed: flirting, teasing, bantering, shit tests, stepping back, breaking touch barrier, etc. Generally speaking, even a normal conversation also has this kinda rhythm. Unfortunately most people are not aware of this routine. Even when you try to break them down, more often than not, it would sound too technical/robotic.

MineDesperate2920 · 2026-07-27T21:18:23+00:00

Yes it’s the vibe is what matters more than anything so they aren’t wrong.

Problem is most of your friends are naturals and have no actual idea why they’re good so they say be confident. You’ll have to learn how to be confindent to do it too. The looks matter less than u think tho

Title	Confidence
Author	Street-Insurance-107
Upvotes	6
Comments	11
Date	July 27, 2026 1:34 AM UTC (1 day ago)
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