Tinder - what do I say after ice breaker? How to improve my text game?

Pleasant-Release-780 · 2022-10-30T10:36:03+00:00

I think you tried too fast. It should make women more comfortable and secure, practice their humor more. The idea was good, but you didn't know how to drive yourself. Your second conversation was the worst.

anti-Griefer · 2022-10-30T11:11:05+00:00

okay I would change this "heyy I saw u like u the zoo, maybe we should go together sometime hehe, when are u free"

to -> "heyy I'm going to visit the science museum this afternoon, care to join me?"

also

my tip

use ur insta as a portfolio, have some pics of u doing wild shit, like going to parties, show u have excitement in ur life. show u have friends and very subtle show that u have a good body (if u want to show that off) for example, a pic of u at the beach/in a pool. instead of u shirtless in the bathroom

c3988a47f435 · 2022-10-30T10:05:12+00:00

The second conversation was interesting, she was trying to make a joke because you've started with a random joke

nalik95 · 2022-10-30T11:12:35+00:00

The wedding convo....you should start off with convos like you're already married or in a relationship if you want to go down that way...it gives her a chance to join in on the convo.

Something like, "I thought we both agreed we were gonna work on the marriage, not make tinder accounts." Then lead the convo to wherever you want.

Check out my post history for something similar.

MajorWookie · 2022-10-31T01:30:20+00:00

Get off dating apps completely.

Approach women irl.

hailskins84 · 2022-10-30T13:07:40+00:00

Read the profile and find some obscure thing in the end of it to comment on or ask her about. It shows your read her profile and I doubt alot of people actually do that. It worked a lot of the time when I used to do it

g3wb3r · 2022-10-30T18:37:45+00:00

Doing too much .. trying to impress .. will dry the pussy

AssistTemporary8422 · 2022-10-31T06:57:55+00:00

hey You have captivating smile : ) ... alright all is set. Wedding next week? ... but we should have our first date first, when it’s alright with you? : )

You are coming off as very needy giving her compliments and joking about wanting to marry her. Just be chill and ask her about something on her profile.

you see we we understand each other almost without words, and you what interesting have to say? : )

Grammar issues, and trying to make a stranger think of something interesting is putting too much on them and they will just chat with someone else.

[her]: it’s the middle of the night <it’s 9:30 am>

I took it as polite F off and stopped pursuing

Maybe she just likes to sleep in. Definitely shoot her another message.

free this weekend? We can go to zoo to check what these poor fellas are locked up for<calling back to her bio “let’s go together to a zoo”> ... no worries, what days you are free?

You asked her out way too quick. Gotta text more before doing that.

And lastly, what should I do if girl doesn’t respond to my copy and paste message, ‘zarapata’ for example. Do I just try again with normal message or leave them?

No, you start with a normal message. Most people won't know what to say when they see zarapata in their inbox. Give them something that is easy to respond to.

Sweet_Wedding8856 · 2022-10-30T13:37:47+00:00

Dude, you need to build a relationship first. You're rushing straight to going on a date. Instead, you should find out more about her first, share information about yourself, so that she has a more intimate connection with you. This could easily take a couple of days

Icy_Rub1839 · 2022-10-30T18:01:08+00:00

I usually say "Hey ..., you seem interesting". This usually brings about a response.

Don't compliment their appearance. It's absurd.

bcool_returns · 2022-10-30T15:52:01+00:00

Conv 1.

You're too sold. Already talking about "weddings" and her "captivating smile." No playful challenges. No building comfort. Just 0-100. You're just another guy, already ready to move mountains for her based on the superficial. You also ask her out in a passive and tepid way "... when it's alright for you ; )"

Conv 2.

Your interpretation of this conversation is wrong. Unlike the first conversation, at least you try to get her to qualify: "and you what interesting have to say? : )" The problem is it's too broad and she's not invested yet. You do not have enough social capital yet. However, she is still responding and sent 2 messages back to back which gave you plenty of content. So get off that one thread and play on what she's saying "lol it's it's broad daylight, silly "haha #grandma" etc

Conv 3. the cringiest

Same 0-100 issue. Two compliments back to back. No rapport. No challenging. No emotional connection. Just asking her out.

MayhemReignsTV · 2022-10-30T10:03:43+00:00

Content of the conversation wasn’t too bad but it was too long, IMO. It’s tinder. You should be talking about tonight or later today. Not a week or several days down the road. They will lose interest by then. There is a very low signal to noise ratio for women on tinder. And try to avoid mentioning the tattoos so fast. Women get compliments on those all the time and from what some tell me, they hate it because that’s what every guy comments on. Which goes against the general idea that you want to at least be a little bit original. Other than that, I don’t see any serious issues here but think about the now, not the weekend, when it comes to Tinder.

PuroPincheGains · 2022-10-31T08:07:36+00:00

Conv 1. You should have left it at "wedding next week" and waited for a response. The first date thing could have come up in a few more messages, but it was too soon, the double text is needy, and you undermined your own joke.

Conv 2. I think the whole thing is bad, don't open like that. Nothing wrong with saying next though.

Conv 3. Basically negging. Most girls won't respond well to that, but some with validation issues might. That's usually not the goal.

You've got the right idea. Open, banter, ask on a date pretty fast to eliminate time wasters. Make your banter phase just a bit longer to build some rapport. Try this:

Open, wait for response.
Finish the joke or whatever, then comment on something they said in their profile or some picture they have to show you paid attention and are genuinely interested. For example, "How long did it take you to do that hike?"
Stir the conversation towards a date, "How many dates will we have to go on before you take me there?"
Officially ask. Include the day, time, and location. Tuesdays and Thursdays are good days to ask because people are usually free these days. Hot girls often have weekend plans, and will often choose a night with their friends over a date with a rando. But there's nothing wrong with a weekend date. A nice, cozy little bar works well. So do picnics around brunch time.
"Send me your number in case we need to get in touch before then." Text her in a few minutes so she has your number, "Hey soandso, it's that cute guy you met on Tinder."
Text her the morning of the date, something non-chalant to make sure she's still down. She likely won't show up if you don't communicate in some way that your still on.

You get one double text. If at any point she stops responding, click the gif button and send a meme. It might reignite the conversation. If no response, next. The captivating smile line is fine. Otherwise pick something cute from r/Tinder and roll with it. I can send you some lines over PM if you reach out, I don't want my shit to end up as canned lines lol

EnglishChap1 · 2022-10-30T15:36:40+00:00

Email me at [email protected] and I’ll coach you on it.

Title	Tinder - what do I say after ice breaker? How to improve my text game?
Author	ItsMango
Upvotes	37
Comments	21
Date	October 30, 2022 9:10 AM UTC (3 years ago)
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