So I’ve been doing online dating for a while now but I wanted to start talking to girls in real life, since I encounter so many attractive girls throughout my day (the grocery store, the gym, the park, bar/restaurants, etc.)

This used to terrify me, especially doing this sober in the middle of the day. However, I had some success this week and somehow I wasn’t even nervous.

First was at the grocery store. I noticed this really cute blonde girl who smelled amazing walk by a couple times. Then I noticed she came up to the self checkout right next to mine. Wanted to say something but didn’t know what, just knew that I had to do something.

We both got done at the same time and we’re walking to the parking lot. Suddenly the wind blows her receipt out of her bag and goes directly past me, and she turns around. I said “sorry I couldn’t get it in time” and she laughed and said don’t worry it’s not worth it. I started chatting with her, asked her name and asked her about one of the new nearby restaurants. Then I just said “me and you should go sometime” and she smiled and said “sure do you want my number?” Her body language and everything about her was saying she was just waiting for me to ask.

Then a couple days later I was walking at our local park after my workout. I noticed a girl in front of me walking her dog. As I walked by, her dog started to bark at me, so then I smiled and asked what her dog’s name is. She told me, then we started walking together and made small talk (do you come here often? What do you do for work? Etc.). After a few minutes of chatting and feeling like it’s going well, I asked if she wanted to get a drink sometime. She smiled and said that’s sweet but she has a boyfriend.

I simply told her no problem at all, and surprisingly she still wanted to walk/talk with me. She said that I’m really nice and she’d like to be friends. We exchanged IGs, and told me it was nice to meet me and gave me a hug. Messaged back and forth on insta later on.

Some takeaways:

Both of these girls were really attractive, like 8/10. And the most attractive girls in the vicinity I was in. Don’t let a girl’s looks intimidate you. I think naturally when we see a really attractive girl (not just cute) we assume she’s going to be mean or not interested since so many guys are going after her. That was not the case at all, as these two girls were very sweet and open.

On both of these occasions, I just got done at the gym, in my workout clothes and did not look my best. I didn’t let this deter me, and it didn’t seem to matter to these two, since I was confident and respectful.

Both of these girls seemed to be impressed that I was able to easily walk up to them and start a conversation. The first girl texted me and said “I don’t think I have ever had a guy approach me at a grocery store”. The second one said something along the lines of how it’s great that I can just make conversation with someone, and how she loves to meet new people.

Having an “event” occur when you are in the same vicinity makes it so much easier to initiate (like the receipt flying towards me, or her dog barking at me). You can still approach without this, but it feels more natural when this happens.

I hope this helps whoever is reading this!