I wanted to share a small victory

Substantial_Smell_72 · 2021-06-08T17:59:55+00:00

I think the key to your success in that particular situation was that you kept the conversation casual without too many expectations. Keep that same vibe maybe just get her number not go straight to asking her out for drinks. I think you can be successful in any setting given the right context.

GracieFairmont86 · 2021-06-08T18:06:31+00:00

"Hey, did you go to my high school and have Mr. So and So for chemistry?"

This is what u did right. You found innocent pretext to interact. This makes you not creepy. No need for a fat wallet or dashingly good looks, as long as a person got something relevant to say and some basic social skills, there is no such thing as a place where talking to women is wrong or off limits.

Exception: certain nurses at happy hour. Idc if me or my homeboys ain't their type, we just there to chill, but good grief to go out of their way to treat anybody that dont fall within their exact specifications like garbage is a bit much.

Smasher9155 · 2021-06-08T18:40:14+00:00

That would've been a major victory for me, I'm proud of ya man, u probably didn't even break a sweat by the sounds of it 😎

MasterTeacher123 · 2021-06-08T16:39:05+00:00

I’ve said for a decade, There is no place that’s “off limits” to approach women. Women have smashed guys who hit on them in the line at McDonald’s. The gym is no different. You like a girl you hit on and approach her. If she says no move on to the next chick.

TheOffice_Account · 2021-06-08T21:10:48+00:00

"Hey, did you go to my high school and have Mr. So and So for chemistry?" She replied yes, and that she had noticed me too and also thought I looked familiar. She was incredibly nice to me, smiled a lot and even asked me questions like where do I work, etc. I told her I will see her around, and then left.

I think you're missing half the lesson to take away from this. One is yes, you gotta cold approach. The other is that if you have a common connection from somewhere else, that is almost like a warm approach. It's happened with me where I've met someone and gone, "Weren't you at this event...?" or "Were you also friends with ...?" and if there is even a tiny connection, that builds the story in her head of a small world, and how you two were destined to be 😒

Some people love that Disney narrative - that is what you just provided her!

kareesi · 2021-06-08T21:54:05+00:00

When girls say that they go to the gym to workout and not be bothered by creeps, they mean they don’t want to be explicitly hit on, given unsolicited advice, or talked down to/patronized. You did none of these things, which makes you not a creep.

It’s totally fine to have a normal friendly conversation with girls at the gym, which is what you did. As a woman who regularly spends a lot of time lifting, I think that building rapport with no expectations before asking out a woman at the gym out is much more likely to be successful than cold approaching and asking for her number or asking her on a date off the bat.

Classicjammer · 2021-06-08T23:54:48+00:00

I think by not “hitting on her” you drastically up’d your chances that one day where you might hit on her.

Actually I think you could pull it off in the future if you keep being friendly and casually see if she wants to get a shake or something after working out one day and just keep the focus light and fun. Eventually, you’ll both get to where you’ll wonder why your doing this and hopefully y’all can start actually dating. The foundation would be strong at that point and you might actually set up something nice for yourself!

LarfleezePlz · 2021-06-08T20:49:34+00:00

As a rule I’ve never approached a woman at her place of work or the gym, maybe I should start giving it a try

lil_patrick2004 · 2021-06-08T18:19:11+00:00

a small step in the right direction

Kommoncents1 · 2021-06-08T21:30:15+00:00

Love this - it isn’t always about getting the number or setting up a date. If you know you’re going to see them again, building rapport can be a powerful way to increase your percentage of closing.

RealDrugDealer · 2021-06-08T21:49:16+00:00

That’s a good step. Now it won’t be weird if you strike up a real convo

sciencenerd22 · 2021-06-09T08:56:47+00:00

I mean as a general rule of thumb if you talk to women like they’re human beings rather than sexual objects things tend to go well. The problem is that 99% of the time when men approach women at the gym they make it clear their motivation was about her body and her looks which is a really gross feeling when you just wanna exercise and not feel like you have to worry about being ogled. Talking to women about normal things like you did is good and there’s nothing wrong with that. Just treat women like people and then you most likely won’t be perceived as a creep.

alexminne · 2021-06-09T00:34:00+00:00

This is actually a very solid approach OP. I have found it best to make a connection, have a few small conversations and make acquaintance before asking for her number or a date.

Title should say “big victory”.

life_is_sadd · 2021-06-08T21:47:48+00:00

Don't forget to update us

Brutal-Black · 2021-06-08T22:32:59+00:00

That’s the start of seduction

bls65 · 2021-06-08T22:48:44+00:00

That's awesome man, it gets easier with practice.

BadMawma · 2021-06-08T23:30:21+00:00

One step at a time! Especially you know you’ll see her again! Slow and easy. I think it was perfect!

heckler5111 · 2021-06-09T00:31:35+00:00

Good one ya brotha!!!

Spank-Scorpio · 2021-06-09T02:20:32+00:00

Quick advice if you get to take her out for drinks: let her know that you like her. It doesn't need to be romatically or a "meant to be" thing, but do it, or you'll get a ticket to her friendzone.

L-K-G · 2021-06-09T03:00:47+00:00

Ayyyyy that's my boy.

LakersAreTerrible25 · 2021-06-09T03:36:11+00:00

Well you did the right thing. If you want quality women who take care of their bodies and/or have shit going for them, then gym, school and the street are the only places to find them. You ain't gunna find them in a club or concert. But if you take initiative like you have, you'll get quality women. Whereas dating apps and clubs are full of ran through girls who no one else wants

andreecook · 2021-06-09T05:37:38+00:00

Hey bro, I had a similar story but a girl who worked at another shop in the mall. I had a great chat with her first time only like 5-10 mins, was kicking myself I didn’t ask for her number, I don’t think she was flirting with me but I just enjoyed chatting to her plus she was fine as helllll haha. Anyway next time I went in, what I did was I said, some friends and I are going for drinks and you should come? I won’t ask for your number but can I offer you mine?” She basically cut me off by enthusiastically saying “I’d love to!” and I gave her my number and she texted me that night, unfortunately we didn’t end up going out but it was really great feeling and can’t take away that it happened! Not sure if I’m offering any advice but my situation is similar to yours and you might be able to take something from this as a success story! Remember man, doesn’t really matter too much how you ask her out, if she wants to she will say yes!

CenaSmackDown · 2021-06-09T06:16:41+00:00

One time I hit on a chick while stretching and she worked at a bar nearby. I got a free beer but it was busy so no time to flirt with her. But yea most chicks at the gym are super hot but few opportunities.

BBDE692005 · 2021-06-09T03:33:47+00:00

Great job, I have always found that the best way to get in with a girl, is to not try to get in with that girl. Or at least, not to be appearing to try to. Just leave some bread crumbs. Let them do the work. Keep us posted!

Fragmented79 · 2021-06-09T08:19:52+00:00

Keep us posted. Congrats on the good interaction. This inspires me.

PurposeFew1363 · 2021-06-09T10:31:36+00:00

When update?

VaalesteXD · 2021-06-09T12:16:58+00:00

Good job king 👑

Vogue2185 · 2021-06-09T12:19:18+00:00

The fact that you kept it casual was a G move. Now she will look for you at the gym whenever she goes in… just make sure you keep a routine and go at the same time daily (so she’ll know what time you usually go in) at least for a week and acknowledge her every time you cross paths. Put in a good workout, don’t go overboard where you look like you are struggling). Keep it light maybe even just a nod and a smile. Then change up the routine for like a day or two (go at a different time in the day). She will look for you on that day or two and probably be the one to approach you. Give it a day or two after your MIA days to approach her if she hasn’t approached.

JakePaulAssaultedMe · 2021-06-09T14:37:42+00:00

Yea... some of us are way too ugly to do this without getting the cops called on us.

I've been going to the gym for 4 years and can say with confidence that I've never had a girl show interest in me, in fact, only the complete opposite.

Being ugly is pretty brutal. Will to live slips little by little every day.

HKoekii · 2021-06-09T06:45:07+00:00

You could have flirted a little bit, to stick in her mind a bit more. It would have helped for the next step.

lupoman999 · 2021-06-09T08:13:05+00:00

It's OK not asking for her number, u need to ignore her so she will chase you because you will not be like the other guys... Trust me

STD-Tyler · 2021-06-09T08:58:42+00:00

That's the point of having a good instagram. No one will you "no" if you ask for it.

Title	I wanted to share a small victory
Author	lust4lyf3
Upvotes	692
Comments	72
Date	June 8, 2021 4:18 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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