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BorisIsGoneSon1 · 2022-09-23T13:11:52+00:00

In my opinion, saying ‘where’s my invite’ was probably a casual response without much thought behind it.

Truth is, people are busy, and people suck. The older I get, the more I put my time and effort into the handful of close friends I have, as those are the ones that matter. The flakes will disappear out your life and they won’t even think about you. It’s just life unfortunately

Grappleheart · 2022-09-23T13:25:13+00:00

Hey man in my opinion I think it is your fault but because you have such low standards for female friendships that you let women get away with acting poorly with you.

For example if any of your male friends pulled the stunts these women pulled would they still be your friends? Likely not. Because you have a standard and have kept that standard with your male friends. You have also likely shown the ability to give them value.

For the women on the other hand, the fact that they even got an invitation when they do not speak with you regularly and ask you to do shit for them without reciprocating shows you hold them to a lower standard friendship wise.

This problem is very common amoung men. They will often deal with shitty female friends simply for the opportunity to be near women at all. Men often are not given this treatment unless they are very attractive.

My action plan for you would be to carefully evaluate these relationships and then cut out the ones that do not serve you. Stop texting or talking to them. Some of them will approach you to ask why did you stop and ask you to continue. Do not unless they show their value with actions. You might lose most if not all your female friendships doing this but it will stop you from being anyone's pawn.

pierre_WaP · 2022-09-23T13:01:14+00:00

Women (and people in general) can be very busy. I’ve had both men and women flake out on me. Honestly, if I had my bday party tomorrow I’m not sure who would come. Please don’t take it personally mate. You aren’t alone in getting ghosted by mates. It’s not that they don’t care; they are just lazy/busy. Here’s a tip: don’t emotionally invest in everyone you meet, especially flaky mates.

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-09-23T12:31:52+00:00

i've got it op. it's so fucking weird that it's just women. the way i see it, there's only three possibilities.

1) nearly all women are shit friends and people you should look down on.

2) all these girls who sort of know you are working together to co-ordinate being slightly mean on your birthday for shits and giggles.

3) it's you. youre the problem. that weird attitude towards women that drips off this post exists and it's repelling women who don't want to be around that shit.

i'm thinking 1 personally.

montanalombardy · 2022-09-23T12:10:01+00:00

Why do you care so much about whether someone shows up to your party or not?

These are adult people. They have different plans and priorities. If you are organizing a hangout of 10+ people some will inevitably have other plans or priorities and won't show up.

Guys don't do this? Well maybe you don't notice because you don't care if a regular dude doesn't show up as opposed to when a cute girl soesn't show up.

Why are you so stuck up on whether other people invite you out? If you like someone, invite them. Be a leader.

Honestly your post comes off as needy and insecure. You have so many friends which means you must be a fun and cool person. So you are doing something right. But don't sabotage yourself with this insecurity.

RedditsOlderBrah · 2022-09-23T11:54:43+00:00

according to my research....

yes. as fellow human beings women can in fact be shitty friends too. stop calling them your friends. they're not your friends.

rumsticks · 2022-09-23T13:10:01+00:00

These woman aren’t respecting you at all and you have to create boundaries otherwise they’ll walk all over you.

mjornir · 2022-09-23T13:40:26+00:00

I think you’re taking their attendance far too personally. They aren’t your close friends for sure, so I would match their energy and withdraw a little. Invite them to parties or whatever every now and then, but put the onus on them to make the effort to see you one on one if they want it that bad. IMO if you have to tell them, it’s a one sided friendship and not worth putting in the energy. And you can quit any time

This is the nature of friendships in general tbh. Most people, women and men, are fake and flaky

One other thing-you can usually get better attendance if you send invites well ahead of time, like weeks out in advance. Claim their schedule early lol

NakedlyStripped · 2022-09-23T16:57:16+00:00

Are these friends? Or acquaintances? They seem to be acting more like an acquaintance.

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