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buttpants_r_r · 2022-06-30T03:44:13+00:00

GO TO THERAPY and stop identifying with your pain. Plenty have men have lived and died and had it worse than you.

What you should focus on right now is your mental health, when it comes to women you should focus on finding some as friends and becoming vulnerable with them. You have to start from wherever you are and I don't recommend you focus on seduction right now.

revente · 2022-06-30T02:31:35+00:00

Do you think I will regret this choice?

Yup. You're already resenting yourself.

I feel like I keep thinking about the past and feeling behind. I can't catch up, that ship has sailed.

Nope.

Murfdigidy · 2022-06-30T03:22:13+00:00

I see alot of these posts and I get it, but guys who post this need to start at square one, which is the foundation of all seduction.. Self esteem, self worth... If you don't have this then forget any advice anything about this sub. Without self esteem and confidence you are toast when it comes to women.

But there's hope... Try books like the Six pillars of self esteem and how to make friends and influence people. You hear guys say all the time on this sub, start with your self first, work that out and the rest is gravy.

2022-06-30T04:09:37+00:00

My thoughts is you should speak with a therapist about this.

Mammoth-Procedure660 · 2022-06-30T02:24:17+00:00

Brother you are in a position that countless men wish they could be in, the Incels wish they could have women compliment and throw themselves at them, shit I’m no ladies man, only been with 7, took allloooot of effort, and I myself wish I could be in your position where women are giving me compliments and numbers, it’s about perspective and confidence my friend

Stujitsu2 · 2022-06-30T02:25:50+00:00

Set small obtainable goals. And build step by step. I doubt you really want to give up, you are just fed up. What is a success you have had no matter how minor?

2022-06-30T03:04:13+00:00

Anti anxiety medication maybe? I’m thinking about it myself. I also panic when I see obvious choosing signals, like they’re trying to trick me or something.

You used to word fear a lot though so that may be something to look into.

beachhouse404 · 2022-06-30T04:09:15+00:00

Don’t give up! Just find something else to focus on in the meantime

Spetsnaz1776 · 2022-06-30T02:36:00+00:00

you watch now that you dont care women will be all over you watch...

Visualize_ · 2022-06-30T03:28:25+00:00

I hate this sub sometimes. Like I know I shouldn't be annoyed because everyone's journey is different and some people just need encouragement but this post is so annoying because it sounds like he doesn't even have it that bad, and OP never actually gave any effort to get out of his comfort zone. Like cry me a fucking river with this loser mentality. Virgin at 20, 25 or even 30? Who the fuck cares, the past is the past you can cry about it all you want but your tears aren't going to magically build you a time machine to change the past. The only thing that matters is how you decide what you are going to do about it and you are wasting time feeling sorry for yourself. No one wants to join your pity party, get the fuck up and start achieving your goals. If you have 0 goals, start making some

Erbium-Oxide · 2022-06-30T04:41:03+00:00

Therapy. Try it.

Of all the living beings to whom your genes can be traced back, 100% reproduced. You should be no less capable.

5ive_Rivers · 2022-06-30T02:32:15+00:00

Consider doing some research about how to raise your testosterone levels naturally, and with supplements, before you quit the chase.

Electronic-Thanks-84 · 2022-06-30T03:09:43+00:00

If you want to give up on it then do it until you think you’re ready.

HaroldtheTrashPanda · 2022-06-30T03:21:49+00:00

Maybe go for a below average girl that would be happy to have the quirks and all?

saulisdating · 2022-06-30T05:45:17+00:00

Ok so first of all, if you’re getting so much attention from women but reject everything because you think they won’t want to be with you due to your many issues… THEN JUST BE COMPLETELY UPFRONT AND HONEST WITH THEM ABOUT IT.

Tell them you think they are cute/nice/attractive/whatever and that you’d like to try and date them but you have these things going on with your health that you think may affect the relationship. Just don’t say ANYTHING about your job/living situation and all these external things because that’ll just sound pathetic and those things can be changed pretty quickly. Only be upfront with the health/mental issues and in a honest/vulnerable kind of way, not a self-pitying/depressive/loathsome kind of way.

And you know what will happen? Sure some women will say “no thanks” and some will turn heel and run away… but a few will ACCEPT YOU and will want to see where things lead. And that will be a load off your shoulder.

So, stop being a self-pitying pussy and be honest and vulnerable to get some pussy :) This will work well in your case.

Also go get therapy.

Mundane-Currency5088 · 2022-06-30T05:51:51+00:00

This is beyond reddit. You Need to see a the right therapist for you so you can decide/prioritize things for yourself. To be honest most people feel the same way you do in regards to the fear they will not meet the right person. Most people do not feel they may not want a person. The answer to this is more interaction with people. If you cannot or will not..then that is your answer. My brother wanted to be able to tolerate touch but he really couldn't. You need to know for yourself if it's the person or you not accepting touch

SPENCEandtonic · 2022-06-30T06:25:31+00:00

Hey OP, you've got quite a few things going on, don't you?

I think it's best to take baby steps.

First of all, the ship hasn't sailed. You are the youngest you are ever going to be today. Time is made up and age is only relevant. 50 year olds think 30 year olds are so young. You're not even 30 yet. You have your whole life ahead of you. That being said, you can die tomorrow and you only get to live this life once, as far as we know, so let's get this ball rolling.

Therapy is probably important. Maybe you aren't seeing the right therapist. It's important to try to understand WHY you hate touch, and fluids, and have a fear of STDs. The reality is, OP, nothing is as bad as we imagine it to be in our minds. Your lack of experience is many areas of your life have most likely caused you to start being fearful of things you haven't experienced first hand. The only way to fix this is to start putting yourself out there little by little. Vulnerability is key here. If your resist, it will persist. So try new things but start small.

You might have some physical and mental limitations and it's going to be important for you to embrace this life you were dealt instead of using it as an excuse. Maybe what makes you unique is the fact that you have lived through so many of these limitations. Maybe these first 30 years of your life are what are going to set you up to be so much more empathetic and passionate in your next 30.

Don't try to be something you are not. Accept who you are, and if you aren't happy with where you are at, it's time to write down what you want out of this life and what will fulfill you. Once you've made that list, make small changes to help get you there.

Fear is something we all have inside of us, but some people run from it and some people embrace it and attack it head on. It's this attack that helps us gain self confidence.

OP, I know you have it in you to make the changes to fulfill yourself.

blizzardboy · 2022-06-30T06:35:30+00:00

Stop thinking so much about that there is nothing wrong with you. It’s one of these things that get stuck in your head and drives you nuts. There is something wrong with me, I am inadequate. Afraid of people. That is the most important thing about other people, they aren’t you. They don’t have all these bullshit judgements about you . Get out of your own way. Therapy is good, friends are better. At least stop worrying about women, that is the whole point of relationships, to not worry. If you’re upset about relationships and you aren’t in a relationship, that is a problem. If you think there might be something wrong, but you can’t figure out what, then it’s nothing. If you’re afraid people may judge you for x, y, z, etc, then concentrate you energy on improving those things. You are using the idea of other people to judge yourself. That is a good thing, use that information to plan who you want to be. At least, don’t be afraid, everyone is the same. People know what that’s like, and will help you. Leave room for things to improve and they will . Good luck

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