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CocoBabeNYC · 2022-06-26T11:17:50+00:00

You need to change your story. Basically brainwash yourself until you believe it. Take all the things that you don't like about you and turn them into positives. You need to read your new story out loud every single day especially in the mornings and just before bed. Read it and visualize it. Do this for 30-40 days straight until it becomes a habit.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2022-06-26T09:05:40+00:00

Every mind is wired differently. You may hate vanilla ice cream, someone else may love it. Somebody else may think you are more attractive than you believe you are.

I wouldn't bank on this logic. It would be much more effective to make some changes and do some work until you are happy with yourself, because ultimately the only person whose opinion of yourself actually matters is you.

ChoiceTank · 2022-06-26T09:14:44+00:00

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ozzzy83 · 2022-06-26T09:35:12+00:00

Assume attraction...someone read Bacon's book, haha. Well, how you can attract if you don't believe in yourself? Most of the time, the right personality traits will top any good looking guys without desirable traits.

Tactical_INTJ · 2022-06-26T09:26:38+00:00

I'm here before this thread gets political.

Liberaler · 2022-06-26T10:47:39+00:00

Assume the next best thing: Assume, that you don't know, whether she is attracted to you. Then you have to make a move to find it out.

ArmitageShanks69 · 2022-06-26T13:39:14+00:00

The ability to assume such things without any evidence or feedback is a consequence of delusion. I think you have to be way outside your head to hold these unfounded beliefs, whereas if you are introspective you can never delude yourself.

ChoiceTank · 2022-06-26T13:41:32+00:00

You could try and fake it, or you could actually work on your self improvement to become attractive. Its not just about physical appearance, Attraction its related to the whole package. You might get a few dates faking it, but you can't keep faking it forever, girls will notice the gap beetween your words and your intentions, and will inevitably lead into a toxic relationship, if any.

What you could do instead is start working out constantly, work on your mental health, meditate, journal your life, be grateful for what you have reached and never stop.

I was feeling the same, I always felt flawed, like I didn't have anything going for me really. Gym taught me that some things can be leveled up, both your body and your mind. And then starting to cold approach became a lot easier, attracting girls too. You can't fake it forever, its just a band aid solution. But you can start loving yourself

And please don't listen to these black pill weirdos

Canadian-Seductioner · 2022-06-26T14:59:14+00:00

No, don't fake it till you make it. Focus on making yourself attractive first.

Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-06-26T15:48:52+00:00

It’s called confidence and not giving af

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