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[–][deleted] 38 points39 points40 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
First understand that texting is a sign of avoidance. It has its place in a busy society, but people that rely on it too much are really avoiding an actual conversation. If you really care about this woman, make time to call her. From my own experience, I believe over-texting cost me someone that I was really into.
[–]Independent-Welder-3 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Girl like you to call them instead of texting, but gotta watch her working hour though
[–]bigblokthot 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I personally send voice notes cause I feel as if conveys the message better & creates intimacy.
[–]THE-NUMB 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Will try 😅
[–]TheRealKronorium 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
ladies love a good voice note
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[–]mrblack-- 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
The main goal of texting should really be to set up dates
[–]ikeepon 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
This. Keep it vague, flirty, and funny. The goal is always to meet up and date. Rarely discuss anything serious over text, especially if you’re not already banging.
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
What does your flirting look like?
[–]mrblack-- 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don’t flirt
[–]ikeepon 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Flirting is just teasing and using (slight) sexual innuendo. You have to be vulnerable and do it, both in person and over text, otherwise things will never progress.
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
What kind of sexual innuendo is appropriate? How slight do you make it?
[–]ikeepon 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Any and all sexual innuendo is. Slight meaning you’re not using graphic, overt language. Instead, you suggest and let her interpret.
Suppose she says or texts ‘it’s so hot in my apartment.’ You can say ‘I get hot and bothered around you too 😊’, or similar, then see how she reacts and follow along. Basically, the game is to use her words and put a sexual spin on them using suggestion.
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for an actual example!
[–]libert-y 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
"How can I get better at <any skills here>"
The answer for all this questions is simple.
By practicing!, failing is part of the process.
Trust the process.
[–]VegeterianOsu 11 points12 points13 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I got ghosted over 50 times, i learned that i suck at texting...
[–]Zeref2350 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly my issue. In person people love me, over text they ghost me
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How do you know what did and didn't work?
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[–]epimpstyle 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right!
[–]Archyblackcat 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
By texting more women and learning from your mistakes
[–]nikitodoggy 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Good advice. But, how do you know when making a mistake? If it isn’t extremely obvious and the other person does not tell you, it is not possible. And if you could detect when you make a mistake, perhaps you wouldn’t make it beforehand, isn’t it?
[–]bigblokthot 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Overthinking it. You gradually become more comfortable and maneuver the conversation in the direction u want it to take. It’s a skill sorta
If it's a skill then you can do better than "you'll gradually maneuver the convo the way you want it to". I don't know how to do that
[–]KinxTheTimeStripper 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
How do you figure out what your mistakes were
[–]Archyblackcat 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
By failing a lot of times and the analyzing what you think you should do differently next time and with enough trial and error then you learn.. if you came to Reddit looking for a shortcut then the truth is there isn’t.. could take a few months to a couple of years for you to master this.. try learning to analyze your self first and then you’ll learn to analyze your interactions and fix them for the future
The aNaLyZiNg
What kinds of things did you notice for yourself? What did your trial and error look like?
I want to see some details because I think simplifying it this much is BS and it's unexplainable
[–]cutiepienew 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You should use texting as a method to set up a date. Not for conversations and building attraction you need to do that in person
[–]mrblack-- 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
You don’t have to be good at texting
Good morning, hope you have a productive day
You send that text or a variation of it you don’t have to reply for the whole day. N if she complains just say “I know, but I make up for it in others ways”
She says how? You say “I’ll show you, when are you free?” Set up the date then go back to not texting her…
[–]THE-NUMB 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Why would she meet that one guy when she is free, first one have to give a reason to make her meet you
[–]mrblack-- -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Because you’re a man and she’s a woman who want to speak to each other... Do you have to “give her a reason” to complain about not texting enough? No.
If you are giving any other reason than wanting to see you, you’re going down the wrong path
[–]THE-NUMB 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
There are already plenty of dicks in her DM..
[–]mrblack-- 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Bro. Exactly.
If she doesn’t want to see you, you “giving her a reason to” is making things unbalanced/ un-reciprocal
It’s okay bro, you’re enough! Not the fancy dinner, the fun event or your crazy stories… you, are enough just the way she is enough.
If she says you have to give her a reason, she doesn’t like you.
[–]THE-NUMB 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You didn't get it lala. I'm saying why would she meet only you and not other when she is free..
The same reason she would moan about you not texting her… Because she likes you…?
[–]Zeref2350 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've gotten several replies, and they're all good in their own ways. I really appreciate it everyone
[–]premedchunsa 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’m assuming you specifically mean flirting through text. In that case, one of the best ways you could flirt is through playful teasing or playing with her imagination. Important thing is though, you have to be the same guy you are online, in person as well or things get awkward real quick.
[–]burncushlikewood 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
https://youtu.be/7OZebLs6v7o
[–]Myfavnikki 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
By being funny
It isn't that you don't like sexting you are just afraid of it, that's it..!
[–]undauntedcurious 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Assume that she's your crush and she tells you that She have a boyfriend. Then it will be the real you in front of her. And you won't think about what to say next. Everything will flow like a water
[–]Total_Obligation_371 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Texting makes almost no real difference in the overall scheme of things. What's the actual problem you're asking about? Approached and got a number but then it falls? Number from online then they flake? We need to know the specific thing you're talking about so we can diagnose what the problem is.
[–]hagakurejunkie 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Check out "Playing with Fire" on Youtube. Dude is really great at it.
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