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[–]Baby_willie 24 points25 points26 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Start seeing someone else. It’ll distract you amongst other things.
[–]Consistent_Time_2489 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I will def be doing that, i use way to much energy on this girl. I was just looking for an advice on how to fully win over girls like this, who push away when you act clingy even in the smallest bit
[–]ftdrain 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thats her prerrogative, theres no "winning girls over", your only job is to set up dates, have fun and hook up. If you push this relationship is doomed to fail, its a tale as old as time
[–]Consistent_Time_2489 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ill keep that in mind
[–]AyWhatITIS 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You can't negotiate sexual attraction. Move on. Evolution hates needy men. Needy men = coward= dead lineage. Women are the vulnerable sex. Fuck another girl and don't look back honestly not worth jt
[–]Consistent_Time_2489 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
We are having sex tho, so the sexual attraction is there. Im talking about love in specific, how to make her feelings stronger and make her fall in love with you fully, especially when she is like that.
[–]premedchunsa 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Bro, there’s the problem. You’re dependent on her for sex. That’s why you come off needy. Realize that life offers more than this and enjoy it in other ways.
[–]Consistent_Time_2489 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Im not, dont even care about the sex that much. I have feelings for her
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Why would you want to be with someone where you have to constantly monitor your behavior? Being needy is unattractive to anyone, so if you’re truly being needy you should be aware of that. But if she constantly is pulling away, that sounds like hell.
Ability to be yourself in a relationship is paramount
[–]Consistent_Time_2489 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I was very needy in the past and i have become much more aware of it in the past years and use push/pull among other things. She is not constantly pulling away, but i can sense that when it gets a bit too serious she pushes herself away a little. And yeah, you are right, i need to be myself also, its honestly so stressfull having to constantly think about how i act, what i text, etc, etc just to not show too much interest, I just honestly have caught feelings too hard and that is what keeps me there and have hope that in time it can develop into a relationship.
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you’re consistently monitoring yourself, or worrying about making the smallest wrong move, you’re with the wrong person. It’s an emotional prison. Nobody is worth sacrificing your personal freedom to be yourself
[–]daivaras24 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You dont. Stay away from stoxic girls like that
[–]mrblack-- 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You don’t, move on
[–]ksmith11011 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Tell her how you feel as honestly as you can in two sentences or less. Let her get pushed away. Then you can walk away knowing you did everything you could.
She on the other hand will beat herself up for sabotaging. After she’s had some time to process she likely will start coming after you. Could take a few weeks or a couple months. That doesn’t mean she’ll be ready to date, you could end up in the same revolving pattern with her.
You really are always going to have a bad time though if you’re trying to get one specific woman. It has to be a numbers game to some extent, you must be willing to walk and pursue other options.
[–]I_am_the_guru_ 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
How would yiu handle a hot potato, you would drop it right? Drop her and find someone that will appreciate the attention that you provide.
[–]ZachMoore88 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This can only end in disaster if you keep it up.
[–]revente 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
But are you fucking her or just 'platonic dating'?
[–]Consistent_Time_2489 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Fucking her
[–]OpenComparison 4 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Girls like this like real life shit.
So best advice is to not text her too much, be busy/ see other people/ hobbies, and just show her a good time in real life when you do hang out
For sure!
[–]CompetitionFair7686 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Are you even making out and having sex because if not then you aren’t really dating her
We are making out and having sex yes
[–]CompetitionFair7686 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
In that case, then you need to keep doing that, and not talk at all about making things official ever until she is the one who brings it up first.
It’s very important that she doesn’t feel like you want an actual relationship before she does.
Don’t tell her how you feel, don’t be needy, don’t try to make things serious, until she is the one who has asked you first to be together tor asks you “what are we”.
Not following this advice would likely result in her feeling pressured and feeling like you want to lock her down, which will only push her further away.
You want to be the one who cares less here, not the one who cares most or the one who is more interested in developing things.
You need to be patient and not be an open book about what you want, don’t try to give hints that you want something serious, don’t over text, don’t apologise, don’t resent her, just be patient or you will fuck up.
[–]Consistent_Time_2489 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That is some serious advice right there. Thank you so much.
[–]Healthy_Working3911 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If y'all aren't dating see other women make her carve your attention not hers asshole rule 1 on 1
[–]nxdu_ -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol you drop her.
[–]caesarfecit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
When a girl is into you, she won't make things difficult.
When a girl is neutral, she'll only be difficult when you push her boundaries.
When a girl is unreceptive and/or playing games, her boundaries will be a moving target and any expression of neediness will be exploited, rather than overlooked.
Do the math, OP. This one ain't worth your time. Spare yourself the pain of chasing girls who just ain't that into you and just ain't worth it.
You're hating this game because it's one you won't win and aren't meant to win. She's telling you to run.
[–]MooseWhiskers 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ignore her completely. Move on, find someone worth it. If she interacts with you, be polite and confident, and then leave the conversation as quickly as possible. Be done with her.
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