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[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
99% of women aren’t that easy
Huh? Single women go on dates with men who ask them out. That's how it works.
Approach. Flirt. Ask out.
[–]Blackgod_Kurokami -4 points-3 points-2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I thought it was obvious with my title but guess I’ll be more direct. Going on a date is a complete waste of time for me. We will not get along that well and thus she will not want sex even if I’m great looking
[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds like your social skills need significant improvement. What would you say is the biggest problem?
[–]DonjiDonji 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It sounds like you just need to get your self out there in more social settings in general.
You're not going to be able to skip the date step, its part of the process. No guy walks up to women, and their like "omg, you're so sexy, fuck me right here on the spot"
Try joining some social classes that also build up your physical attributes, like a jiu-jitsu class. You'll see a huge boost in confidence.
Try meeting some women as friends and take them out to lunch, and just get comfortable conversating with the opposite sex.
[–]_Broatmeal_ 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Chemistry is defined as a complex emotional & physiological interaction between two people. It cannot simply be ‘created’. When it comes around, you’ll know.
Also what are you even asking?
[–]electrisio 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’m working on this too, I’m getting better. Things that you should look at;
[–]Blackgod_Kurokami 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I’ve tried stuff like this
[–]electrisio 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you're phrasing "tried stuff like this" I presume it hasn't worked?
If I had to guess number 1 is your problem (and the problem for many people who feel this way). I suspect this because I am struggling with it despite doing the other stuff. This is the issue for me because when I was younger I was very interested in people (although very shy) and then something changed. Bad life experiences are possibly the cause. Anyone in this situation is probably relatively isolated, so the only option is to force yourself to engage with new people and see if you can have some good experiences that reignites the fire.
[–]norwegiandoggo 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Can you be more specific? What do you mean by chemistry and how do you know you have zero chemistry?
[–]Blackgod_Kurokami -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Getting along with people
[–]norwegiandoggo 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That doesn't tell me anything. It would be easier for me to help you if you describe a specific situation
[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do you spend a lot of time with people in a typical week?
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
By working on your social skills
[–]hookedonfonicsmunky 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i'm "decent" looking with a good body and i've been on dates that, from a birds eye view would make you think i could bang all of them and all of a sudden it goes from a visual 100 chemistry to a negative number hahah, like "let me guess you saw a fucking little nose hair that scared you off" hahahaha
[–]MrWolffman 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I wonder if this is my issue aswell
[–]Billyjeanisntmylover 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think men are under the impression we can create chemistry but idk if that's the case anymore. I was with a girl ln and she explained chemistry between two people is unexplained and it's based on natural attraction. I guess you can seduce a woman to have sex but she'll eventually leave you for someone she has natural attraction for but hey let's talk about it.
[–]HowToStud 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
You can’t really create chemistry but you can create attraction.
I value my time and would rather find a girl who has mid to high interest in me than raise a girls interest. However if you do wish to raise a girls interest (a time consuming process) you have to basically charm your way into her pants.
She’s made a perception about you from the first time she saw you. (This is why tattoos are so effective, they portray you’re a bad boy.) You change her perception of you through flirting, eye contact, confident body language and being smooooth. Some girls are a lost cause and just won’t ever change their perception.
If they think you’re hot its much easier, you can say anything and they’ll laugh and flirt. Looks get you in the door, personality does the rest.
[–]atomant88 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
dont use incel terminology
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