She's become cold, distant, less responsive (but still responding)

nevertextgoodnight · 2022-04-12T14:21:17+00:00

Hey bro

Don't text.

Let's look at this logically. She had demonstrated she is willing to text you first without hesitation in the past. So by you thinking you need to reach out, is simply the "illusion of action" What you really want is for things to be how they were, so you think taking more and more action will make it so. But it won't.

Your instincts are correct. Sit back, do your thing, let it go for now. Like we said, she is able and willing to hit you up whenever she feels like it and we know this as fact

Sometimes girls will let themselves get in over their head. They rush in with a guy then at a couple weeks of intensity they get some doubts maybe not even about you, but about how they've been acting.

Then the last thing they want is that guy thinking she's his gf now because they spent so much time together. So that's why you sit back. You're not that guy

stanthemilkman88 · 2022-04-12T14:05:21+00:00

You know what would help. If you were dating multiple women. If she saw you with another woman I'm sure that'll have an effect.

But yeah, don't contact here unless she initiates. Use 2/3s rule. Text 2 for everything 3 texts you send. Just a trick to stop getting you emotionally invested. Or appear desperate with no other options, which is unattractive. Frame it differently. She is drifting away but that's OK because I'm a switched on guy that can find someone else if I want to.

Liberaler · 2022-04-12T13:48:55+00:00

Switching from texting to voice calls or voice messages could be a game changer, as there would be more connection and empathy and less room for missunderstandings.

imahoaxandacoach · 2022-04-12T13:43:43+00:00

At this point, dont do anything. If she is losing (or lost) interest or is playing games the best course of action is to give her space, let her come to you.

Ask yourself, do you really want or deserve a lukewarm response? No. She probably felt thay you got too attached too quickly. I would focus on myself and game other women, if she comes back good, if she doesnt good too. Life is too short to deal with indifferent people.

Keep your head up man!

klippklar · 2022-04-12T14:22:51+00:00

You've become too invested. Give her space. Chasing NEVER pays off. If she wants to come back she will if not it sucks but she won't. Some things are out of our hands but it's no use to beat yourself up about it. Look for other options.

IronCapable · 2022-04-12T15:53:56+00:00

I swear every time I hear a girl say "I had a fun" they usually disappear after that.

Whether it's after a first date or whatever.

throwaway9991p · 2022-04-12T13:45:31+00:00

Don't text again

Frozen_Babies69 · 2022-04-12T15:25:01+00:00

Dude I’m in the same place. Only difference is I’m the fast texter and she has told me multiple times she hates social media and texting. It’s a weird place to be in. Chick also wanted space because she just got out of a 3 year relationship. So I feel your pain.

Lakeyute · 2022-04-12T17:11:44+00:00

The sex probably wasn’t very good.

That’s the thing about sex, it either makes her want you more if it’s good or marks the beginning of the end if it’s not.

Either way, you need to see if she’s interested in fucking again. You’ve already done it so you don’t even gotta beat around the bush. Just ask her when he’s coming back for round 2.

Her answer to that will tell you everything you need to hear.

ethanwa79 · 2022-04-12T17:30:05+00:00

If you love someone, set them free. If they come back they're yours; if they don't they never were.

Don't text anymore and see if she reaches out. You'll get your answer within 72 hours. Set a timer and walk away.

Title	She's become cold, distant, less responsive (but still responding)
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Date	April 12, 2022 1:38 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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