Girls ghosted me, after 6 months she asked to hang out twice

Billyjeanisntmylover · 2022-03-06T21:45:55+00:00

Set the date but have low expectations.

hustle_sk · 2022-03-06T23:27:37+00:00

My opinion Shes just playing with you. She had no intentions before and most likely will flake on you this time. But hey there's a small chance she follows through with it. Low expectations like others have said.

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2022-03-06T22:20:34+00:00

Make other plans as well, keep her as an option, the plan C..

Ps: i’d invite her over and make sure she brings the wine.

eszibit · 2022-03-07T00:45:36+00:00

So she ghosted you and you still talk to her? Dude.. have a fucking back bone and cut her out. Maybe she'll learn something from it. Otherwise the only thing she'll learn is that guys are morons and she can do anything to them and they will still take her back. Fuck low expectations, stand her up and block her

Altruistic_Field2134 · 2022-03-07T00:26:20+00:00

She just got done with a relationship is playing the field by hitting up all her old numbers. I would not set high expectations, set the date at your place or somewhere nearby that makes it SUPER easy for you. In addition, have other plans ready because the chances of her falling through with these plans are not very high.

condog118 · 2022-03-07T04:24:20+00:00

Frankly don't give her a second chance, she ghosted you the first time, odds are she'll do it again. Don't let her see what she's missing out on just let her wonder.

MikeAlphaGolf · 2022-03-07T00:58:39+00:00

These things will happen regularly when you fake enough girls. If you can let someone go with no hard feeling, then it’s much easier to come back in a casual way. Calling her out for ghosting is not the right play. It’s part of the game. Outcome independence is the goal.

Khryn_Tzu-TTV · 2022-03-07T04:30:22+00:00

Nope. Not a chance in hell would I give her a second thought. NEXT with no regrets on this one.

adsq93 · 2022-03-07T06:17:43+00:00

Man I was in your shoes like a year ago. She used to ghost me so much. Cancelled dates very last minute with extremely shitty excuses, etc.

She reappered out of the blue this year and we already did a lot of stuff minus sex. Now she went back to ghosting mode.

So to all of this I say, don't lose your sleep over her. Be very direct with what you want with her and preferably focus on just getting sex out of her because thats probably the only thing she wants.

SerjEpic · 2022-03-07T04:35:43+00:00

Don't deal with her. She purposefully already ghosted, do you think she actually respects you? If she cared, she would show you through actions.

I had a case where my date last week slept through our breakfast date. When she read my confirmation text she sent 8 messages apologizing. She also immediately tried to set a new one and mentioned that she would pay.

If this was the type of girl that you were dealing with then yeah go in, but if it isn't just back away and find someone that respects you.

zertsetzung · 2022-03-07T04:50:16+00:00

"I told her something like "you are in debth with me, because of a missed call""

Dont do that. It makes it seem like you are trying to indirectly shaming her for ghosting you. Which looks desperate.

Not all ghosts are mal-intentioned (no pun intended).

LyncWolf · 2022-03-07T01:42:28+00:00

Easy come easy go. The easier they come in our life the easier they leave, and vice-versa. Had this experience before too, first time we talked was way back 2021, spent some time together then she ghosted me. Then after a year we started talking again, then now I ghosted her. No hard feelings, that’s just the way it is. My advice is make her an option, because for sure you are an option to her too. And of course, just enjoy the wave.

Rook2135 · 2022-03-07T08:01:23+00:00

I say you ghost her

Hornyonion · 2022-03-07T08:08:28+00:00

Date on your own terms.

Come to my house to pick me up
We go eat to a place I choose

No expectations. No clowning trying to entertain her.

ALostGawd · 2022-03-07T08:09:03+00:00

use protection. have fun sex. no emotional ties. never waste money on her.

2022-03-07T08:31:13+00:00

"You're in DEBTH with me"

No-Veterinarian4627 · 2022-03-06T21:49:14+00:00

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knowthetruthh · 2022-03-07T02:10:19+00:00

The fact that she can hit up up six months later and your remotely interested shows your thirst.

However, if you must meet this woman here is what you do:

Don't arrange a date, but invite her to something you are already doing. Example, I am at XYZ bar this Thursday, from at 7:00 pm to 8:00 pm. Come through.

If she ghosts/ no shows/ cancels, no worries, I am doing what I was doing and I would already be cold approaching women at that venue. Even if she texts or calls later wanting to try again, I politely decline all offers and wish her well.

WagerGoat · 2022-03-07T04:12:02+00:00

Tbh I personally wouldn’t even deal with her but you can keep her as a option for pleasure if all goes well. Wouldn’t take her seriously

livingtribunal99 · 2022-03-07T07:42:01+00:00

dont be surprised if she ghosts you again lol

cronasminate · 2022-03-07T08:12:03+00:00

I personally would bring up the fact that she stood you up for a date. That's a way bigger deal than ghosting you tbh since she essentially had you move your schedule and did not care to cancel. That's a pretty big disrespect for me since she thought you time was worthless. I wouldn't care if she's dtf.

When you brought it up, she showed an attitude. I would make things clear first that I don't like it when someone expect me to commit my time but doesn't commit their or have the decency to cancel.

If she gets upset by such a reasonable demand then she can go fuck herself.

KeepItTidyZA · 2022-03-07T09:00:15+00:00

Doesn't matter when you go, as long as you go.

do it

j_tothemoon · 2022-03-07T09:11:30+00:00

You were her plan C or D when she ghosted you.

Now you are a plan A?

I would go anyway, out of respect, keeping my expectations low.

smind893 · 2022-03-07T12:47:40+00:00

Women have options. Many options.

If she reaches out to you that means she's out of options and chose you.

Like a bomb ready to explode, you have seconds to Crack the code or let it blow up in your face.

Never hesitate. Enjoy it for what it is. Try to close as most likely this is your only shot anyway

You're welcome

RedEyeBlackEye1 · 2022-03-07T12:47:58+00:00

HAVE YOU IMPROVED ANY? CHANGED HAIR/FACIAL HAIR? LOST WEIGHT/BUILT MUSCLE? BETTER CLOTHES? MORE MONEY? BEEN SEEN WITH HOTTER CHICKS?

If you answered yes to 2 or more of these, that's your answer. Play it cool, set the date, be outcome independent and maintain self amusement (but DONT act like a goofball).

Good luck, homie.

smoothoperator37 · 2022-03-07T14:51:49+00:00

Why would you even go on that date. Go do something else, she wasted her chance with you.

Original-Pudding-939 · 2022-03-07T15:57:31+00:00

Surgical wham bam.. don’t waste time on questions..

recyclablebanthas · 2022-03-09T23:53:52+00:00

In the future, posts like this belong on AskSeddit, not Seddit. (See Rule #1)

But also consider:

1

So, there is this 8/10 girl that ghosted on me in august 2021, after we set a date.

Context matters and you've given none about what constitutes some of the most important parts of your interaction with this girl.

It's common for dudes coming here looking for advice too simply supply the results but nothing that led up to those results. Without the lead-up, it's going to be a bunch of people making stabs in the dark.

How did you meet her?
How did the conversation start? What exactly did the person opening say and do? How exactly did the person being opened respond?
What did you talk about in your first conversation?
How exactly did the date get set? What was it going to be? Where were you going to go?
How was the communication going just before she ghosted?

2

It wasn't tragic for me, actually I was pretty indifferent.

How did things actually go down? Did she ghost you or did she no show for the date?
Did she actually fail to communicate with you in any way about not having the date? Even though you share friends?
Did you really hear nothing through the grapevine about what was going on?

3

After 2 weeks we randomly met, because we are friends of friends. I told her something like "you are in debth with me, because of a missed call". At the moment she was a little angry, hurt or whatever.

It's just a weird comment to say that she's in debt to you. (Or did you say that she's dead to you? It's a little unclear.)

In any case, the comment comes off passive aggressive and wouldn't have helped your case at all.

4

After that we stopped talking for a while until a few days ago, when we randomly met again. Now she asked me twice to hang out for a coffee or somewhere else in the evening.

It could have been due to pandemic stuff that she cut things off last year.

In any case, if she's asked you out twice, then the issue isn't her anymore, it's why you're looking the gift horse in the mouth here.

**5*

In my opinion she wants to date again, have sex or whatever. Now I'm going to set a date probably in the weekend. What do you think?

If she's asked you out twice and you haven't already gone out with her, then the issue here is that you've rejected her at least once for some reason. Maybe twice if you haven't actually responded to the second time.

Which doesn't help you. Girls don't often ask guys out and they're going to feel the rejection more quickly than a guy would even.

So yeah, set something up if you're interested in this girl still. But do it soon, if you haven't already.

Title	Girls ghosted me, after 6 months she asked to hang out twice
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Date	March 6, 2022 9:43 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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