Maintaining Multiple Friends with Benefits

JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-27T06:11:40+00:00

You have to figure out how many hours in a week you have free to spend with women. Guys who claim to be dating 10 women at a time are full on liars and bullshitters. I dare you to do that with 3-4 women without going absolutely nuts and wanting to off yourself.

fockerjunior · 2022-01-27T04:16:34+00:00

just enjoy her company for that moment in time

Yesu777 · 2022-01-27T03:07:55+00:00

Don’t lie, be upfront about your intentions “Hoes in different area codes” keep a don’t ask don’t tell understanding

Shadow__Account · 2022-01-27T09:49:18+00:00

For me it’s usually 2-3 months of heaven and than things get complicated and emotionally heavy. Maybe I’m just not on that level, but I can’t see it really working in that dream scenario we all seem to have in our head. I think the balance will always tilt to one side, the sweet spot is where you really like each other and have some feelings but they are not strong yet, but in my experience it will always tip over and you will star favoring one girl and lose respect/ interest for the others, who will in turn cling to you more and again it becomes emotionally heavy because they will either ask you for exclusivity or end things if they are emotionally healthy and otherwise they’ll start manipulative shit like come over for sex and than don’t have sex with you and play games

dobbs1997 · 2022-01-27T10:58:37+00:00

Well there isn’t supposed to be any other aspect besides the sex when it comes to casual relationships, cause say you tell a woman you only want something casual and she’s cool with it too but then you start talking to her everyday, hanging out with her a lot doing non sexual things, then you’re actions aren’t going along with your words so then it’s gonna get confusing for both of you cause then you start to catch feelings..it’s best to keep it strictly sex at first, see them only once a week, text only to set up dates, & when/if you’re ready to take that girl to another level (such as dating her, no commitment yet) then you do that on your time..it’s easy to manage multiple fuck buddies when you’re actually doing just that, only fucking, cause there isn’t supposed to be all this extra shit with those dynamics, you can obviously talk & get to know her but going out & all that other stuff, nah..cause then she can get the wrong idea too if you do that, & also ya she’s supposed to be able to fuck other guys, what questions are gonna arise from that?

excentrik-art · 2022-01-27T12:04:05+00:00

The point is, this is ballance heavy kind of thing. If you provide too much "Friends" value, like having fun every day, talking long into the night, doing things for her very frequently, you fall into the friendzone. If you start providing lots of "Partnership" values, like emotional support, sharing secrets, no judgement, shared experiences, eventually one of you will fall in love. Even if you provide waaaay too good sex ( like her first squirt orgasm ), she might fall in this weird "love" where she is really needy of having sex with you all the time.

Night_Hawk1 · 2022-01-27T03:58:59+00:00

You have to provide immense value. Be fun, sexual, emotionally spiking, adventurous, leading, commanding, dominant. So much value that she doesn't care you are seeing other women. Women would rather share a leading winner than be stuck with an optionless loser. Maintain a carefree unattached but sexually magnetic lover frame, not a long term lovey commitment oriented frame. Be flirtatious and sexually escalating but not needy or desperate for sex (with multiple fwbs u shouldn't ever be. Be open about sex... Like in the way she would talk openly with her gfs at a Sunday brunch about the guy she saw last night. Demonstrate non judgemental feeling about her having sexual partners. She will feel free to open up to you that she's maybe into women. You can then introduce two of your gfs for a threesome. At one point I was dating 7 women at a time and they were all aware. Get really good at sex. They will introduce their gfs to you or bring them over for threesomes. Most were cool, some were needy and bratty about it. As long as I steered them towards the above, they would still come back, even while openly saying bs like they would want to wait until we were in a committed relationship. With the non judgemental frame, some will get boyfriends and will be finr staying friends. Keep doing you, don't chase and just wish them the best. They will come back asking about issues with their relationship. Offer value in understanding their overly needy, sexually inept, and judgemental man as you once were. As soon as the boyfriend gets too needy and clingy then they will come running back.

ipresentpresence · 2022-01-27T02:57:39+00:00

Bro I’m wondering this exact same thing. Idk how people do it.

Title	Maintaining Multiple Friends with Benefits
Author	constantine_king69
Upvotes	4
Comments	15
Date	January 27, 2022 1:50 AM UTC (4 years ago)
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