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Ieatgarnish88 · 2021-10-27T07:58:34+00:00

Say it. If it's what you want and he might too, but I'd rather get told no then sit with my feelings. And if he says no he probably won't want to lose what you do have. Good luck.

HughBeaumont500 · 2021-10-27T14:12:37+00:00

Tell him you just want to define what you are

He might just see it as a FWB thing and of that's not what you want, you'll need to address it. Or I dunno, maybe you're ok with it. In any case it's fine to seek clarification and to define what you are, so you can know

Jdaddyk07 · 2021-10-27T08:54:49+00:00

Well, do you want to be boyfriend/girlfriend?

Figure out what you want! And then ask for it. =)

PaqS18 · 2021-10-27T09:14:22+00:00

Some guys just like to have a girl who he isn’t really in love with, but loves to fuck and have some dates with. Sorta like a FWB. Talk to him about it whether he wants it serious or not

rewinder909 · 2021-10-27T09:50:52+00:00

If you wanted go for it, maybe he's afraid of rejection and doesn't want to ask. And if he says that he doesn't want to be in a relationship well he'd just saved you some time.

letmereaddamnit · 2021-10-27T13:44:05+00:00

If your dating aren’t you already boyfriend and girlfriend???

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2021-10-27T07:51:03+00:00

Maybe don’t say anything. It doesn’t need to be some grand announcement. Just let things develop organically, you’ll become bf+gf overtime if things keep up regardless

Neverendinglove1986 · 2021-10-27T08:34:54+00:00

Idk . To be honest all men sat that to every woman they meet

AelfredRex · 2021-10-27T12:22:54+00:00

Sounds like you already are.

tetrasaur_34 · 2021-10-27T15:16:02+00:00

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fastcarsandguitars18 · 2021-10-27T15:50:01+00:00

I would say don't rush for sure but it's been 2 months, after about 1 month I generally say you should have an idea whether you want to date or not. I would say you know are we together or not and if he's on the fence about it, I feel like he is just wasting your time and isn't serious about it

IJWSpls · 2021-10-27T17:15:12+00:00

Sounds like you already are serious. I think he didnt know how to react at the moment.

Just tell him you want to be his girlfriend! He is probably very happy and surprised to hear that. If not, you can make a decision based on that.

darkved · 2021-10-27T17:20:52+00:00

Speaking for myself until we have an explicit discussion to agree to monogamy I am potentially seeing other people so decide if thats something to address because its more concrete then a language descriptor that is open to interpretation

KyleTheKing24 · 2021-10-27T17:29:15+00:00

DO IT

mcmatt61265 · 2021-10-27T18:13:30+00:00

Coming from a guy who had a similar situation in which the girl said that that we weren't in a relationship but we're more than friends and had a situation where where I was trying to help out a female friend and it caused issues with the girl i was dating at the time. Then her saying I was basically her boyfriend and ending what we had. Definitely let him know what you want if you want to be boyfriend girlfriend then let him know. I know it would have help me if things were more clear

truthbomb999 · 2021-10-27T18:52:02+00:00

But we haven’t talked yet about being more serious and being boyfriend girlfriend.

2 months is nothing. You wait until he decides to elevate you to gf status. You can't get to know anyone that fast and a proper vetting is no less than 6 months and more likely 12-18

Should I say I want to be bf/gf or wait for him to ask??

Say nothing and enjoy the process

ncsengeee · 2021-10-27T19:42:06+00:00

Just ask him lol. Idk whether its a part of our culture or not but here in central-east Europe girls who have a little self-esteem would never ask first.

agnostic_nexus · 2021-10-27T19:45:01+00:00

Lol girl be sneaky n drop hints and be sus ?? Nah, just say or don't. Depends on the image you want. Get him to bring it up

letmereaddamnit · 2021-10-27T19:56:18+00:00

I'd say bring it up. I personally had no idea you were supposed to ask and I thought that it just kinda happened by itself lol

axe122 · 2021-10-27T20:32:25+00:00

A lot of girls would start a testing the waters by saying things like I’m keeping you, or I want to keep you. Sometimes they hug me hard and say mine. This all usually happened after sex.
At some point soon after they’d bring up exclusivity.

Frankjigga · 2021-10-27T21:11:11+00:00

I’d just go with it while being safe sex-wise. Just be friends and let life go where it may.

Stabbackqwert · 2021-10-27T21:23:37+00:00

hint at it. and then ask him.

TheLuckOfGatsby · 2021-10-27T21:42:23+00:00

you say it. guy leads interactions girl decides exclusivity (imo)

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