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[–]DroptopFab916 143 points144 points145 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Proud of you homie👏🏽, motivation for me to make my first approach
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good for you. i'm guessing the trick is making it a habit.
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[–][deleted] 36 points37 points38 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
If you dont know what to say after complementing her necklace its still hard.
I would complement her, she would thank me and i wouldnt know shit to say so i would stop the convo right after making it awkward as hell
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Thanks. So you didnt think "i have to neg, I have to push/pull" and i have to tease and be funny in the interaction ?
Cause i have to say, when i was a teenager i didnt have this anxiety. I somehow developed it and after i have started to read about seduction, i have been so in my head i cant do shit. Even when a girl is giving me a clear look that she wants me to approach her.
When I was 15 i havent talked to anybody about pulling girls, but i still got the girl i set my eye on, and did all the right shit and escalated at the right time and just did everything naturally. I wanna get to that stage again, before i knew about all these terms from PUA shit.
[–]artego 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I used to be like you. Natural when I was younger, then got into reading this stuff, went through the ‘in my head’ phase and then, after processing it all, went back to taking it easy, but with knowledge on my side.
Remember, it’s a toolbox. Keep it there and use the parts you need based on the conversation or interaction. The last thing you want is to initiate a convo and be all ‘should I neg now or in a few minutes?’! You got this
[–]Voltz_got_a_potato 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
how has your week been treating you?
tell me about yourself (proceed about yourself after she answers the request)
What makes you smile/what is it that you can do 10 hours straight and won't be tired at all? (most likely an answer what she is passionate about and then tell her about what you like to do)
"Really that sounds quite interesting! but with such interests I'm intrigued about your music taste, I personally love music and would like you to suggest to me few songs that you adore."
I know it till here but further on is pretty simple too, topics like astrology, about alcohols/coffee, etc. Haven't figured out when to drop the question to date but maybe it might be somewhere along the lines of "you seem pretty interesting, would you mind if I asked you out on a coffee date?" or something more appropriate than that since English isn't my first language. Hope this helps you out, maybe someone is generous enough to correct me and put us on the right path. Good luck!
[–]Bathroomrugman 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ask them what their favorite hobby is it how they like to spend their time. Then ask about different aspects of it if they seem open to talking. Remember to share a little about you
[–]frostedpandaa 36 points37 points38 points 4 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
omg, ahahahha same. I (F) had an eye for this guy in class cuz his voice is to die for. I decided to just go talk to him (via chat cuz we had online classes u know) and asked how's his day went yada yada yada and proceed to compliment his voice. I was not expecting him to enjoy the conversation until he asked me how was the final exam several weeks later (we were not talking that often cuz i was just mainly ask him about assignments :3) and from there we talked more and managed to get his IG and since then we have been talking every day and plan to meet up :D
girlssssss, if you can't stop thinking about your crush, it means you gotta get up, have some balls, talk to them! never try, never know!!
[–]frostedpandaa 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Awww 🥰
[–][deleted] 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I was clueless about women for years. Looking back, I missed a ton of opportunities with women that really wanted me.
I was clueless, and they couldn't be direct because of societies judgements on women. I had my tutor study a class she wasn't even taking, just to tutor me, and she wore a t-shirt with an equation across her chest, pointed at it, and I still didn't get it.
We both lost. So yeah, ask that dude, he'd probably love to. I missed out on a lot of chances.
[–]frostedpandaa 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Awww 🥺 but yea the society judgement. I feel it too like they see us badly if women like us make the first move but i believe it becomes normal nowadays and hopefully it will be better in future. Like screw gender roles or whatever it's called.
And some guys are just shy or scared of rejections too so thats why some of them just stay as secret admire lol sad. But isokay, we grow up, we learn and everything will be okay hopefully.
Xx
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I didn't know she was interested at all. I was shy, but would have asked her. And she was my tutor, so I didn't want to be inappropriate. I had women in college asking me if I needed a ride home, never got that one. Never understood what she meant when she said she isn't dtf after driving me home from a bar, took that literally and left.
My calc 1 tutor was the same. Tall, beautiful blonde that always came out and sat at my table, helped me for an hour and a half, every day. I just thought she was a really good tutor, but she didn't help anyone else while I was there. I asked her if she needed a hair tie when she was flirting one time, it kept getting in her face. I completely had no understanding.
I had beautiful women in my classes constantly running into me other places and just thought it was a coincidence. http://imgur.com/a/U8ZjlkK
I've been told I'm fairly attractive, I guess so, now that I look back on the amount of attention I received. Hard not to be bitter on wasted opportunity.
And yeah, women should be able to just ask dudes.
[–]Ordinary-Escape4146 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
"Have some balls" hahaha i know u mean it in other way but lol its sound so funny when girls say it
[–]frostedpandaa 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
guess I'm really the 'bruh' girl 😌😂
[–]Ordinary-Escape4146 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yup u give bruh vibes too..
[–]kriskringle19 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Funny thing, but the compliments about my voice are the ones I'll probably never forget, because it's such a surprising quality to notice in someone. My gf at the time was talking to her mom on the phone and I introduced myself for the first time. First thing her mom said was "ooooo he has a hot sounding voice _^ " Completely caught me off guard but it made me so happy !
Moral of the story- guys will always remember compliments because they aren't normalized in today's culture (unfortunately) But complimenting someone's voice is extra extra special because it's an innate feature that you never realize you have until it is pointed out. Everyone hates the sound of their own voice when playing back a recording, so a compliment regarding voice has the power to break a self-hating, self-destructive loop that you never realized you had.
[–]frostedpandaa 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Awww lovelyyyy 🥰
Rightt yess. He was surprised and happy when I compliment him cuz he said he never get those and insecure, he thought his voice was too deep.
Ahahhaha well, his voice was the thing that lead to where we are now tho so it's kinda unique and idk it's funny when I flashback the moments lol.
[–][deleted] 18 points19 points20 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Sometimes you have to go for it and fuck it.
[–]Shintaaaaaro 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
not literally fuck it, right?
[–]Pretend-Im-Funny 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
well you might "fuck" it in the future
[–]HisRoyalAwesomeness 17 points18 points19 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The best five words in the English language is “Fuck it, go for it”
[–]IllegalAlcoholic 14 points15 points16 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lmao introducing the neighbours got me dying. Good luck on your journey. Some days you gonna feel so much anxious during approach. It only takes one good interaction and you will be boomed for the day! Just keep doing it!!
[–]TheDynamicKing 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
now imagine finding that million dollar pussy, that pussy that gives you the drive to go handle business every single fucken day. the pussy you wake up next to and say God dam, i better get my ass hustling on this fine ass is going to leave me. whether it is in school or work, get your hustle on
[–]HotChilliWithButter 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even better if you can do it by yourself, and then get that pussy
[–]Early-Ad-4607 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This guy went super sayin after talking to a girl. Congrats bro
[–]FaithInStrangers94 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I can imagine him running over to a group of thug looking guys “Hey guy, big gulps huh? Alright!… well, cya later!”
[–]MagicGnome97 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
cool post, GO FOR IT
[–]terps222 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Man.... great post! I tell my little cousins how to approach, what to say to a girl etc... they look at me and say "uhhh why don't you do it?" I can't exactly say "cause im a lil bitch and pussy out last sec." lol I can relate to your message /supersaiyan. Words of encouragement for sure! I think I have approach anxiety... but once the ice is broken I can talk about anything for hours ..can keep yappin like a lil school girl lol jk. I approach then convenience myself..that her bf is around or she's married or some other bs. This post was refreshing ..soo thanks!
[–]Voltz_got_a_potato 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you want to be a bf/husband then trust me you have gotta give it a shot. I personally made 2 friends and have an average social proof in the class. But with the grace of bad luck, my university went into online studies and I'm again stuck in a situation where I came out of a few months ago. Go for it man, I have gained a little confidence and made more friends in a month of this semester than the whole of 2020.
[–]zsarmstrong 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had literally the same exact experience today except I was one on one with the girl waiting for my route to pull up for the bus. In short, I bitched out and didn't say a word to her. She even smiled at me lmao, I have no idea how I managed to do nothing. It is almost impressive how bad my social anxiety is.
Posts like these help with motivation, super happy for you, nail that coffee date man. You did the hard part already.
[–]DaydreamingMister 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Two key experiences in a guy's journey:
-Tasting a bit of success that bolsters confidence.
-Realizing that rejections do not actually cause life to be over.
[–]Able_Needleworker_18 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Had me a perfect opportunity the other evening at the beach, and definitely left it with not approaching. Every post of someone’s else success post helping me for my first time I do. 🙏🙏
[–]iknowhowtodothejaj 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My favourite post on this sub rn
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
The campus shuttle is the best place to meet girls I swear
[–]CalvinHobb3s 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's always come down to a numbers game.
[–]Hexagrvmm 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Saving this to come back to it when I need this reminder🖤
[–]FaithInStrangers94 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Brother last time I got a girls number I went super beast mode and started walking into strangers houses as well - one of them happened to be her house and her dad chased me off with a baseball bat but now she’s my wife so it all worked out
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Lol exactly, people fail to realize that if you’re butt ass ugly this shit won’t work.
[–]smurf44smut 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Let us know how it goes!!
[–]TheSunshineMan -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Next time get the phone number.
Your meeting percentage will go up.
[–]EleoraHC -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Tldr: Man learns how to small talk
Congrats really 😂
[–]thebitchwhosurvived -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Murder 2 never give me that chance and that chance will stop talking to you after two decades and he just police you to the point that you have nothing left to live for
[–]Interesting_Jello417 -3 points-2 points-1 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t think, Just Trust Your Instincts. Also, key to talking to people is to just notice something in the present moment!
[–]Ordinary-Escape4146 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I am big nub in socializing with peoples. I hardly have talk with girls in my collage because i am so much shy but your post motivated me to atleast do something atleast say hi to classmates, thanks buddy. I was just wondering what she said when u complimented on her necklace. When i talking with anyone i just say hii and then my mind goes blank, i can't think of any topic to talk and its so frustrating..
[–]hj41 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How to do this in Norway?
[–]TheSunshineMan 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just like anywhere else in the world.
Go have a human to human conversation.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s great and all but if you’re ugly, you’re not gonna get the same results.
[–]wagsyman 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good job, I relate with the sudden extrovertednes, once you get that social ball rolling it keeps rolling for the rest of the day a bit
Damn I admire your boldness. Great example of sometimes we just get in our own heads too much and at the end of the day whether we like it or not we just have to get out of our damn heads and go for it it's really that simple.
[–]jankybusinessman 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Op so confident he’s doing B&Es lol congrats, don’t be discouraged by the flakes in the future just need to up the numbers 👌👌
[–]FatalAttraction88 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right on man. Not just for the ladies aspect but you became someone you respected and feeling confident is not only intoxicating but sobering also. A strong balance. I had to tell my ego/pride/critique that I’m going to be me and not overthink anything cuz no one else is- now I’ve become someone who can build on this social skill set and learn a lot from many people, while also partaking in the dating scene when I’m ready for companionship etc. great post op
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