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scrubzor · 2013-05-23T20:13:00+00:00

When I was active on OkCupid, I would usually LEAVE MY NUMBER after her second response. On my 3rd message I would say something short in response to her along with a "you seem pretty cool, why don't you shoot me a text and we can chat more. My number is xxx-xxx-xxxx". This worked for me ALL THE TIME. Push for a text convo SOONER RATHER THAN LATER. I'm a busy guy and I don't want to deal with all the back and forth of okcupid online messages. Text me on my phone, I do this sorta thing all the time, its no big deal. If I left my number, they usually would text me, either immediately or the next day. Then from there its all about your text game. Building a connection and increasing attraction through text. Leaving the number just screams of non-neediness, displaying your indifference to wether or not she contacts you. It puts the interaction on the frame of her having to CHASE YOU. Also this will force you to up your text game. I've had women from OkCupid actively trying to schedule meet ups with me after texting with them for a bit. And many I've hooked up with on the first date. Good text game can lead to great expectations in her mind for the first date.

OH. one more thing. Moving to text conversations will help you screen these girls further! I've texted with many girls where the conversation ended up going stale and flat. And there were several that I couldn't wait to meet. Use texting to your advantage to decide wether or not the girl is really worth moving forward to a first date with. I can't tell you how many times I've met up with random girls from OKC and it ended up a complete dud. You can get a pretty good sense from text if its someone you will hit it off with.

ace_bandit · 2013-05-23T20:29:03+00:00

Here's a post I wrote on online game

squattincassanova3 · 2013-05-24T00:35:02+00:00

Be really aesthetic and bullshit

http://i.imgur.com/o0NGch5.png

makemedoit · 2013-05-24T06:24:41+00:00

I went through a period where I went out every weekend (every fri sat sun) and went on dates during the week. I would only go on okc dates if I couldn't line up my regular game dates that week.

Essentially, OKC is only to supplement your in person game. With that said, I just tried A LOT of different approaches, the hook is really the angle of your profile. I would change it up all the time to make it more or less an anti-profile-profile. Make sure you don't have a profile that's standard or boring.

Alot of the other folks have said this: get to the text-phone faster. That's really the key. Because you send 5 messages back and forth you could have messaged other people and gotten more opportunities. Also, I would not waste time to message->text message->phone convo too long. What was successful for me was that I would get them on the phone, have a short convo, only to decide where we're meeting up in person. Don't waste my time, I won't waste your time type of deal. Never set up a dinner or a long encounter, meet at the book store, a coffee shot, tea places, short sweet nice to meet you go on your way if you don't like them

In person you can run your normal game. If for whatever reason, the girl was a total bitch or whatever not my type (girls who have 20 pounds over the profile pic) then I would just make that encounter research to better my okc profile or okc 'theory' Most of these girls get like a million messages and they end up not being able to check all the messages. So you may think you're being 'original' but she's getting 80 messages in a few hours (esp the upper echelon girls) so I would approach it with reckless abandon...

I messaged a girl who looked like one of the suicide girls with tattoos all over and I said something along the lines of, "I would probably never date a girl with full sleeves but I wonder if I can borrow you just for one night so that I can take you to meet my parents, and we can tell them you're pregnant, it's my baby, and we're going to keep it."

"I want to see my mom shit a brick"

I had fun writing that message, she bit the bait, and she was one of the successes that came out of okc.

2013-05-24T11:57:16+00:00

I like this guide

http://www.reddit.com/r/seddit/comments/1ekw5w/general_online_dating_advice/

kingcal · 2013-05-24T04:20:27+00:00

I try to have a number within 5-6 messages back and forth. In the same number, suggest getting together to do something.

I've never had a girl turn down my request for her number. A lot of it has to do with how you open the conversation and maintain the interaction.

1vibe · 2013-05-24T07:49:12+00:00

Two weeks ago I simply asked out 6 hotter OKC's on a specific (cool) date as a first message.

1 replied with a yes. A model/actress. K-close.

Ask ASAP, IMHO.

ladyofthelakes · 2013-05-24T07:26:31+00:00

In my experience, the women aren't worth the trouble.

Just think about it. Even 7s get approached semi regularly in the "real world". Women resort to online dating because something about them seems wrong to other guys, and guys do not approach them for those faults (and for good reason). Sure, I've even seen hot girls who wrote a quality profile. It's too bad there was a red light saying she gets hit on all the time and she probably wont reply. And 100 percent of the time those kindof girls never did..

You will never find a quality girl online.

2013-05-23T21:16:04+00:00

I would say for overall ability you're better off going out and talking to girls in person. Your failures will be more tangible and thus easier to correct.

Of course, this is coming from someone who has done poorly with online dating. My roommate did much better than me and by that I mean he put his dick into a lot of crazy.

FrasierandNiles · 2013-05-23T21:40:57+00:00

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ladyofthelakes · 2013-05-23T20:16:21+00:00

I never known anyone to have luck with dating sites. I also heard people lie so much on these things. I'd rather try my luck the old fashoined way.

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