Seeing a girl with alot of jealous guys orbiting. How to handle?

funksteeez · 2015-08-22T15:16:16+00:00

Don't even ask her about it at all, a dominant person knows they are dominant over others. If you ask her about the other guys, you'll show her that you are weak and you actually see the other guys as competition. A dominant person isn't worried about others because he already has the prize and has better things to think about.

cpcallen · 2015-08-22T15:48:05+00:00

Comprehensive list of all situations in which it is worth worrying about, thinking about, or talking about other people who are interested in the person you're seeing:

The person you're seeing brings it up.

Staycharmin · 2015-08-22T14:51:42+00:00

My advice goes deep.. You said the other guys don't know right?

By talking about it with her it may seem like its a concern. I wouldn't talk about it. The best things in life are when you know something others don't, and you can affect how that information gets known to people.
With that said.. She thinks ur dominant, shits goin good.. What you need to do is get her in a position where the other guys will see u. When they do, be MR dominant alpha, ALL DAY. kino ur girl, tell her how amazing she is and ask the room, "isn't she amazing guys"... "Im a lucky man". Claim ur motherfuckin territory.
When those assholes see how alpha you are and how sewn you've got this, they'll fade into obscurity and you never had to directly approach or tell them shit. Lets be real, if these cats had a crush on her and never hit on her or got her to where you have, what makes u think she'll drop u for them now that ur alpha n dominant n handling ur biz.
Chicks love "leaders of men" and with that said, its also a way for u to show her that attribute in you, while her weekling friends sit by and watch her swoon over u cuz ur so much cooler than them.

Instead of the direct approach, this indirect amog'ing will shoot you to the top of the charts and other men will fall back. The key is to keep up the secret sauce.. Dont think too much about what else, DO WHATS BEEN WORKING!

bolxrex · 2015-08-23T01:30:05+00:00

Her best friend was/is (idk) in love with her

He isn't a best friend.

bprimed · 2015-08-23T20:57:14+00:00

I wouldn't be the one to bring this up.

She's with you. Not with them. Being "worried" about other guys who she's not with - she chose you, not them - will come across as insecure.

It's something I simply wouldn't worry about. Have the mindset of abundance. You are the prize. She's not going to throw you away for them. And if she does, she's not as great as you though.

And to your personal friend - any friend worth his salt wouldn't be eyeing your girl. I would slowly start to remove him from your social circle. I would NEVER hit on or flirt with any of my friends' girls with the intentions of getting with them.

nebulous_slut · 2015-08-23T03:46:51+00:00

Oooh this is a complicated one! Without knowing more detail it's really hard to say. I genuinely believe that honesty is the best policy and you should be allowed to have your feelings on the subject, but what is the outcome you want to obtain from her by bringing it up? I'm not sensing any goal except for satisfying your curiosity. Y'all haven't had an exclusivity talk, from what it sounds like - and I wouldn't mention what her friends said specifically, but if you want to have that talk in of itself, then you should. But asking specifically about other dudes seems like trouble.

As someone who has been in this girl's shoes, the guys that I were most drawn to during this period of multiple dating/possibilities were the ones that had little concern about the others in my life, because they were confident in themselves and had other things going on in their life besides me that they were happy about. They were their own person, that depended little on me, and that made them already complete and attractive in my eyes.

Scorproyale · 2015-08-23T06:47:45+00:00

I think Funksteez sums it up well, but I'll add one thing I've found very important in such matters and pretty much everywhere else. He's telling you to ACTUALLY not care about the orbiters. If you're good at fooling yourself, often you can just pretend to not care, and all the while it's eating at you and affecting your relationship indirectly. You need to work on getting your mind in a place where you truly don't mind instead of pretending you don't care. Fake it till you make it only works if the faking it is moving you closer to the making it.

--Anthony-- · 2015-08-22T19:52:37+00:00

Here's the best course of action; don't do anything.

All you need to do is focus your attention on her and if you keep doing like you've done, that'll do. The fact that they might be jealous of you just adds value, but if you mention this, you show preoccupation, which is BAD, it means you're insecure about the situation, insecurity-- which is a flaw she hasn't seen so far in you, right? That alone will lead her away from you.

When she's ready, if she likes you enough, she will make it public that she is with you, no need for you to do it.

*That'll

2015-08-22T17:53:17+00:00

I don't even need to read your post. Simply pretend the other guys don't exist. You should be seeing multiple other women and not be giving the slightest shred of a fuck about other dudes.

GravityUnicorn · 2015-08-22T14:23:03+00:00

Casually discuss the topic. Once you are both on the same page express that it's not actively affecting you and that your focus is you and her. Which it should be. If these people begin to interfere and cause trouble, then you grab the situation by the reigns and handle it. Let's face it, some people will always want what you have. That's just life. It's how we handle this information that makes us the dominant deserving one.

Title	Seeing a girl with alot of jealous guys orbiting. How to handle?
Author	FlashAttack
Upvotes	53
Comments	47
Date	August 22, 2015 12:37 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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