Who else reads all the stuff here, along with the books but...

Turlast · 2017-04-11T18:42:29+00:00

This is why overloading on info is terrible.

failatsomething · 2017-04-11T16:39:12+00:00

Can't relate. I racked up hundreds of approaches with no results and no game before I read anything on the subject.

When I then read stuff, I was able to relate it to my experiences, see what I was doing wrong, and take suggestions to alter my approach. I didn't have the anxiety anymore. I didn't fear rejection.

I recommend that approach. Even though you won't get the results you've read about.

Put the books and articles aside for a while until you've had some experiences approaching women even if disaster fail is the result.

That's one of the problems with books and online resources, especially on this subject - they promise a magic pill, but this shit takes a long time to develop the skill and mindsets to be good with women.

One thing at a time. First - having the courage to approach women.

SyrusDrake · 2017-04-11T18:45:25+00:00

I'm partially guilty of that. Haven't really read a ton of books but a lot of web content and I certainly have a lot more theoretical than practical experience.
In my defense, most of the stuff dealing with approach anxiety assumes issues I don't have and is silent or brief on the ones I do have. I'm currently working on the latter with a therapist and before that's at least partially resolved, I won't be approaching anyone.

Carlitos96 · 2017-04-11T19:19:13+00:00

Think of it as a skill.

Reading and taking advice is good,but the only way to become better is to practice.

Monkey_Jerk · 2017-04-11T23:34:45+00:00

Yeah I read and watched videos for about 6-7 years only doing a few half assed indirect club approaches. Now I rarely look at the stuff and have embraced the hermit life.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-04-12T04:11:42+00:00

How would the answer to this question help you?

forseti_ · 2017-04-12T13:32:27+00:00

Okay, here is a game:

Your first task is to ask 5 girls for the time. (easy)
The next 5 girls you ask for a direction. (still easy)
The next 5 girls you ask for a direction and have a short conversation afterwards. (make it like 1-3 minutes, if it goes longer you get extra points)
The next 5 girls: direction, compliment, short conversation. (Point out something that you really like about her - I like your shoes. You have a good taste.) after 2 or 3 minutes you tell her, "You are cool, but I really have to go. Give me your phone number and we can text later."

These are 20 girls. It's totally doable. Report back tomorrow what went well, what was shit and if you maybe got a phone number.

Think about this like a video game at first you are shit and you suck, but soon you will become better. Also don't be discuraged by being shit. Many girls are really into guys who are shy but still muster up the currage to talk to them.

Okay, stop reading now. Do your hair put on some good clothes and go out on the steet. Now! You have 30 minutes from now then you need to ask the first girl for the time.

2017-04-12T15:03:01+00:00

I would say 90% of the people that read all of the info and watch all of the videos are introverts. That means they gather all of the data they can before they make a move...sometimes the info gathering never reaches their check off line. You just have to push yourself to do it.

Snazzy_Serval · 2017-04-12T15:28:28+00:00

I'm in the same boat.

I've read tons of material and watched videos, but in the end I have no intention of cold approaching girls.

There has to be another way that doesn't involve going up to random girls.

What happened to meeting girls in class, at work, at the gym or anything else?

UoAPUA · 2017-04-11T17:58:51+00:00

About 90% of the people shitposting about their virginity probably. Are you in charge of your life or what?

Lukajeffski · 2017-04-11T16:24:20+00:00

Theres no secret answer, you just need to do it. It will be hard at first, but the more you do it, the easier it will get. You can't get results without taking action

Title	Who else reads all the stuff here, along with the books but...
Author	saffer001
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Date	April 11, 2017 4:08 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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