I’m a freshman in college is wondering how I could possibly pickup girls that I see in passing sometimes but don’t have any classes with them or an obvious connection of any kind?

__ManBeast__ · 2017-12-16T22:39:45+00:00

Stop them and say "I know this is weird, but I thought you were cute and wanted to say hi"

That's it. That's all you have to do to approach

camergen · 2017-12-17T00:52:44+00:00

This is all pretty good stuff, except with one major caveat: you will fail. Miserably. Flat on your face. Some will already have a boyfriend, some may just ignore you, others will give one word responses awkwardly, BUT all of this is ok. Anyone attempting to meet women in a bar or other public place anywhere will get rejection. The more times you attempt it, the more confidence you will have and the more you can calibrate your routine. If you go to a big college, just keep in mind: I will never see this person again, so what’s the harm? Or; “well that didn’t go well- no big. Try again.”

DaddyB0d · 2017-12-17T01:18:45+00:00

You're getting a preview of life after college. The vast majority of women you'll want to meet are going to be total strangers.

johannthegoatman · 2017-12-17T02:24:01+00:00

If you're going the same direction as them or are in some sort of line with them or something, just say "hey, what's up?"

Treat them like an old friend, just be natural and casual and don't act like you think what you're doing is weird. Girls usually respond to the frame you set.

xuqmiqoxe · 2017-12-17T05:21:00+00:00

Comment on something they are wearing. A lot of girls in college wear sweaters of the school or even other schools they went to or just wanted to go, but ended up in your school. Comment on something like that. Example would be "Hey cool sweater, where did you get it?" she will say oh thanks blah blah and you just say... "Ah cool, well listen you're really cute and though I think your sweater is awesome too, I really just wanted to meet you" ..from there just carry on with questions. A lot of times these indirect approaches are good for starters, but be prepared to hear a lot of "oh thanks, I actually have class" or "oh thanks but I actually have a boyfriend" don't get scared, many times girls just say that to see your reaction if you are cool about it you can close. Sometimes a girl would say you know what I actually don't have a boyfriend and just give you her phone number.

GET_IN_THE_VAN · 2017-12-17T11:29:37+00:00

ok a lot of people here are giving you bad advice man. If you do classic cold approach on a college campus it will destroy your life.

recyclablebanthas · 2017-12-17T06:13:04+00:00

First issue is that you need to drop the dependence you have on the outcome of "picking up" on a girl and just go to campus ready to socialize.

Do what you can to get into a good mood beforehand.
Make eye contact with people, smile, even wave.
Important: again, I'll emphasize that doing these things without the goal of anything other than sharing that first instant of the smile and eye contact, is key. People can feel when you need more. It makes you come off desperate.
Observe/pay attention/actively listen. Stop fussing in your head about what to say and fucking look at the world around you. There's plenty to talk about. Even if you just did the Captain Obvious thing of commenting on the obvious, that can be funny and instantly lead to connection. Paying attention is huge. And almost no one does it because they're looking for the fucking magic tricks.

_Tactleneck_ · 2017-12-17T06:01:55+00:00

There’s no easy path or shortcut. In the beginning your only goal is to say hello, talk about whatever you want, and get comfortable actually approaching people. Forget game or lines or strategy, just talk to a few random strangers each day about whatever you want, listen to their response, and try to keep it going. You’ll suck. It’ll be awkward. You’ll be rejected. Just keep doing it daily and you’ll get more comfortable. Eventually try moving the conversation where you want it to go, to getting a number or whatever. You’ll suck. It’ll be awkward. You’ll be rejected. Just keep doing it. Have other hobbies you love, too.

bubba2match · 2017-12-17T06:05:12+00:00

First off- Make sure you have the strut down. Swagger. Keep your chin held high and look like you know where you're going and you need to get there without interruption. Then, interrupt. lol You can literally say anything. Like you said, chances are you'll not run into them again, so have fun with it. Be like: "HEY! That's MY sidewalk! I'm going to have to charge you the toll. It's seven digits." Second-Actually HAVE plans. There's usually so much to do on a college campus that not having plans is pretty lazy. Keeping your social calendar full and open is a great way to meet women and bring new women into the fold.

Izakthegreat23 · 2017-12-17T09:45:05+00:00

Look up daygame on YouTube

_warlockja · 2017-12-17T16:57:49+00:00

Talk to them. Just say "Hello." and introduce yourself. You have to make the connections happen or else nothing will happen.

rigbed · 2017-12-18T02:58:13+00:00

Look up YouTube videos on this. You’ll see you need to just be able to talk.

Alternatively you need to have a plan for something to do with the girl

But it helps to be aggressive. It helps to be douchey. It helps to tease them right away like you’ve known them forever. It helps to apply kino right away. Helps to be drunk when first trying this. Or high. Yes in midday. Or take some theanine.

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