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[–]JoeyDemarco18 8 points9 points10 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bigger balls help the panties drop
[–]pureresilience11 9 points10 points11 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
every day? gonna be tough. do you work? i remember when i was in school and had spring breaks i could go out literally every day to cold approach girls. had TONS of free time. now though i work full time. can only go out on my days off or certain days for like 20-30 minutes before it gets too dark to approach
[–]SithLordJediMaster 2 points3 points4 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
What are you doing during that time when it gets dark?
If you work 8 hours there's 16 hours left.
What are you doing with your time?
[–]UrHonour 6 points7 points8 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you really wanted to, you'd find time to approach.
[–]fenlx1906 5 points6 points7 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Do more dude. For me this is getting an adiction. I have so much fun doing it
[–]Insaneflirt_max 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Woooo
[–]Azyme1 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
1️⃣----- DAY 1 ----- Just some basic Infos before: I'm 20yo and come from a small village in germany. So today I was driving 20min to the next smaller city that has a shopping center. I was with a friend of mine and gave him 50€. He could only give me the money back if I actually approach. 10 mins later I spotted a cute girl at a clothing store so I went in looking for her. But suddenly she was gone and I saw her going out of the store. So I went after her. Me: "Hey excuse me!" Her: turning around and looking kinda confused Me: a little bit out of breath "Hey, Im usually not that direct but I saw you in that store and you are exactly my type!" Her: still a little confused "Oh, okay" Me: reaching my hand out "Hi, I'm Philipp" Her: shaking my hand "Hi, I'm (.. forgot her name. I know I gotta work on that but I was nervous I'm sorry 😂) Me: "Would you like to grab a coffee sometime?" Her: "I'm sorry but I have a boyfriend" Me: "That's perfect, I bet we will be great friends!" Her: "I'm sorry I don't think this is a great idea" Me: "Well, we can hang out as friends, I bet your boyfriend let's you have normal friends!" Her: "I'm sorry but I don't thinks so, and I really have to go now"
She talked really nice and gentle and I think I did my very best. Afterwards I felt really awesome, like my balls have grown 50% bigger. I got my 50€ back and we went on shopping a little. Today I reached my goal and tomorrow will be better! (And btw: it is not possible to approach a shit ton of girls since there are almost none 😂) Today I got out of my comfort zone, working for the things I really want! If you want something, go and get it, seek the fcking discomfort, it will be worth it! - No excuses and stop watching fcking porn! I will keep you guys updated. Tomorrow will be my next post about my approach that I will be doing tomorrow! Keep it up guys!
[–]excentrik-art 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hey man, it is not the greatest start of them all, but starting is sometimes the worst, and you did it.
Few little rules: Always come from visible angle, don't scare them. Asking innocent question is good way to lose some stress in the beginning, just don't fall into Q? A. Q? A. Q? A. Scheme. Lead. Have fun :)
You had friend with you, that is great! Talk, together all the time in the mall, make fun, make so much fun everyone will turn their heads. Approach with this kind of energy. It is so much better.
[–]Azyme1 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
5️⃣ ----- Day 5 ----- Ok guys. There has been a lot of shitstorm in my comments. But also a lot of constructive critique. Things I changed: 1. Cut out the "maybe" - I know what I want 2. Do more smalltalk before the close 3. No "well maybe a coffee as friends" anymore. Fck that. So today I was at the shopping center again. Alone. To get a little bit of social momentum I asked the workers in the stores for specific things like a fcking red watch or something like that. I ended up having a little chat with them and so on. After I felt socially comfortable I approached the first girl. Me: "Hey excuse me, I saw you standing from over there and I noticed your very charismatic look. So I wanted to get to know you. What's your name?" Her: smiling "oh okay, I'm Emma" Me: smiling "Hi I'm Philipp. So what are you up to? Shopping?" Her: "Yeah I only bought a little bit" Bla bla bla we ended up having smalltalk for a couple of minutes. During the smalltalk I was paying attention on what she was interested in and excited about. So we talked about that. We were chatting about raving and DJing since I'm also into that stuff. After a few minutes I tried to close her so I went: "Let's grab a coffee sometime, just put your number into my phone" And she did and was happy about it. After the close we were chatting a little more about raving and then I said goodbye. Today was a success. A thing I could have done better would have been to talk to her even longer. I got it boys. Getting better and better. And by the way: I'm really thankful for all of your feedback and especially for the constructive critique.
[–]Tatin109 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good luck!
[–]louied862 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hell yea man, this is inspirational
You must inform us of your daily approaches in order to you staying commited!
[–]Sir_o_Tony 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Good luck soldier!
[–]whomeverIwishtobe 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
when you improve enough and get comfortable, it will be easy to not have to change your schedule around approaching. You will find plenty of opportunities in your day to day routine, even if it's as simple as seeing someone at the grocery store. take advantage of any opportunity for socialization and good luck with your goal!
[–]Azyme1 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
2️⃣----- Day 2 ----- So today I did about 5-6 approaches in 4 different locations, was out all day. I was alone today and it is way harder to do this when you are on your own. It took me quite a while to get over the approach anxiety barrier and actually approach someone! (Any tipps on that?). Many girls have also been with their friends/family so that was kind of a barrier too for me. (Need to get over that asap). So there was one Approach I think was quite good and wanna talk about. It was at a supermarket. I applied the tipp with asking for directions.
Me: approaching the girl "Hey, excuse me, do you know if there is a h&m store around anywhere? I'm feeling kind of lost haha" Her: being very polite "There is no h&m store in this city, but you can go this shopping center (describing it and how to get to it)" Me: "Oh okay, I'm looking for a tommy Hilfiger belt as a present for my friend, do you know where I can get something like that?" Her: "Well I don't know exactly where to get it but you should try out these stores (describing them)" Me: "Thank you that's great! Are you from here?" Her: "Yes I live here" Me: "That's cool, what are you doing in your free time?" (Us talking a little bit about University and studying bla bla..) Me: "Well honestly, I know the directions and everything, I just needed smth to approach you, because you are really cute. Do you want to grab a coffee sometime?" Her: "Oh that's cute but I have a boyfriend I'm sorry!" Me: "Well that's okay, we could grad a coffee as friends!" Her: "Thank you but I don't think this will be possible" So I wished her a good day and we went on.. She was being very polite and everything and I think she took it as a compliment :) I didn't get anything out from all the other approaches which kind of sucks. Won't give up. Keep you guys updated!
[+]smgtn -8 points-7 points-6 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
One approach a day will give you jack shit. I did 17 approaches today, this shit is a massive grind and you guys just don't get it.
[–]Woujo 13 points14 points15 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It shouldn't be that much of a grind. If you are doing 17 approaches and nobody is biting, you are doing something wrong.
[–]TurtleClubExecutive 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Better to have quality approached than to half ass a bunch of them!
are you ejecting too often? are you getting a lot of "no" girls? are you establishing eye contact before your approach? are you using a disqualifier or false time constraint to make it less weird when you approach? are you improving on your approaches, fixing things you analyzed and know you can do better? are you ejecting yourself too soon? Are you trying to close every set? Trying to make solid leads every set by building comfort + attraction?
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