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lukasbo7800 · 2020-05-06T14:31:36+00:00

I will start this with Morgan Freeman words - "Do not chase women. Let the women chase you". Number one thing you can do to improve your dating experience is just by focusing on yourself and your goals. Yours goals are the only thing in this world that's worth the chasing. No matter how good the girl looks or how much you are craving for sex, your ambitions should be always number one thing to seek on. No sex in this world can compare to the feeling when you climb the mountain which you wanted to climb to for years, the feeling when you've been working so hard and become financially independent, the feeling when you see your six pack at any lighting after working out for months. I can go on and on, but those things depends on what do you seek in your life. It may be small ambitions or enormous goals but the feeling you get when you achieve those things it's one of the things what's life really about. It's about fulfilling yourself as a person. These are the things that improves your game and gives you confidence. It's not about how big your house is or how much money is in your bank account that attracts women. It's about that you've achieved it all by yourself, by desire to get better and fulfill your dreams. These are the things that women does seek in men. Yes, there is looks, but you don't have to be Ryan Gosling with a Zac Efron body type to be attractive. Maintain your diet, hit the gym, smell good, maitain your hygiene and wear clothes that fits on you nicely. Those are things that anyone of you can start doing just right now. I've seen guys chickening on talking to girls and saying "Look at her, she's way out of my league, there's no way she's going to talk to me". But how are going to find out if haven't even asked her name? There's a big chance that she sees you much more attractive than you do see yourself. So guys, if you want to improve your game, start it by improving yourselves.

Thanks, for coming to my TED talk

riggwog · 2020-05-06T14:42:14+00:00

Mate honestly, practice makes perfect. You will undeniably fail here and there. Listening to people's advice can work to a point but ultimately it depends on the girls you meet and how you are as a person. Not all girls are meant for you and the moves you used for this girl won't work for another girl. Rejection is a normal part of seduction. Work for your aspirations and work out. Working out is a key factor to seduction not only for looks but for confidence. This will significantly raise your chances of seduction because now you look like someone from a movie and u will sound like you know your shit. Not only will girls admire you but everyone will.

Workamaholic · 2020-05-06T23:08:08+00:00

Here's a bunch of platitudes from experience.

Don't EVER attach yourself to a person, a place, a company, an organization, or a project, Attach yourself only to a mission. That's where true power comes from.

Advice on here will get you laid a few times maybe but if you want a fulfilling life and phenomenal relationships or love, I don't believe it's possible without true purpose.

If you don't care about your life no one else will. There's NO ONE coming to save you from you.

My life, the positive and negative outcomes are my responsibility and no one else's. Stop playing the blame game and get to work on your own life. If you feel like changing, Know what you want to change, why you want to change that, and have a plan with deadlines to do so or your life will slip through your fingers.

What you fear you attract and what you focus on disappears. Fear means both Forget Everything and Run, and Face Everything and Rise. It's a constant choice.

Whether you believe in manifestation or not, the world has a funny way of making the things you worry about happen. Eventually if you want to outgrow your worries you need to face things that scare you. In life you will never be problem free. You just get better problems.

Unknown expectations are resentments waiting to happen.

Your emotions evolved as a way to deal with life's expectations not being met. Your sadness, anger, and jealousy are yours to own and they are all indicators that something inside or out needs to change.

Always be prepared to walk away and mean it.

This is hard but helpful. Remember that dating isn't about getting everyone to like you, it's about sorting through people you're interested in and looking for indications that they're interested in you.

There is no strength without struggle.

Our brains are evolved to seek comfort and familiarity but it will not help you grow. If you went to the gym every day but did not not push on your limits not much would change. Stop trying to seek the easy route and accept that the obstacle is the way.

Don't ever let your fears disguise themselves as patience.

Our brains are incredibly good at making excuses not to do things. I've had to strap myself to a chair at times to remind myself that I need to focus or my brain will distract me. It seems drastic but life is drastic.

Comparison is the thief of joy and compassion is the source of it.

If you look at the world only as an opportunity to take then it will only take from you. Understand the true power of gratitude and use your gifts to give.

Communication is the source of most of your problems, but it's also the solution.

You're communicating things to yourself and others that you aren't aware of. When you understand this and begin to control it you become powerful. Don't only seek to listen to someone but to understand someone and you'll never run out of things to talk about.

In the end you'll be able to look back and connect the dots

Your life is about choices. You may think it's okay to skip or run away from some of them but it's all connected. It's a balance of emotional, physical, mental, and spiritual growth, too much effort or emphasis on one can diminish the others.

The life of a coward was no life at all.

If you want to REALLY change your life fast. Take out a piece of paper right now and write down the things you are most afraid of. Now number them, set dates to them, and do them. The BEST things in life are hard. It's really an unavoidable truth, but if you can accept it and maybe even one day relish it, then the world is yours.

The leader doesn't ask, he tells.

This doesn't mean be an asshole, it means be more direct. The biggest change in dating for me was this. When I stopped asking for dates and started telling people to join me, HUGE difference.

Men and Women are different but one is not better than the other.

Whether you're feminist or male activist or whatever, stop making it a competition, remember how I said earlier it was the thief of joy?

It's okay that we're different, it's absolutely beautiful and when you accept it and start to see it, and appreciate it things get better. It's very easy to slip into the better than/less than bullshit. Don't do it. It's a trap. When I finally learned that men often solve problems by seeking solutions and women often solve problems by feeling for them it was huge. Find your own appreciation for the differences.

When women say I felt or I didn't feel a "connection" with you it often means you did or didn't make her feel ANY emotions when you were together.

Communicating emotionally with a woman from a place of centered strength is the hardest thing to figure out. I was bad at and I'm still learning. With experience you learn how to stir up emotion in people in your own way. Any emotion is better than none. Frustrated, happy, challenged, shocked, aroused, embarrassed, amused, curious, safe, comfortable, are all feelings. Pay attention to how you can say something with body language or inflection to make it mean something completely different.

I believe this is why the TV show The Office was so successful. Every character is saying one thing and often meaning something else with their inflection or the context of the show. You have to kind of read the subtext and its kind of fun. Women LOVE doing this. Men too certainly but women really love it.

Good Luck Friends. This shit is hard but it's the only good fight there is.

*Edited because I forgot an important one that people never talk about on here.

recyclablebanthas · 2020-05-06T15:35:31+00:00

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jakeup58874 · 2020-05-06T15:43:31+00:00

What's helped me is that you shouldn't have to try so hard. Should just go with the flow and happen naturally. Thinking back, any girl I dated or had sex with just happened naturally going with the flow. As an example, this hot girl I dated worked at a Shoppers store. I went in there looking at cologne and she came up to help. I asked her if she was from my country and she said yes and we started talking and she offered a discount in the form of buying it for herself and giving it to me after work. So we exchanged numbers to keep in touch and met after work. It was all wraped up and we made plans to further hang out. We hang out couple times, just sitting in a car going for a small drive and talking and chilling and she just out of no where turned to me and said you're going to make me want to fuck you. And I wasn't even doing anything to get her to say that. I think what was doing it is I didn't make any direct comments to her. Just having a good vibe, being happy, having confidence, being relax attracted her to me in that sense. I would say the most helpful thing is just to be yourself and don't try so hard. Just go with the flow. If it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, then it doesn't.

thedudesmashes · 2020-05-06T16:22:32+00:00

Growing a thicker skin and realizing the problem is very rarely other people or external circumstances, its your self image and self development and whether you react to your life or take action yourself

steelydando · 2020-05-06T15:41:25+00:00

Always err on the side of assertiveness

RethinkYourReality · 2020-05-07T21:42:24+00:00

The best way to impress girls, is to have more important things to do than trying to impress girls.

PlayfulMarketing5 · 2020-05-07T22:08:05+00:00

How did you learn to be actually interested in the life of others?

I literally don‘t care about the life of strangers at all and I know i should to an extent, but I can‘t force myself to it.

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