Does all this stuff become natural after a while?

ThrowawayPUA · 2012-05-18T02:55:22+00:00

A lot of it gets easier, once you start to familiarize yourself with social situations and understand how people react. You start to see the same patterns, so you can anticipate how people will react to what you do, instead of it all coming to you as a surprise. This is a lot less draining of your energy, once you start driving the interaction, rather than letting it push you around.

caulking · 2012-05-18T02:03:46+00:00

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Four_stages_of_competence

bigwhitewhale · 2012-05-18T04:34:13+00:00

you sound like me. research FR's, and search conversation topics. for my first 50-100 interactions i typed a list of over 75 questions i found from a quick search online and studied the list religiously. hell i still do this today, i get tired of the same lines. its gets easier, but one key is before any initiation i tell myself the four rules

you miss 100% of the shots you don't take
she's not special, don't put her on the pedestal
the worst she can think is you're a normal boring guy (most men won't even try to initiate due to AA or self hype, you've already done better than most if you had a conversation)
she's into you the second you walked in

if it feels calculated you're trying too hard, be laxed use your environment to start a convo. after 5 months these new behaviors are beginning to be permanent and its all positive. self confidence, motivation, happiness, level of fun, social skill, and new interactions all went up drastically. this comes from a anime loving, Final fantasy fanatic, star wars collecting, drifting, fan boy.

no matter what anyone says theres no better feeling for a newbie PUA like myself than getting a number from a new woman, the F-close is just the icing on the cake.

2012-05-18T07:42:12+00:00

Yes. Yes it will. If you want it to go away, and you keep at it, it will.

Noone I meet nowadays believes me when I tell them I used to be super-shy. I'm usually the one that people think has always been the superconfident one. I never were. Before.

UnapologeticalyAlive · 2012-05-18T13:58:08+00:00

Yes, it gets easier. It's just like tying your shoes. At first it seems really complicated. Then you repeat it a thousand times, and eventually it requies no conscious effort at all.

vellyr · 2012-05-18T02:05:28+00:00

I don't think you'll ever stop being an introvert. If you get tired of putting yourself out there all the time, take a break and go for a LTR for a while.

sillymallard · 2012-05-18T20:22:13+00:00

Yes. You can change your personality permanently if you spend enough time working on changing. This is awesome, because you can't change many other things in life, e.g. looks, height, etc.

Xervicx · 2012-05-18T23:46:27+00:00

It is very much like every part of life. People gives you tips, advice, where to go, where to not go... but ultimately you never know how something will weigh out unless you apply it yourself. Things will feel more and more natural as you do them more often, and more often than not, you will find that advice that someone gave you will lead you to a completely different conclusion. Whether it comes naturally or through time, at a point it does start to feel natural. Even "naturals" don't automatically feel natural when put into action. You never know, that might be your greatest asset. It all comes down to you learning about yourself and other people, and letting everything you've learned and felt just flow together. Never rush something. Never push something. Never restrain yourself too much.

teep0 · 2012-05-18T18:54:07+00:00

It gets butter

Title	Does all this stuff become natural after a while?
Author	waretare
Upvotes	41
Comments	15
Date	May 18, 2012 1:15 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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