Done with undergrad. Now what? Transitioning to young professional life.

-marathon- · 2012-05-26T11:32:57+00:00

Hey man, I graduated a year ago and I was in a similar situation as you. I didn’t feel in control of my life and I didn’t have the faintest idea on how to move forward. If you’re interested in reading my background, you can dig through my submission history to find my post about it. Here are some things that I’ve done and have been doing, which has led me to live an awesome life thus far:

Define your purpose, create your goals, write up a plan, and follow through

Being in college and going through the homework grind gave me an excuse to not think of these things too deeply. I was pretty burnt out after graduating, so I decided to take some time off and relax before finding a job. At first, having all that free time felt awesome, but after a while, it took a toll on me. I pretty much felt useless, like I was a wart to a community that has given me so much. By coming up with a purpose, goal, and plan for the different domains of my life (e.g. work, family, friends, myself), I felt more in control and felt like a man of value. Feels good man. It was also important for me to write these down to serve as a reminder when things go off track.

Determine your values and principles

While job searching, I remember going through a bunch of interview questions I found online and when it came to those deep, introspective questions, I realized I didn’t really know what I stood for. I found that not fully understanding my values and principles gave me weak decision-making skills and made it much harder to stand my ground in the face of adversity.

Become a value giver

I enjoy taking care of others and making people happy, as long as it doesn’t violate my purpose, values, and principles. Take initiative and be a leader of men by creating events to bring people together for a good time. It’s a gratifying feeling when people look to you as a provider of fun. To get ideas on events, look on Groupon, Livingsocial, or your city calendar.

Do new things

It doesn’t even have to be extravagant. For example, jog to some place new or try out a new restaurant. I aim to do at least one new thing a week. Helps me deal with the monotony at my 8 to 5.

Get a private blog

I don’t tell anyone this, but I keep a private blog where I write down anything and everything. For example, something pissed you off? Write it down. For me, it helps blow off some steam and makes me realize a lot of times that an issue wasn’t worth getting mad about. I also like to write down quick bullet points of what I’ve done every week, so I can look back on it if I’m feeling pretty down and somehow feel unproductive of my life.

Find ways to stay motivated

Alright, so you got the inspiration, but how do you keep the motivation? I do a lot of small stuff to keep me motivated. For example, I like to cycle through a bunch of motivational wallpapers on my computer every week, reminisce about good events (It’ll be easier to recall if you record it in a blog), or be surrounded by people I care about, stuff like that.

puaCurveball gave some great advice awhile back that stuck with me, which was “Give yourself the permission to fail.” In almost any endeavor you choose, you’re going to fail at something one way or another. That’s fine. It’s inevitable. Learn from it and move on. C'est la vie, my friend.

Hope you got some value out of this post. Good luck man.

sinking_sunk · 2012-05-26T11:43:05+00:00

Congrats. It's a whole new ball game now.

Bad news: you won't have the time/energy you had during your college days to do all the things you want. It feels like you're losing out on a lot, but there is Good news: you'll now have money (at least some) to invest in doing those really cool things that you've always wanted to do. You just don't realize it yet because it takes a while to build you're financial base. Sky-diving? Motorcycling? Off-roading? Fancy snob dining?

Secondarily, look to enhance you're current activities with you're new-found wealth. Like Ultimate? Well, then rent a caravan, gather friends (and their friends) and go to some cool park to play and camp out. The bonus is that other young professionals are in your same situation. Sure, they drop 50 on sushi after a round of micro-brews, but there is something missing. Organize, organize, organize because other young professionals have schedules, grinds, full time loads and sometimes just want to look forward to Dave's whitewater rafting trip on the weekend. Imagine a group of people sitting around saying, "damn, I traded my time have money...can't someone turn this into fun for me?"

speedstix · 2012-05-26T20:14:35+00:00

As a fine individual on YouTube once said "get money get paid"

2012-05-26T17:14:33+00:00

welcome to the machine.

Title	Done with undergrad. Now what? Transitioning to young professional life.
Author	voliti0n1
Upvotes	31
Comments	10
Date	May 26, 2012 4:35 AM UTC (14 years ago)
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