Don't make this mistake like I did ...

SidInGameSince2019 · 2019-06-29T08:41:55+00:00

This is the saddest story of the day 😂😂

temerity18 · 2019-06-29T10:42:32+00:00

Regret is far worse than rejection

DeliciousPieceofHam · 2019-06-29T10:49:51+00:00

This is a quote I always think about when I'm afraid to do something. Take the chance guys, you have nothing to lose and everything to gain.

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"Remembering that I'll be dead soon is the most important tool I've ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life.

Almost everything--all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure--these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important.

Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart."

Steve Jobs

2019-06-29T10:08:15+00:00

this is pretty sad to read, but we all have these bad experiences to learn from to make the future better, honestly im not too confident but its so easy to just put your arm around her shoulder when sitting down, thats honestly the best and easy move, always works for me, you do that and then the girl will either scoot in closer and put her head on you or move away(probably will never happen)

ImJustSo · 2019-06-29T13:26:39+00:00

Man, sure wish it was easier than it is to pass on this message, but it's just a lesson every guy has to go through. Some figure it out early, some figure it out late, and some never figure it out.

The magic trick to girls, the one simple hack to "getting the girl" is this: Touch the ones that like you and which you like back.

It's honestly that simple when you boil it down. You can add on layers that complicate it, like insecurity and doubt, but the truth is that you can always go back to that magic trick and know the answer to getting the girl.

As you get older, a lot of insecurities melt away, new ones form, but girls get easier to get. Those old insecurities don't exist relating to girls and the girls don't exist relating to the new insecurities.

Not being able to touch women is boyish. At some point you have to become a man and grow up. Women aren't tied to that, but your confidence in your manhood is tied to your abilities and you need to know that you are capable. You need to try. You need to find out whatever it is about you that you can do, because that's who you are, what you'll be, and that's your life. You will be an adolescent for a short time and you will be a man for a very long time. Start trying. You will be afraid, you will doubt, you will worry, but you can still do.

Your heart will race. Your palms will sweat. Your face will turn red. Your emotions will go crazy.

But you will be okay. She will kiss you back and your face will get even hotter. You will still be okay through everything. Feelings pass but your actions will never pass. They will never pass.

If you pass up an opportunity, that action will haunt you forever.

I don't regret the mistakes I made when I was a boy, I learned a lot. I regret the mistakes I did not make when I was a boy, I learned nothing.

KND_DNK · 2019-06-29T10:28:12+00:00

Feelsbadman, where’s the F bot

NotMyBestEffort · 2019-06-29T14:06:37+00:00

Wow. While you are thinking "should I brush against her arm?" she is thinking "is he going to try and feel me up or at least just play with my tits for a while?"

Festeral · 2019-06-29T09:36:28+00:00

hopefully you have learned from your past mistakes. for a lot of men, initiating is the hardest part due to lack of confidence. I also struggled with this heavily in hs but eventually I just had to face my fears and stop being such a wuss or I would be alone for the rest of my life. dont dwell on it too much there are plenty of fish out there

ilikepie145 · 2019-06-29T10:42:29+00:00

F man

PureMockingBird · 2019-06-29T10:30:52+00:00

Let me tell you one thing. It seems that you regret not making a move, with that feeling that will not happen again.

Good luck in the future, try to improve everyday!!

Pat6802 · 2019-06-29T14:05:30+00:00

Been in a similar situation in high school, but the chick I was into played me hot and cold. To this day I'm still sure she did it just to fuck with my head, cause she really showed her true colors later I seen how cold hearted she really was. Nevertheless, much like yourself, looking back, regardless of what happen, a move should have been made because rejection is more concrete, where as not knowing what could have been stays forever.

I really feel you man, just learn from your mistake and don't beat yourself up over it too long. At least she was nice about it, because believe me not all girls (or guys for that matter) care if they break your heart, some of them enjoy it.

LaMierda96 · 2019-06-29T14:45:18+00:00

failure, the greatest teacher is - yoda

jonsnnow · 2019-06-29T16:46:46+00:00

PixelBot · 2019-06-29T19:04:41+00:00

"Girl of your dreams" - don't say shit like that.

NO girl is girl of your dreams, unless you are dating her, and get to know her.

How can anyone be your dreamgirl, without knowing her intimately? Get this notion out of your head.

Meet more people.

thorthrowrha · 2019-06-29T20:34:00+00:00

No need to beat yourself over it, learn from the mistake and move on.

Murfdigidy · 2019-06-29T12:57:15+00:00

This is quite common actually when I was younger I did the same type of thing. I wouldn't worry too much, a lot of it comes down to the fact that you're just not experienced in these situations. But then when you become a little more comfortable each time you will know when to make the move. don't beat yourself up this the first serious date you were on. We all get nerves we all do stuff we shouldnt have.

Next time you know not to make that same mistake again, and that's life, we live and learn. You're young and I was a virgin a lot longer than all of my friends, now I can out game anyone of them and attract more girls than any one of them. Why? Because I used my mistakes as a learning experience, not a self defeating one. Live and learn

GIMV791 · 2019-06-29T13:07:28+00:00

Well at least you know your mistake, all this happened for a reason now work on your self relentlessly so you don’t make the same mistakes again, not for the sake of getting this girl back but for yourself. Turn this whole experience into the best thing that ever happened to you, there are hundreds of thousands of your 10/10 women out there and millions of 9s...there is 4 billion women in this world. Thank you for sharing so others can avoid the mistake but for you, continue to work on yourself and make this the situation the best thing that ever happened to you and who knows life circumstances may give you a “rematch” with her one day once you’ve worked on yourself.

Jimmy281 · 2019-06-29T14:55:17+00:00

I recommend that you read The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane. Some really good tips on how to deal with anxiety.

breakfastburrito24 · 2019-06-29T15:44:36+00:00

Story of my life

MacroWavesUncookFood · 2019-06-29T17:43:10+00:00

Dude if I were you I'd try to reconnect with her. You never know if she's single or not.

wagsyman · 2019-06-29T22:00:57+00:00

I have a very similar story, not the girl of my dreams but had a crush on her for a while. We started making out in my car after though, i was junior she was sophomore. I started kissing her neck a bit and she pulled away looked me dead in the eyes and said "dont do that unless you really want to turn me on".

I stopped, said sorry, we made out for another 2 minutes before she wanted to go home, took her home and she stopped talking to me lol.

MOLERATFAMILY · 2019-06-30T05:45:56+00:00

It's important to know your self worth... in life (generally), people won't treat you well if you don't treat yourself well.

ASAP_IKER · 2019-06-29T13:16:28+00:00

"the girl of my dreams".....stop putting women on a pedestal.

MacroWavesUncookFood · 2019-06-29T14:21:13+00:00

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Title	Don't make this mistake like I did ...
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Date	June 29, 2019 7:12 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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