Experienced players, do you guys still get oneitis?

johnny_77 · 2014-10-30T15:58:40+00:00

Yes, but it's different now and I think it's healthier. Back before I was getting laid regularly with different women I would get attached to anyone who would fuck me. I turned 23 and had only been with 8 women. Now I'm 27, my number is in the 60's, and I have plenty of options when it comes to getting laid. When I get oneitis now it's not because I'm just sticking with whoever's willing to have sex with me, it's because I have all these options and for some reason one of the women stands head and shoulders above the rest.

I think this is a better indicator of a potential partner. I'm not fixated on her because she's beautiful or because we're having sex, I'm sleeping with plenty of beautiful women, I'm fixated on her because of who she is at her core, what she brings to the table, and how she compliments me as an individual.

DallasTxEnt · 2014-10-30T08:28:03+00:00

Only for red heads. And only until i find another one. I love those red heads maaaan

caloyness · 2014-10-30T09:10:43+00:00

Yeah sometimes, but it's all about mindset and not letting oneitis get you. Sometimes i do get the feeling and made me think that " Omg she's the one..but a few seconds later...nah fuck that screw oneitis" it's all in the mind and control brother!!

2014-10-30T14:28:30+00:00

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itsmevichet · 2014-10-30T13:19:56+00:00

No.

DalekJay · 2014-10-30T15:36:07+00:00

Redhead. instant=Oneitis... BUT How do you handle is what matters, "screw it, it my weakness trying to come back to my body"

Confluenced · 2014-10-30T19:38:58+00:00

Yes, but it's not in the same category.

I'm 28 and lost count of my number, it's easily over 50. Last week I brought home a MILF from Los Gatos, the next morning dropped her off and went to the bar and brought back a 23 y/o gymnast in less than 3 hours.

I have no problems with getting laid.

I tend to get "oneitis" only if the woman is exceptional. Lets be real, most women in america are a waste of time. They don't know how to cook, clean, raise children, and take care of themselves. Balancing a checkbook takes a backseat to going out the girls.

When I find a girl that is down to earth and brings a lot of value, I do start to get emotionally/physically invested. It's not cause she is hot because looks are a dime a dozen (I would rather date a 7 that treats me like a king, than an 9 that has no other value).

I'm willing to invest more on her because of overall value and how she will help me raise a successful family in the future.

Basically, freak in the sheets and lady in the streets = mild "oneitis".

Hope that helps.

Note, I am currently spinning multiple plates but there is one in particular who, if asked of me, I would enter into a relationship with. She has had two boyfriends over the past 10 years (long relationships, not fucking 20+ guys in youth), she rarely goes out because she lives with her mom, taking care of her medical problems (she is showing compassion and selflessness, while her friends spend hundreds on booze every weekend). She works out daily and rarely smokes. Loves giving me BJ's and cooks for me. Easily an 8 by anyone's standards.

If she asked me to make our FWB relationship official, I would have no issue. Hell I might even throw a bun in the oven for her, giving her the honor of having my kids.

gexxx007 · 2014-10-30T15:10:27+00:00

Just keep telling yourself that there's a million hot chicks out there that want your tool.

landonfoxx · 2014-10-30T17:40:45+00:00

Johnny77 is on it...only when you have experienced or are experiencing all the physical goodies out there can you truly make a good decision on who to be with for real...lots of sex or a hot bod is great but don't let that tip the balance...who the woman is as a person at the core and how she adds to your life (besides the sex) is what should determine her keeper status

nycprowl · 2014-10-30T17:58:13+00:00

Yes, I don't know how "experienced" I am but I have been with my fair share of women, with plenty who wanted to date me but I wasn't into it, dating multipel people at once, etc...But I still get oneitis, it sort of just creeps up on you.

Dealing with a bout right now actually I just realized. Feelings arised... she doesn't want to be exclusive but says maybe in the future, the thought of her getting with other dudes really bothers me, and I'm not down for being a Plan B so while I will still hang out with her, I definitely plan to go meet more girls. Still sucks though.

Title	Experienced players, do you guys still get oneitis?
Author	SociallyOkwerd
Upvotes	18
Comments	30
Date	October 30, 2014 5:28 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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