Eye contact issues

Jironasaurus · 2024-04-10T11:04:23+00:00

You train yourself to keep looking at them, and not away. There's no easy solution to this. Keep doing it, even when you're talking to them.

AnAIAteMyBaby · 2024-04-10T13:28:28+00:00

Don't look into their eyes, choose a point on their face and focus on that. If you're looking at their forehead or the bridge of the nose they won't really notice the difference as it'll seem like you're looking at their eyes

Rizzler_G · 2024-04-10T11:59:42+00:00

I’d say build yourself, go to gym, work your ass off, do something which you really enjoy. This will add up to your confidence and eventually you’ll feel like a masculine chad hunk and then the eye contact will happen naturally. Also give up the P*rn shit it’ll make you feel guilty (subconsciously) which will affect your eye contact. And a good eye contact is a turn on for women.

SnooHesitations4922 · 2024-04-10T12:57:15+00:00

Just understand the difference between eye contact and staring.

You only need to hold the eye contact until the girl drops it. If she ain't looking and you still are...you are officially staring at her body.

If the girl doesn't drop the eye contact, you can't be first to look away. Keep your eyes relaxed but on hers. This is where the pressure is felt because you don't want it to become a contest. You negate this by staying verbally engaged, or make non verbal gestures if u are at a distance. If you are really feeling it you can make a natural "out" by excusing yourself to send a text or make an observation of what u see and point it out, but don't look away as long as she is engaged without appropriate context to do so.

president_at_gmails · 2024-04-10T19:03:22+00:00

Training issue. View your day as a series of eye contacts. Colleagues, friends, enemies, gym buddies, strangers in public, cashiers, servers, baristas, and naturally, girls you talk to. Don't miss the beat where eye contact is usually built. If you didn't make ten eye contacts on any given day, you either weren't outside or you weren't alive.

ROBYoutube · 2024-04-10T15:00:10+00:00

I am an autistic guy who didn't get diagnosed until I was a geezer. I had a lot of trouble with eye contact through to young adulthood.

I found the best way to deal with it was when I've been talking to someone for a bit and I know they've noticed that my eye contact was not good, I'd say to them 'oh just so you know, I'm not good at eye contact, I'm really enjoying chatting with you and don't want you to think I'm not interested or being rude.'

If that sounds autistic as fuck, yes, it was autistic as fuck. I am autistic. But a funny thing happened, literally everyone said, 'oh, that's chill' and then my problems with eye contact were considered 'normal for me' in their heads and my relationships never suffered.

Once I had tons of experience talking to people who didn't mind my eye contact problems, I found I could do eye contact. Shit I'm basically a normie. I haven't had to give my disclaimer in a few decades.

Hope it helps if you decide to try it.

Honest_Solid2117 · 2024-04-11T01:45:55+00:00

Pretty easy for me. I mean... Women's eyes are often beautiful, why wouldn't I look at them?

Just remember to take a break, I do the triangle. I look at one eye, then the other, maybe back and forth for a bit then down at the lips. But every once in a while I'll take a break, so if someone walks past I'll glance. Or I'll just pretend there's I reason to glance around for a sec.

But often, if a girl is into you. She will WANT to see your eyes. If you're looking at her during conversation and she is looking away, she mustn't be very interested to begin with.

gangweedsavedme · 2024-04-11T02:17:29+00:00

You probably feel uncomfortable for some reason, so get comfortable with it

epimpstyle · 2024-04-10T17:34:53+00:00

Why do you want to make eye contact? What happens if the girl you are looking at looks at you ? Is this a contest or what ?

Setting-Select · 2024-04-10T23:20:50+00:00

For me I have to avoid eye contact to think about the words that are coming out of my mouth

monteiro313 · 2024-04-11T03:15:01+00:00

And if it cross eyed look to the eye that is looking at you, not the other one.

tilldeathdoiparty · 2024-04-11T04:34:25+00:00

Look at their ears instead!

I saw a video a week or two ago, so I can’t verify the science behind it, but apparently people can’t actually tell if you are looking at the eye or ear, just make sure to keep an eye on their facial expressions because those minor exposures of emotion tell a lot.

Bonus tip, use your left eye, to look into their left eye. Most people go right to right but if you go the other way it’s a pattern interrupt as you look at yourself right to left and there’s a more solid connection, I started doing this and I get incredible connections and see their micro expressions in the moment, almost giving me an advsntage

No-Historian-6391 · 2024-04-11T15:09:25+00:00

Just get used to it. And , you’ll start to realize how powerful it is and that, most of the time everyone else feels the same way you do and so your ability to do it really is impactful. Ik that’s a shitty piece of advice but truly becomes easy once you realize what a good easy “tactic” it is and that just having the ability gives you an upper hand.

This applies to all interactions not just women.

National_Town7904 · 2024-04-11T15:22:09+00:00

Thank you for the many helpful words brothers. Just wanted you to know that I appreciate all of the comments. I’ve been a little busy that’s why I haven’t responded to any of the comments. But thank you all for your help. I’ll most definitely use all of the advice.

toporagno13 · 2024-04-11T19:59:58+00:00

If you feel the need to move your pupils, you can try by looking sometimes at her ear, in the middle of the eyes, nose, one eye first and then the other. This will make it extremely flirty and it is not odd as staring her in the pupils.

Miguell7 · 2024-04-10T11:59:55+00:00

Practice it. You can look yourself in the eye through a mirror.

Also, you can go online and look up hot chicks who gives the deadly model stare

Title	Eye contact issues
Author	National_Town7904
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Date	April 10, 2024 10:53 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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