Fear of rejection

hal64 · 2024-11-08T16:47:22+00:00

Isn't this the most ironic thing 6"7 and afraid of a 5"0 tiny girl.

I learned to reframe the stomach butterfly when meeting girls as excitement. It makes all of this much more enjoyable.

mkkpt · 2024-11-08T19:01:09+00:00

but it all happened spontaneously.

You tripped and fell inside their vagina? No, this is not true. These girls wanted you or it would not have happened. You did enough not to fuck it up and close, which is all you need to do.

I actually have a pretty decent girl rn (kinda insta model~100k followers).

Dumb ass, why are you here then. Your attention is probably better focused on this girl. If not, dump her, you seem to have plenty of options.

Sometimes they even approach me and try kissing me but i want to be able to ask out any women out etc even whey they are not obviously into me but still giving me hits

You might need to be the opposite of other guys and make yourself ugly if you don't want this reaction.

I guess i have some trip in my head that i never want to be rejected or smth.

It's guaranteed you will be "rejected" at some point. There's no escaping it. You can accept it and make it work in your favour - "I'm one step closer to finding that amazing woman" or you can lower your expectations / win conditions to the only the things that are in your control "I'm just happy to talk to someone new."

I also have this fear of coming of as creep or someone who hits on everyone cause a lot of girls me see repost some ig stories with other women.

As long as you're being positive, not hurting anyone and are respectful, who cares? How much will this matter in 10 years time? Would anyone remember in 1 weeks time?

epimpstyle · 2024-11-08T19:21:31+00:00

"prom king" I read at first "porn king"

therealwoujo · 2024-11-08T19:30:41+00:00

Youre afraid of rejection because your feelings of self worth come from how others treat you.

Moment_Obvious · 2024-11-08T22:34:26+00:00

Like a millionaire worrying about small change this...

KoleSekor · 2024-11-08T18:36:44+00:00

Both nature and nurture cause you to fear rejection.

Humans, especially men, have evolved to crave acceptance of "the tribe" since most of human history, tribes were around like 25-50 people. If they rejected us, we'd be very screwed, left to survive on our own or hope a new tribe took us in.

Secondly, we spend a long time as children relying on our parents. We crave and seek their approval and validation as vulnerable children.

These factors are why you feel fear of rejection. Once you understand these are no longer relevant, since society is infinitely larger than it used to be, and you are no longer a vulnerable child, you can be set free.

encryptedkraken · 2024-11-08T20:15:48+00:00

Bro similar boat but it's not fear of rejection I lack motivation at times.

Go follow a bunch of people on Instagram who have disabilities and still post regardless find motivation to chase. You have one life dude and you don't want to spend anymore of it on reddit

Blenderchampion · 2024-11-09T00:46:51+00:00

You jist fear rejection because you are not choosing people you like yourself.

Do you like people or girls that dont like you, if yes, tgat makes no sense

Rasputin_the_Saint · 2024-11-09T05:38:25+00:00

When I was in jr high, there was this shy, awkward girl that liked me. I was nice to her. One day, she asked me to the prom. I politely declined, said I didn’t want to go. Ended up going with some other girl, she’s there and sees me - cries.

I didn’t hold it against her that she asked me to the dance. She was just not attractive enough to me and my friends thought she was weird. Seven years later, she’s diagnosed with schizophrenia and it turns out I dodged a major bullet there. She had some very insane rants on FB.

Point of the story is this - if you’re rejected, it’s only going to affect you if you allow it. The person who rejected you is, if anything, going to feel flattered. If you’re polite and tolerant of the rejection, that’s a major plus. Down the road, she might change her mind. Such was another experience of mine, had a crush on a girl for like 3 years, started dating her and immediately broke up with her because at the time, I had my head up my ass and forgot there were other women as soon as I entered that commitment - tbh she was from a trailer park and her mom was ugly. She doesn’t even remember the breakup.

For someone who has excess money laying around, my idea would be to walk around the bar - find hot girls, and tell them you’ll buy her a drink if she lets you practice getting rejected - getting laid isn’t the mission, getting rejected is. You might make a friend, and she has friends which is a net positive. Or you might just not get rejected on the serious level.

You also want to lead a fun and interesting life. That way you can talk about things that are tangentially related to your goal of hooking up. Hiking, or dogs, or gym stuff, or anything related to self fulfillment.

Dandys3107 · 2024-11-09T07:56:56+00:00

Fear of rejection is our natural genetical conditioning, instead of getting rid of it, you should transform your emotions or at least reframe them differently. Sometimes it may be about poor vibe, or improper context. Brute forcing things is hardly ever a proper way. You can greatly reduce harm by paying close attention to girl's reactions, emotions and general mood, so you will realise in advance that your interaction will most likely not gonna work out. If you will be able to frame getting rejected as not that big of a deal, getting your game formula to a level you accept, then there would be really no problem anymore. Even if a girl would become very upset of you missing your shot on her, you are doing nothing wrong by trying to get to know a girl with respecting her boundaries. Also, don't you think you are overthinking?

youngyut · 2024-11-08T17:06:37+00:00

Dude if everything you’re saying is true, then you can get close to any girl. I am 6ft but you’d make me look like a child 😂. Anyways if I were dating a model, I wouldn’t have to be running game… I would just keep her honestly. But if you are scared of rejection, instead of thinking of it like this “I got rejected, I’m not good enough… what’s wrong with me!” Think of it like this “I am just not her type, but oh well… let me keep trying. There is someone just as pretty who will appreciate me eventually.” Plus by your description, you might get rejected because they’d be intimidated by you or your social status not because you’re not good enough.

Title	Fear of rejection
Author	Competitive_Dark7204
Upvotes	9
Comments	14
Date	November 8, 2024 4:13 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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