Feeling hopeless in college

MyUsername0_0 · 2026-02-13T04:45:59+00:00

Brother you are 6’3 get in the gym, work on your style and you will get some baddies. You are young but time flies. Start rn and also do cold approach.

Long8D · 2026-02-13T04:02:39+00:00

Try cold approaching. Dating apps are hard for a lot of people and tons of competition. Also I wouldn't recommend cold approaching around campus, it's fine once in a while, but don't go hard approaching 100s of women otherwise you'll quickly gain yourself a reputation there. Hit up the clubs, bars, the city, grocery stores, coffee shops and see what you can do.

Feeling nervous is completely normal. Nobody is born smooth. This is a learnable skill like any other. Some guys have a head start because they're naturally extroverted, but even they had to start somewhere. Others need more reps to get comfortable. Avoid approaching groups initially. Go for one on one situations where the pressure is lower.

Here's something crucial that often gets overlooked on this sub and something I've learned with time. Stop always making pulling a girl your only objective when you're out. I've had way more success when I genuinely went out to have fun with friends partying, vibing, just living in the moment. When you're authentically enjoying yourself, people notice. Women pick up on that energy and are naturally drawn to it. I'm average looking, and this approach worked for me countless times.

When you walk into every interaction with an agenda, most will notice. You can come across as desperate or try hard, which kills attraction instantly. Instead, focus on being someone people want to be around. The rest often falls into place on its own. I've been in many relationships, and all of them started this way, just living in the moment and the rest basically falling into place.

Now if you just wanna lay, then yeah, cold approach too.

Also, work on yourself outside of dating. Hit the gym, develop hobbies, build genuine friendships, chase your goals the usual cookie cutter shit you hear, but always be improving in sme way. When you're living a full life, you become magnetic. Confidence comes from self improvement, not from tallying approaches.

That's just my 10 cents.

Budget-Kick822 · 2026-02-13T04:34:57+00:00

Optimize your dating app profile and photos. Learn cold approach, both day game and night game. Learn social circle game.

Available-Note-9652 · 2026-02-13T05:06:54+00:00

I would practice cold approaching as soon as possible. You will regret it if you don’t. Get your style and looks to at least above average and you’ll get the women in the tier you want.

badabing654 · 2026-02-13T05:39:11+00:00

Gymmaxx get leaner but not too lean you look sick. Sort your style out, wear clothes that fit ur gangly ass don’t just copy everyone. Haircut that suits YOUR face that maybe longer or shorter. Facial hair if you need it, sort ur eyebrows out but not too neat. Clear skin also. At the same time warm approaches aka join groups, sports, activities. Socialise with everyone not just girls If you want post ,some cool pics on your instagram but it’s up to you. Better off irl

V3X390 · 2026-02-13T06:24:48+00:00

I didn’t go on a date or have a gf until I was 20. You need to 1. Go to the gym. 2. TALK TO GIRLS. Not to hit on them or ask them out. Just talk to them so you get comfortable with it. 3. Practice scheduling dates on online dating apps in 10 messages or less. Do not let the conversation grow stale. Ask a girl out to get food and drink. Even if you are too young to drink, just do it. Have an upper class man pick up a bottle for you and after your date suggest you have some drinks back at your place. You have to put yourself out there and you have to get practice. Start with the chubs. Even if they’re not “your type”, talk to them. They will teach you how to talk to girls.

edwangg · 2026-02-13T12:18:15+00:00

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Chilledshiney · 2026-02-13T15:39:57+00:00

Just talk to them 😭 6’3, fit and selling like it’s Black Friday

vrksh · 2026-02-13T15:47:24+00:00

Start bossing around people mate

ApartmentWorried5692 · 2026-02-13T19:16:58+00:00

Dude, college NOW is much different then it was 10+ years ago. This is the post-covid campus. Most people are closed off and not open to talking. Instagram and snapchat kinda fucked things up. I’d say go to bars and clubs when you’re 21, places that are open for people to approach and talk. Don’t feel bad, most people on this sub never went to college post covid so they have no idea what college campuses look like in 2026. Most people I see avoid each other. Go to bars and clubs, you can cold approach. Just think of it as talking to them.

squizdawg852 · 2026-02-13T03:53:56+00:00

Hey dude sometimes its like that and I won't pretend it doesn't suck. You might not get a ton of play in college. But I'll tell you what I WISH I realized at your age 8 years ago:

The most attractive quality a man can have to women is drive and principles. If you're not getting any interest rn then just write it off and accept that, and focus on YOUR self improvement and making YOUR dreams come true. Get in great shape if that's what you want, start your business, make your album, whatever.

Get to a point you have a full life, and a schedule packed with fulfilling activities. And when eventually some pretty lady wants to hang out, don't change your schedule to suit her.

It'll get better homie.

Title	Feeling hopeless in college
Author	Usual-Bug916
Upvotes	6
Comments	31
Date	February 13, 2026 3:42 AM UTC (5 months ago)
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