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[–]Black-Knyght 33 points34 points35 points 13 years ago (33 children) | Copy Link
Yes. Go to public place. Approach men. Smile. Make eye contact. Touch them a lot. And then... here's the kicker... say "Hey... you wanna get out of here?"
It'll work for you ~95%.
If sex if your goal, you've got sex. If you want a date, you've got it.
It's not hard for women to pick up men. At all.
[–]TheCuriousDude 19 points20 points21 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
This is true for more attractive women. I can think of quite a few less attractive female friends who this may not work for. Not to mention that insecure guys would be intimidated by forward women.
[–]Black-Knyght 3 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Even uggos can pick up a guy fairly easily. I recommend drinking establishments, and starting later in the night once a few drinks have been poured into the prey. I've seen it work before. Hell. it's worked on me more than once.
And insecure guys will be intimidated by it, and won't respond. That's an added bonus! Who the fuck wants an insecure man? I'm not gay, but even I know that's a huge turn off.
[–]Pugilanthropist 11 points12 points13 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
"Uggos" is a rough term, but the man speaks the truth.
I've been picked up by a number of average looking women, simply because they were assertive and guys such as myself are notoriously weak to a girl putting themselves out there. We spend countless hours dealing with rejection in this pursuit, so when we find a girl that takes the initiative from us, it can be a welcome relief.
Just understand that if you want to keep us, you're gonna have to bring something truly special to the table.
[–]leegirlchange 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Depending on how comfortable I am within my environment, and who I'm with, depends on how forward and direct and outgoing I am. I'm not sure why this is but certain company gives me tons of confidence and 'don't give a fuck' stance whereas others intimidate me and make me nervous about making a fool out of myself :P
[–]leegirlchange 5 points6 points7 points 13 years ago (16 children) | Copy Link
I hear it's not as hard for women to pick up men, but you'd be surprised.
[–]Black-Knyght 10 points11 points12 points 13 years ago (15 children) | Copy Link
I probably wouldn't be surprised. But trust me... it is easier for women. Orders of magnitude easier.
[–]leegirlchange 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
I'm just a newbie so still in training :)
[–]Black-Knyght 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
S'all good. You'll kick some ass and break some hearts. We're all n00bs at some point.
[–]leegirlchange 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
And.......What if my heart is still broken from my last relationship?
[–]Black-Knyght 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (10 children) | Copy Link
That's a you thing. I can't tell you how to get over a previous relationship. It's all about time and distance. It hurts less and less as time goes by.
Casual dating helps. Just don't fall into the trap of comparing everyone to the past relationship. It's hard, but possible.
[–]leegirlchange 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (9 children) | Copy Link
I did that before this relationship with the one before that. Big mistake. I've learned from that. Everyone gets mad because I'm not making myself available. That's on me though.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
You don't have to, you know. You can take some time. And don't just go out and sleep with guys. Black-Knyght is right, it probably would work on 95% of guys, but don't just be a slutty girl because you can. I know a couple of girls who are good friends of mine who've come out of relationships and just done the whole 'good girl gone bad' thing. Just, please let it simmer a while ---- and take it slow :)
[–]leegirlchange 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've learned my lesson from past experiences in college after getting out of a relationship; getting under someone else won't necessarily make the pain go away. It'll just eat at you more down the road once everything simmers over. I'm not real proud of how I handled break ups in the past.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 13 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
but don't just be a slutty girl because you can
Why not?
[–]imMatt19 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
First off, thank you for bringing a different perspective to the table. I can agree 100% with what everyone else is saying. If your attractive, this will be a hell of a lot easier than if your 300 lbs. That being said, I have experienced the intimidation effect before. Here I am crunk as fuck and I see a girl I know. I try and game her a bit but she isn't giving off good IOIs when suddenly she pulls a complete 180. Thats when this beautiful girl (a model) starts getting all up on me. Next thing I know she tells me she can stick her legs behind her head. Was I intimidated? Absolutely. I learned some valuble lessions that night: 1. Don't get that fucked up, it will screw your night over. This goes for you too OP (obviously). 2. Girls showing outright IOIs like that can in fact be intimidating for newbies like myself. 3. Apparently, I'm not bad looking either +1 confidence.
Go out there and get em' OP. I hope you enjoyed my story.
[–]Happychic 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
What if I want a second date? And is it possible to do so without giving up sex on the first date?
[–]Black-Knyght 5 points6 points7 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Then go on the first date. Do the exact same things, and at the end of the night say "Hey, I'd like to do this again sometime." Second date acquired.
And no, you don't have to sleep with them. Most men would just prefer you do.
[–]Happychic 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thank you! Sometimes I can overthink things. I love the honest but direct approach you suggested :)
[–]TheCuriousDude 2 points3 points4 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This depends on the dude. If you were to date someone from this subreddit, it'd probably be harder to do that. Simply because there's a big focus on f-closing as soon as possible. Granted, despite the FRs of the higher-profile members here, I have a hard time believing that every one of our 100k members actually f-closes on the first date.
[–]ben0wn4g3 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I f-close before the first date. BOOIIING.
[–]leegirlchange 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Happychic, can you message me? us women need to talk :)
[–]rowli981 points 13 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
Girl here, I have never had sex on the first date without getting a second one. Hell, several of them became boyfriends later.
only had sex on the first date once, which turned into the 4 year relationship I just got out of a year ago and have been dealing with the past year.
[–]ben0wn4g3 -2 points-1 points0 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's when you need some GAME! This is where women have it hard. Getting sex is like trying to get sex in the rain. Getting anything more is definitely harder than a guy trying to get laid.
I disagree. I have a very attractive female friend who has done this multiple times. Generally, men are so freaked out by it that they say no, even if they know her quite well.
[–]Black-Knyght 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Then you're friend is doing it wrong. For a woman, especially a "very attractive one", the percentage of success should be fairly high. It's not my reasoning that is at fault, it's your friend's execution.
But as always, with all things, YMMV.
[–]oderint_dum_metuant 17 points18 points19 points 13 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Identify target.
Hold phone to face as if talking.
Walk past target within earshot.
Say "omg anal? I'm totally into that".
Admire the stampede.
[–]leegirlchange 8 points9 points10 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
lol I'm very open about sexual stuff, but I won't lower myself to just be a sex object. I'm much more than that.
[–]oderint_dum_metuant -2 points-1 points0 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm offering you a step up and all you see is a downward spiral into being objectified ;) tsk, tsk, you need to understand. No one really gets to know each other until they have sex. Everyone is on their best behavior until then, trying to make jokes, say intelligent stuff. Its a shiny outer shell.
Sex is the way to get people to the point where they're comfortable enough to really expose themselves as people to each other.
I will agree with your last statement to an extent. My last relationship began as a one night stand lol until we talked all night in between having sex all night long :)
[–]TheCuriousDude 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I would say that the tips here work for women too. It really boils down to being proactive; a lot (most?) of women are really passive about dating. If the kind of guys you're interested in aren't asking you out, maybe you should start hanging out (and flirting) with those kinds of guys. I can't really give you advice on clothes and make-up, but learning that stuff helps a lot. Also, losing weight makes even the ugliest person look at least average.
[–]leegirlchange 4 points5 points6 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I've been reading up on PUA stuff thanks to an ex who's gotten me into it, and I'm looking at PUA in a whole different light, not just about getting laid, but about becoming a better person all around. So that is my goal.
[–]Screenager88 1 point2 points3 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Change the FPUA to FUPA
[–]James_Coook 3 points4 points5 points 13 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Look hot. That's all you have to do. There is a reason why the FPUA is dead. There is no female game outside of looking hot.
[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That might be a slightly bland and male perspective of being a girl. No wonder there are so many rather unattractive girls who just pile on the makeup and short skirts because they think it will work. If a girl is a genuinely nice person, looks aren't 100% everything. They're more important for a girl, I agree - but not everything.
touche ;)
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[–]RonJDio 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No offense. But look hot. Even if you are not, look up how to make yourself look good. Then just smile a lot and BE NICE. Works WONDERS.
[–]grantmoore3d 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I can't really add anything constructive but I have to say the answers on this thread really disappoint me. Come on guys, put some effort into this, analyse the times when a woman has come to pick YOU up and figure out what she did right.
For me, the only time this has happened, the girl made light flirtatious physical contact. I responded in kind, she escalated and started dropping in hints into her conversation like, "why don't we go to the bar near my place". From there, had a few drinks and as soon as we left I just let her take me to her place.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You'd think being super-forward would always work for women, until the first time it happened to me. There still has to be some tiny bit of finesse. A girl told me about two minutes into a platonic conversation on my way to a concert said that she wanted to suck my dick. It wasn't that she was ugly or anything, she was actually pretty cute. I assumed she was coked up or something or had some sort of mental disorder. If she had been just a tiny bit more socially aware or segwayed into sexual stuff before, it would have been awesome. However, it was just really creepy, and then she started following me and my friends.
[–]leegirlchange -1 points0 points1 point 13 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ummm yeah that does come off creepy haha
Sorry for that experience bud :)
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Eh, it's a good story now. It's all about the experiences, haha.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just improve your appearance and do what Black-Knyght said.
[+]SuperSelfHelpMe -6 points-5 points-4 points 13 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
1) When a guy says hi to you, say hi back.
2) When a guy tries to have sex with you, say yes.
That should about cover it. I'm not trying to be rude, but there is literally no challenge to meeting men as a woman.
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