Feminist/Fem consent friendly pickup game

thisisnotme__-- · 2025-06-27T19:53:47+00:00

My response is going to make some assumptions about you and your thoughts, because there is so little information in your OP. Bear that in mind while reading.

I don't know of any pickup/seduction resources that fit the description you give, nor do I think you'll find any. That's not the problem you might think it is. The basics of PUA are more broadly applicable than their marketing would lead one to believe. The emotional and social differences between men and women upon which PUA theory depends are real, but they are mostly distributed in overlapping bell curves. Put simply, there are some guys who are very feminine in some behaviors and traits and there are some women who are very masculine, but the vast majority of people will be close to the average for their sex, and those averages for both sexes are pretty close together but not the same.

Men and women are different, but not that different. I think the same can be said for LGBT people, as well.

The techniques and ideas perpetuated in PUA are mostly irrelevant to the quesion of consent. The infamous "neg" or backhanded compliment is probably the most antithetical to consent of any aspect of PUA, and it doesn't work—probably because it's blatantly manipulative.

The parts of PUA that do work are things that help you accomplish two goals: present yourself in the most favorable way possible; and make the person you're interested in feel attractive and attracted to you. You cannot accomplish these two things without making someone feel comfortable with you, without making them trust you.

You cannot get someone's consent if you don't first have their trust.

Seduction isn't a con game. If you lie and manipulate, you'll eventually be found out, develop a bad reputation, and be left with no friends and few potential romantic partners, if any. Seduction is much more like dancing or negotiating. When dancing, you have to match the rhythm of your partner and learn to cooperate very quickly using nothing but intuition. When negotiating, you have to constantly search for and focus on points where you and your partner agree or hold shared interests and leverage those shared interests toward a common goal. In the case of seduction, that common goal is sex and love.

Everyone wants to fall in love. Everyone wants good sex. You can't have either without a partner, and seduction is simply the negotiation process of determining whether the person in front of you is a good partner for those goals.

StrikingImportance39 · 2025-06-27T19:37:12+00:00

Seduction and feminism are totally compatible.

Feminism is all about equality, between men and women. Nothing to do with consent.

While seduction is all about assumptions, influencing person, some manipulation etc.

In other words it is gender neutral.

As long as u seduce men and women same way and u don’t discriminate based on gender is all good.

In fact, if u ask for consent of the woman but u won’t ask consent of a man while seducing. Then it would be a discrimination. And u would be considered anti feminist.

UrbanUnrivaled · 2025-06-27T21:33:49+00:00

Game is neutral and friendly to everyone. Good game is entirely about consent. If she’s uncomfortable in anyway or you force yourself on her, that’s poor game and you failed.

FriendlyWrenChilling · 2025-06-28T06:15:54+00:00

I think you're getting confused with the extra intrepretations when it comes to PUA. Attraction is a science, and PUA is a study of this science from the male perspective. The nature of science is that it is neutral, and the people who understands the science can use it to whatever means they wish.

For example, if an anti-feminist gets a hold of this science, he will twist the science in a way that causes the presentation of the science to seem anti-feminist. But really, the science itself is not anti-feminist, but was corrupted by the person who is using the science for his selfish means.

If you learn the science, I am pretty sure you can manipulate it in a way where it is feminist, focuses on consent and pro LGBTQ.

My teachings has certainly been consent focused, and I'm considered a "mainstream PUA" from the old times. Focus on the science, not the teacher.

TeachMePersuasion · 2025-06-27T19:19:40+00:00

Legit question, what here is unfriendly?

It's all consensual.

COMPEWTER_adminisp · 2025-06-27T23:16:25+00:00

this is the most absurd question lol, dude I've read over probably over 50 books now and never ever is that mentioned; that stuff is totally opposite to pick up ; , and of course like other mention, there is always consent, you always calibrate the interaction, when interacting with a woman, always make her feel safe, always respect her boundaries as well as establishing your own, so no there is no material where these ideas collide LOL

Title	Feminist/Fem consent friendly pickup game
Author	Responsible_File_529
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Comments	9
Date	June 27, 2025 6:49 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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