Filler Words like, "Cool!" and "Umm," Will Kill Your Verbal Game. Here's a tip.

Maudlin09 · 2014-04-26T23:43:54+00:00

Or just learn how to have an actual conversation with someone. Yay!

JustWanderful · 2014-04-26T19:56:06+00:00

A woman may consciously say she wants you to listen, but really, she just wants you to remember what she said. You don’t need to show her you’re listening.

FIFY:

A woman may consciously say she wants you to listen, but really, she just wants to hear what she said repeated in a deeper voice.

Octopictogram · 2014-04-26T23:26:59+00:00

If the killing point was she thought you used Cool or Umm too much, I doubt she wanted you to begin with. I mean I guess I understand ummm. But seriously? Cool?

IncendiaryBadger · 2014-04-26T20:25:50+00:00

An article worth reading here, it's an easy habit to fall into, one which I tend to fall into!

torquesteer · 2014-04-26T23:59:03+00:00

Thanks, Tony. This is obviously for times when you don't know what to say and you feel the need to utter something because you're afraid of silence.

My style is the rambling style similar to Eddie Izzard where I'll say a few of those filler words at once. It'd sound something along the line of "sooooo um yeah anyway, the upshot is that I managed to do something I thought I couldn't do". I wouldn't recommend it to anyone, but the rambling-on style is a great to put everyone at ease where you're constantly complaining about something. It's like one of Adam Corolla's rants. Girls find it endearing for some reason...

2014-04-26T19:46:43+00:00

That was a much needed reminder! Thanks for sharing!

PhedreRachelle · 2014-04-27T01:17:04+00:00

And if you’re one of those rare, beautiful women who read great books, have interesting stories ~~and are able to capture my imagination…~~I still won’t use filler words. But I will see you more than twice.

Well, I am. I'm not sure if I'd capture this guy's attention. I do know if he acted like what I was saying was boring all night, I'd never see him again. Not even angrily or spitefully. The hard truth about beautiful and interesting women, is that they know they are beautiful and interesting. A guy seems like he isn't interested? Oh well, I'll just move on to my endless other options.

And yah I am definitely not going to sleep with such a guy on the first night (*or any night, since I wouldn't see them again) either. The guy I would sleep with on the first night is the guy I felt a great connection with, and part of that is feeling like I am important as well. I'm aware I sound full of myself and entitled right now, and I'm willingly throwing myself up on that stake so you guys get a real idea of how our heads work. With obvious exception, people are diverse.

ib4: no pics, and sure you can decide I'm actually boring and ugly if you like. Actually trying to help here. This sort of tactic only works on certain sort of women.

Allen_Yuan · 2014-04-27T03:32:19+00:00

I don't think there are any absolutes in such a complex field. Cut down on unnatural filler words, but don't focus so hard on them that you lose track of the more important things, like being calibrated in the conversation.

godless_communism · 2014-04-27T00:07:35+00:00

People who say "cool" all the time should be punched in the junk.

Toctsx · 2014-04-27T05:22:50+00:00

Virtually every single person who speaks American English uses filler words like "umm" and "uhh". It developed because American English speakers sometimes need a bit of time to formulate their next thought, and so they make a noise in the middle of their sentence (umm, uh, etc.) in order to let people know they are about to say something else and they don't want to be interrupted before they get to say it. If a girl seriously decides that she isn't interested in a guy because he says "umm" or "uhh" sometimes, then she deserves to get executed by a firing squad, because I guarantee that she does it as well.

Title	Filler Words like, "Cool!" and "Umm," Will Kill Your Verbal Game. Here's a tip.
Author	TonyDAbsolute
Upvotes	129
Comments	23
Date	April 26, 2014 5:30 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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