first date

thaeds · 2011-03-22T15:12:50+00:00

Don't over complicate things. If you want to spend time with her, and she invited you to a concert, go.

If she's inviting you to places, she's past the point where neging is required. Then again "So you want to infect me" is a tease, not a neg, so go ahead.

If I were you, I'd say either "Sounds cool, see you then" or "Can I let you know tomorrow?", depending on how available I want to seem. Those are my style though, so might not work for you.

[Edit] All of the "beware of friend zone" posters realize that we're in seduction forums right? This guy is going to be gaming this girl. She'll get all hot and bothered and such. If she doesn't it's because his game is weak, not because he accepted her invitation.

christopherness · 2011-03-22T15:57:01+00:00

I'd go to the concert and ask a trusted (and super cool) ladyfriend to accompany me. Your target might be a little upset you brought a girl, but it's a really good way to gauge what her craziness level might be. A sane girl won't show her displeasure outwardly and won't express it to you; just to her close friends. One of her friends might inquire about your ladyfriend. Oh Laura? She's like my sister. But, if your target goes balls out crazy on you for bringing your ladyfriend? You now know how serious you want to go. Personally, I'd never date anyone who freaked over something like that especially in this type of scenario.

And make sure your ladyfriend is aware of her role as wingman. She should be extremely social with your target's friends and the target herself. Naturally, she's to be a lot of fun. Just make sure your wingman ladyfriend understands that she isn't to BFF with the target. That shit only complicates things.

Lastly, I wouldn't consider this scenario a first date. Think of it more like an interview that tests your social skills.

the_beginning · 2011-03-22T16:47:34+00:00

The advice I have read and I believe is to say "no" if she declines your offer but suggests a less intimate alternative. I think you are on your way to friend zone with this woman (since I see in another thread you accepted the offer).

Of course, if her interest in you is high enough, this mistake won't matter. But why is she well enough to go out with a group to a concert (high energy activity) but not well enough to go to a museum (low energy activity) the next day? My gut tells me she isn't worried about how sick she is, she is worried about being alone with you. Not a good sign.

SilverBack_Ace · 2011-03-22T19:57:07+00:00

I agree with both sides here, but I like thaeds advise the best. If you want to spend time with her go.

Yeah you may be sliding into friend zone territory but your not going to do any better without some face time to show your qualities and let her choose.

Also, heres one more little secret, you can fuck your friends if you do it right and personally I prefer it that way.

Also, when you do go if you feel like its gotten away from you and your stuck in the zone, then come up with a new goal. If your friends now, get your new friend to buy you something from the concert or buy your ticket stub or any little thing like that, trust me it makes sense the next day.

much_ado · 2011-03-22T16:17:16+00:00

My current policy is anything that's her idea is a no.

Title	first date
Author	the_beginning
Upvotes	12
Comments	21
Date	March 22, 2011 2:56 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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