I got myself into a weird spot

electronPUA · 2011-04-08T16:11:53+00:00

jamessnow · 2011-04-08T16:31:29+00:00

I think the full truth would be hurtful to her. I would just say "it's not going to work out between us" and don't give anything more. Just walk away if in person or say that you are hanging up now on the phone if by phone. Be aware that there may be collateral damage if you tell her more. You may be labelled as a player by her friends and maybe even her friend's friends.

Edgarthefish · 2011-04-08T16:42:21+00:00

Do NOT tell her you used her as a pick-up test dummy. That would destroy her in ways you would find hard to imagine.

Tell her,"Things aren't quite as I once thought they were. The more I'm with you the more I realize that I'm not into this. I don't think we should see eachother anymore."

I would make her feel as comfortable as possible before saying anything.

caveman_evolved · 2011-04-08T16:26:57+00:00

You were throwin boyfriend vibes her way, obviously. That's why they'll tell you to go for the lay on the first chance, because it sends her clear signals that you're looking for a piece of ass and not a girlfriend.

2011-04-08T21:27:04+00:00

Do the same that girls do with us: start ignoring her, not answering her calls, then after some weeks tell her "I'm sorry, I've been really busy, you're a nice girl and I owe you an apology".

Then cut all contact

HyeR · 2011-04-08T16:55:42+00:00

"just kissing her is somewhat disgusting, because she has some kind of dry mouth that feels like sandpaper"

LMAO

blacksunglasses · 2011-04-08T16:02:04+00:00

LOL let her down easily.

Corporal_Rodney · 2011-04-08T16:25:21+00:00

That's not a weird spot. That's a normal spot.

absolutebeginners · 2011-04-08T16:42:59+00:00

Next time you get together, just make it clear what kind of relationship you are looking for.

inthegreen · 2011-04-08T16:14:53+00:00

Tell her you have aids.

frogma · 2011-04-08T17:21:43+00:00

Here's the deal: If you're honest about it, she might label you as a player and tell her friends to stay away from you or some shit. That's actually been a good thing, every single time it's happened to me.

If you lead her on some more, you're eventually gonna have to cut it off and be honest anyway- the longer you lead her on, the worse it's gonna be when you finally stop.

Here's what I usually do: Purposely be unattractive. Do shit that'll make her be the one to break it off. Sounds beta, I know, but it's also far-and-away the most efficient way of handling it. If you're honest with her, she might respond by going crazy. If you lead her on, you're unhappy. So instead of breaking it off with her, let her be the one to break it off.

The way you're handling it right now isn't bad either. Approach it the same way girls do: you can text her back, but give one-word answers and shit. Act bored and uninterested in carrying on a conversation. If she asks you out or whatever, tell her you're not feeling well or just say "Nah, I'm not really in the mood." If you do that a couple times and she still doesn't get the hint, feel free to be honest, and be prepared for a bad reaction.

Titans86 · 2011-04-08T16:01:49+00:00

Tell her the truth; its the honourable thing to do.

Just don't give her the "it's not you it's me" thing.

jiva_maya · 2011-04-08T16:02:45+00:00

There's really not much you can do other than take some advice from the Doctor. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MKWpQDBvBbM

_Toast · 2011-04-08T17:02:11+00:00

Tell her you lost interest now, it'll be worse if you tell her in five months.

FoodPikachu · 2011-04-08T17:17:29+00:00

I have a friend who, at the current moment, seems to be in a similar situation, only she is the one who is being left in the dark. She won't shut up about this kid, and it is driving me crazy! For her own sanity, and the sanity of her friends, tell her what's up!!!

frazzzle · 2011-04-08T17:31:20+00:00

hahaha I've been in this exact situation! break up with her for christs sake... nono for YOUR sake. trust me it feels really good as soon as she's out of sight.

philosarapter · 2011-04-08T18:34:59+00:00

Just tell her she's a great girl but you are getting back with your ex girlfriend.

hevnztrash · 2011-04-08T19:18:52+00:00

that is often a natural progression of interest. don't make it worse by lying in any way. her feeling may very well be hurt. she may even ask you, "but why?"

you already know the answer. you feel the two of you just aren't a good fit. it is that simple and it's the only answer she needs.

jeffiet · 2011-04-08T19:19:47+00:00

Tell her she scares you a little bit. Chicks hate that. She'll want to know why and then you can trickle a few truthful details or even recant. It won't matter after the initial, "Truth is, you scare me a little bit."

Her feelings for you will start to dissolve away like a urinal cake.

jigilous · 2011-04-08T21:58:04+00:00

I feel your pain. There are several diners in my area I can't go eat at now because of one of their waitresses just being way to into me.

silencegold · 2011-04-09T00:02:04+00:00

There's a line that I have had to repeat in my head when I deal with women like those, "Never let a crying girl hold you down."

Nexism · 2011-04-09T03:28:34+00:00

Beta up.

2011-04-09T03:55:57+00:00

I'd tell her I'm not looking for a serious relationship, I just want to be "friends". Even if you don't plan on being friends with her, this is a polite way for to get the idea that you're not interested.

Delacrz5 · 2011-04-09T04:40:47+00:00

Be direct. You are leading her along by not telling her you are not interested. Don't settle for less than you deserve.

libertas · 2011-04-09T05:40:37+00:00

First of all, don't do this again. As soon as you realize you're not interested, cut it off. This is what's known as 'leading on'.

Going on dates with someone you're not attracted to is not very good practice anyway; if your heart's not in it, you're not challenging yourself and you won't be able to play your best game.

WorkSafeJohn · 2011-04-08T17:53:11+00:00

This is soooo comon. DO NOT PRACTICE ON GIRLS YOU DONT WANT TO CLOSE. they can turn out to be bunnyboilers and go nuts. Start with the HB's.

Title	I got myself into a weird spot
Author	the_beginning
Upvotes	14
Comments	43
Date	April 8, 2011 3:43 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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