Fittest I’ve ever been yet also the saddest?

Chatter_ · 2019-12-15T15:26:29+00:00

You can find chicks regardless of your weight & size. That’s like saying men are only attracted to females with big tits, definitely not true. I personally like B-C cups. Should work out for you & stop being so insecure. You’re lack of confidence is what’s hindering you more.

quinnmcd · 2019-12-15T15:40:32+00:00

I think oh, once I gain another 5 or 10 pounds of muscle

I had the same mindset. You have to let the idea of being left out or not getting any experience to be motivation. The only thing holding is you and your excuses. It may seem obvious, but you get rid of your irrational fears and actually do the things you see in the videos. you'll get nowhere and will remain the same friendless loser unless you actually trying to get rid of your mindset.

Literally start going out and talk to people. Get invited to party/event and socialize. Don't worry about being labeled a creep or thinking you're ugly. Trust me you'll realize how it is once you try.

KingRemu · 2019-12-15T15:14:18+00:00

Only commenting on the bulking part of your post. If you miss one meal every now and then it won't have any effect on your progress. And you can always have some more calories on your other meals. It sounds a bit like you're making excuses to not go out and meet people.

smoothmax · 2019-12-15T16:45:10+00:00

I got pretty fit and strong, went from over 190 lb to 165 lb on a 5'11" frame. Got a whole new wardrobe of well fitting clothes. I also worked a LOT on my inner game and outer game. Lots of reading and thinking, and new skills such as affirmations, emotional intelligence, social skills, text game and also posture and body language.

I gained the weight back for various reasons and I'm not doing workouts at the moment. But my confidence and ability to "game" stayed high in fact it gets better and better as I practice more. In terms of physical looks, my solid grooming, sharp clothes and good posture give me a lot of traction. Even though I got my tummy back, I look more athletic and fit than almost any of my friends because they slouch, don't groom well, and dress like slobs.

My conclusion: getting fit and strong was a big boost to my happiness and confidence, but dropping the training as a big part of my life didn't cause me to lose confidence or become unhappy at all.

My advice therefore is: work on inner and outer game skills. Work hard on them and don't be afraid to let it cut into your training time.

As for social skills and social circles, IMHO they start with the people you are already close to. First your family: parents, siblings, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins. Then your classmates or colleagues, then the strangers you meet incidentally during the day. If you're happy and confident with those people then it won't feel like a big and scary thing to spread out and do things on your own. Such as go to bars, do daygame, whatever. The women you meet will immediately recognize if you are sociable and happy in your relationships with the people who are close to you, and it will make you more attractive.

Hubblenobbin · 2019-12-16T00:11:36+00:00

Go out.

Go talk to girls. How the fuck are they going to date you if you don't give them the opportunity to meet you? The most important thing you can do to increase your success with women, is to talk to them.

Wulfric78 · 2019-12-16T15:18:37+00:00

I went through a similar phase in my youth. I weighed around 230 pounds when I was 20 and lost around 80 of those. I got more social, started to go out more and generally making a better life for myself. I was very proud of myself but pride and self esteem are different things.

In my case I think I got disappointed by how much effort one has to make to be acknowledged by specifically girls and by the norm in general. It didn't make any difference if I was fit and good looking, people still wouldn't strike up a conversation with me or invite me to stuff. There was still so much conforming to do and then and there I made a conscious decision to shut off people and girls/women. Pretty drastic know but it just felt like the right thing for me to do.

I don't tell you to do as I did but you asked for advice or opinions :)

HighValueDayGame · 2019-12-16T11:54:22+00:00

I think oh, once I gain another 5 or 10 pounds of muscle, maybe girls will start giving me IOIs.

Try looking at this:

Happiness is only in the present moment

Effort vs. Result is non-linear

Overall, this may be the most relevant:

The concept of “being good enough”

Best of luck

Title	Fittest I’ve ever been yet also the saddest?
Author	Goldfielddid911
Upvotes	6
Comments	9
Date	December 15, 2019 3:06 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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