I went out solo last night to a tiny bar/coffee shop. An HB8 approaches the bar where I'm standing and as she orders a drink, the bartender asks to see her ID.

  • "I also will need to see your ID"*, I said with a neutral expression.

  • "Oh, ok,"* she replied as she was fishing it out. She gave it to bartender and then I told her that I was just kidding and teased her for falling for it.

    About 10 seconds pass and I turn away. As soon as she gets her ID back from the bartender, she brings it over to me to examine - even though at this point, the joke is expiring. I take it as an IOI and examine her ID under the light, fold it, etc. She stands right next to me and I'm getting a strong vibe. We spend the next 30-40 minutes talking and checking out the band while two of her guy friends orbit and appear to be checking on her.

As I finish my drink and turn to order another, I see her quickly finish hers. "I don't buy drinks for women I just met, but I will buy you that bagel!"

She laughs and says, order x beer, I'll get it. Then, using yet another borrowed line from seddit, I reply, "I'll get this one, you get the next 5"

She laughed and gave me a long gaze. She was out with a girlfriend and the two guys, and the guys were acting a bit protective.

In hindsight, I should have made a much stronger attempt to befriend her guy friends. She introduced me to all of them. (I did chat for a bit with her gf)

At one point I handed her my iphone with the dialpad open and just smiled. She dialed her number and added her name to my contacts, then called herself and entered my name in her phone. Soon after this I realized that I hadn't really talked to anyone else for a good hour and had built zero social proof. The crowd was down to about 20 people. I decided it was time to go, gave her a hug and left.

I texted the following about 10 minutes after I left * "That guy you just spent the last hour talking to? You owe him 5 rounds:)"

She replied a couple minutes later "Ha Ha, It was great meeting you! I'd love to meet up with you. I owe you a drink"*

I waited 30 minutes and replied with* "It was great meeting you too. I have a crazy week, but meet me at XXX bar tomorrow at 8"*

I heard nothing after this. This afternoon I sent a silly text about all the snow and if she brought her sled to work.

She replied a few minutes later with an amused response but no mention of tonight.

Where did I go wrong? Am I too quick to assume she isn't coming? I realize trying to make plans for the next day is a little strange, but the next available time would have been Saturday and that seemed a) too far away and b) the wrong night for a first date

Oh, and there was pretty decent kino right from the beginning. Not over the top, but enough to establish intention.