Please take whatever I offer here with a grain of salt as I am a complete newbie to seduction.

I had asked this girl out before but she had flaked due to her dad having to go to the hospital. She had flaked once before for her car not starting, so I decided I wouldn't text her again and I would move on. That is, until this text message exchange:

her: I'm seein you this week lol

me: Are you free Friday night? [I realize how awful this line was so I quickly follow it up with...]

me: Let's do Friday night :) it's the only night I don't have plans for yet

her: Okayyyyyyy :)

later on...

her: We doin dinner tomorrow or meeting up later? :)

me: Wear something you can move around in like jeans and sneakers. Meet at my place at 8.

her: Haha you're so mysterious!

her: Ok!

her: I'm excited

The reason I did this was to build up tension. She wants to get taken on a surprise adventure, not just boring old dinner like she asked. Hell, I don't want to go to boring old dinner. So I took her to laser tag!

Laser tag turned out to be a fantastic first date experience because of the opportunity for kino. Take her hand run up a ramp and shoot down some kids on the way. Use her as a shield. Cover each others backs! All the excitement releases adrenaline and endorphins, which feels amazing and makes her more comfortable with you.

After laser tag, the plan was for takeout sushi and watch a movie at my place. The place we went to was more sit-down, so we did that and cooled off there. When we got back I invited her up. She said she could only stay for an hour.

When we got up we started the movie and I just leaned in, I could see her smile, and I went for the kiss. It was incredibly natural. I did not ask for permission and I think that was key here. After the kiss she said "I was waiting for you to do that."

After the kiss we enjoyed our drinks and watched the movie some (Zack and Miri Make A Porno). I went in for another kiss later on in the movie. Again, fun and natural. It also made the movie more enjoyable because we had broken that barrier and were a lot more comfortable with each other.

I didn't F-close because she actually did have to leave, and besides she is harder to escalate than other girls I've been with. I'm not quite sure why, but I will read more on the famous escalation ladder and try to figure this out better. Perhaps make the next date geared more toward intimacy?

tl;dr:

  • don't ask if she's free in a text, tell her when the date is and let her accept, give another time, or reject

  • laser tag is a good first date idea as it gives lots of kino opportunity

  • don't ask for the kiss, just go for it