So I posted earlier about having 3 dates this weekend and having no game and seddit helping me learn how to put myself out there. Well I went on my first date of the 3 last night and here's how it went:

I met her on Tinder on Tuesday and we hit it off and texted quite a bit back and forth all week. We agreed to meet up on Friday. So I go pick her up and we go to an arcade. I thought it would be a good place to go to get to know her a bit more, while competing with her in games and showing no mercy to prove I wasn't going to let her win to feel good. Games were really close though, I'd say we went about 50/50. Gave the tickets won to a kid to show my sweet side. Didn't do much kino, although it is a great venue for playful touching. Was still a bit nervous at this point.

Then I introduce her to sushi and we walk around town a bit, showing her some sites. I guide her around corners with my hand on her lower back. Then I take her to a overlook of a river and we kinda chill there for a bit and I really push kino, wrapping my arm around her waist while we stand there side by side. She is receptive to it.

I talk her into going back to my place to watch a movie. We watch Cabin in the Woods, which was great cause it's funny, but still has some scares. We start to cuddle a bit halfway through the movie. Eventually, beta me is afraid to make any moves, but I count to 3 and go for a kiss during a slow point. We ended up making out and cuddling for hours just watching netflix.

She agrees to stay the night and I took that as a sign to get more aggressive. So we lay down and the rest is history.

Mostly I wrote this again to say thank you to this community for giving me confidence in myself to be a better man. The key to the night was not trying to impress her too much, and just having fun and not going in with any intentions to get laid, the goal was just to enjoy myself. That mentality really made me a more fun person and also never let the smile off my face. Old me would barely talk for fear of blowing it, but not this time, I said everything I felt like saying and engaged her conversationally, never asking yes/no questions, never breaking eye contact, and asking her why she felt the ways she did.

TL;DR: Had intention-less fun, focused on just having a good time, got laid.