So, I had been talking to this girl I met on Match.com (if you want tips on this, feel free to PM me) and we set up a date for us to meet. The first night that she and I sat on the phone and talked, we ended up chatting for 3 hours. We ended up playing my go-to game, "Would You Rather", until she got bored and wanted to play something else, to which I suggested "21 questions". Of course, the conversation went sexual, as it should, so I got her associating me with sex.

Anyway, we were texting and flirting over the next days before our date and she comes out and sends me this 3-text message:

"Look... I know that we are both sexual people, but I dont want you to read too much into all this sexual talking we have been doing. I don't want you to expect something that's not there. I want to be with someone who is respectful of my body and wants me, all of me... not just my body. I will not sleep with anyone until I know that there is something there more than physical attraction and that we are exclusive. It's all fun and very flattering but i dont know you well enough to know where your head is."

ME: "Woah, hold up. You are reading way too much into this. I'm having fun. You can ask me how I feel about something, but don't assume I'm not a gentleman".

HER: Sorry... I just wanted to clarify. I'm not assuming anything.

ME: I realize your situation and respect that, but this is me. I joke around, I flatter, I tease and among other serious subjects, I also talk freely about sex.

HER: Ok... then we're good.

ME: I'd much rather find out about your reservations on my own rather than being told, HB8. It kinda lets the air out of the balloon a little.

HER: I feel much better now. :)

ME: I'm happy for you.

HER: I'm always up front and honest. I'm not afraid or ashamed to speak my mind. Sorry to pop your balloon so soon.

ME: A little mystery is always good.

HER: Like i said... I dont know you well enough to know that you're just having fun and flirting. I agree that a little mystery is good but so is honesty.

HER: that's why I said something. It's settled and we're both on the same page.

ME: There's a difference between honesty and being blunt. Guys tend to enjoy being lead on a little bit. Myself Included. It adds to the thrill of the chase. ;)

HER: Ok...now I know! Sorry. I thought I shouldn't lead you on.

ME: Just for the future, should you date other guys: the only reason you shouldn't lead a guy on is if you just aren't interested in him at all. lol. [read: if a girl unknowingly leads a guy on, if his game is good, it wont matter and he'll close anyway]

So, anyway, we have our first date. It's standard for me to invite girls to come to my place first and we'll ride together. So, I take her to this one bar I know the doorman and bartender (social proof), have her sit at one booth and I slide in next to her. I'm engaging in light kino, escalating, etc. Making up excuses to touch her hand (her ring, her fingernail polish), I even make a joke about the size of her hands, asking if she's sure she's not a man? Eventually, I forgot what the tease was that I said to her but it struck a chord and I put my arm around her to give her a sympathetic hug. This opened up my ability to pull her close into me so she's now sitting against me, rather than next to me.

We bounce after the one drink and go to this upscale wine place with couches. Again, escalated kino and when I knew that she was sufficiently interested, I just said "look at me". When she did, I kissed her. I made it a policy to always be the one to break the kiss, so I did. It makes it easier to kiss longer next time. So, we kiss a few times, finish our drink and find out that she likes to smoke weed, but doesn't buy it; if other people have it, she'll smoke, so I say "I wanna smoke, so lets get out of here".

I bring her back to my place and we continue making out on the couch. The biggest thing I've learned about making out and turning it into sex is to ALMOST NEVER MAKE OUT WITH HER. Kiss everywhere but her lips: neck, jawbone, chest, cheek and when she's sufficiently frustrated that you haven't kissed her lips, you reward her with a 2-second tongue kiss and then go back to what you were doing. You can progressively move down to the breasts with this technique, just push the boundary with kisses and at the instant she gives resistance, go kiss something else and come back to it. When she allows you to kiss what you want, you give her a tongue kiss to say "thank you", then go back to it with gusto.

So anyway, again I break off the make-out session, grab her hand and lead her to the other room where I smoke, show her the new pipe, we take a couple hits and go back to making out. This time I'm pulling her on top of me and made her grind into me. Eventually, I picked her up and carried her into the bedroom.

This is where she showed the most LMR, but with the kiss-avoidance technique, I progressively got what I wanted, got a bj, went down on her to reciprocate and F-closed.

The next morning was nice, we chatted a bit in bed and just laid there for a couple hours. I was ready for a morning round, but she said "no morning sex today. I feel like my insides have been rearranged". I said "huh? like, I was hitting something?" and she confirmed. So, as a big boost to my ego, I concluded that I was bottoming out inside her. My junk was bigger than she was deep. hahaha. So, we laid there until she decided she needed to leave and I walked her out as she did the "walk of shame".

The thing is, I can tell she's been rather stand-offish since then. We texted back and forth the day after, but a lot less frequently. We talked on the phone briefly that night, but that was really the last time we chatted (Friday). I sent her a text today telling her Happy Easter and that I found an earring of hers and got no response. Followed it up with "fall of the edge of the earth? lol" last night around 9, still no answer.

I think she probably feels bad about giving in, but I don't really need to be getting involved with her anyway: baggage, bro. Baggage.