[FR] From a Lesbian

ThrowawayPUA · 2015-01-06T07:42:19+00:00

I wish you were around a few years back, to chat with of one of our former mods, /u/LesbianPUA. She hasn't been sighted for the last couple of years, but before then, she was influential in making seddit a more openly accepting place for LGBT issues. She tried to work with her own groups like /r/pickup4dykes but they never really took off.

So I always think seddit is all-encompassing, we can deal with any angle on seduction issues here.

But hey I recognized some interesting PUA things in your post. I don't know if it was intentional or not.

Once the event was over a I literally went straight to her, but was interrupted by someone who wanted to speak to me. She was still there though. So while speaking with this guy I just say "excuse me" turn to my side and grabbed her arm. Asked her how she's been doing

The guy interrupted you and pulled you into a 2-set. But you kept your eye on the girl and pulled the her into a 3-set. Nice move.

That moment when she returned and asked you to dinner, that meant she really did want to see more of you. You declined dinner right then (you know you should have gone to dinner, if you could have) but it looks like you set a time for Day 2 right then? If she was emotionally engaged with the idea of meeting you, and you have a planned time and date, you have done a classic "Time Bridge." She will be thinking about you, as the date approaches.

What really helped me was my mindset. Just realizing that she's just a girl and there's girls everywhere waiting for a girl or guy to approach them. I'm doing well in my life single. I know I have plenty to offer, but I have to look at people like "what do they have to offer me?". If things don't really go anywhere with her or any other chicks, I really don't care. Because I'm awesome and anyone would be stupid not to see that

Amen sister. These people are waiting for a new face, your face, a new exciting person who will take them away from their humdrum routine, even if only for a few hours.

BuyerOfCoins · 2015-01-06T11:59:26+00:00

"I am not a dude. So in that manner I think differently than you do. I am not a hopeless romantic, nor am I desperate. I just don't look at women as a sex object."

Basically you say that all guys (so on this sub too) are desperate, hopeless romantic and treat women like sex objects. I think you need to adjust this sentence. Not all guys are like this.

Guess I could say that stereotyping bothers me.

f33 · 2015-01-06T14:23:50+00:00

So what type of event? Sure the girl knew you were asking her out on a "date"?

RichieFinn · 2015-01-06T09:53:25+00:00

We want to get inside their heads too, its just once we do it becomes a place thats scary as fuck to stay too long hahaha.

Not2original · 2015-01-06T14:58:35+00:00

Hey that was a good pull I'm happy for you! I hope you enjoy your date, just remember to sit next to her not across from her, so You can initiate kino.

masterrod · 2015-01-06T19:42:02+00:00

I want to get inside her head.

You get inside her pants by getting inside her head.

We are all in it for sex. But that's not the end result of course. Looks like you had success with your target, just don't' take solace in getting the number. That's really the easy part.

dancekingsc · 2015-01-06T21:19:40+00:00

Self-esteem wise, i think you're miles ahead of most of the people in this sub, me included. What i mean by this is that the mentality of:" what do they have to offer me?" While being the best mindset, doesn't work for everyone. Because they would get minimal response (of course depending on what you pursue in women).

You have to be at least confident in yourself in order to pursue this mindset imo. The way i see it, you're one step ahead. And i applaud you. Most girls are as we know more emotionally advanced. To some extent i think this allows women more easily to see other people as people, instead of sex-objects.

What i would like to ask you is your perspective on emotions, and showing emotions. Any tips, or advice?

Also, best of luck with the girl and welcome to the sub!

husgutt · 2015-01-06T07:08:31+00:00

Always interesting to get a woman's perspective :) And, btw, many of us want to get inside their head.

You mentioned reading the stuff on this sub and putting it to action, how did that change your encounter compared to when you met girls before learning about this? How would you have proceeded before?

Has that mindset become a fully integrated part of you yet? I mean, is your constant self worth at a higher level, or is it fluctuating? For instance when you met that girl was it at a high, but maybe the next day it was at a low? Or was it neutral, but the neutral bar has been elevated?

Bl4ckR4v6n · 2015-01-06T15:43:40+00:00

So how do you get into the girls head?

CMUpewpewpew · 2015-01-06T16:42:22+00:00

If you're doing well in your dating life there's no other way to explain how 'when it rains, it pours' other than that because you have many options, you don't have to seem or be desperate at all. This in turn only makes you seem like you're playing hard to get or that there must be something about you that makes you able to be so confident that only compounds your current upswing status in regards to dating.

Where as most of you want to get inside her pants, I want to get inside her head.

Was gonna say I resented that!!! Because I don't think it applies to me at all...I would rather get inside a girl's head. I realize that your generalization is probably accurate about my gender thought haha.

qiang_shi · 2015-01-06T19:57:27+00:00

Interesting points from a women, who confirms:

not a romantic (unlike men)
wants to get inside partners head

shitsfuckedupalot · 2015-01-07T00:45:49+00:00

Way to insult all of us in the first paragraph. Bit rude IMO

abandonliberty · 2015-01-07T03:05:06+00:00

just gotta keep my "game" up when we go out.

I'm curious what that means to you.

I just don't look at women as a sex object.

Let's take a look at a definition of sexual objectification. Is it what you intended to say?

According to philosopher Martha Nussbaum, sexual objectification of women positions them in relation to men: as a tool for another's purposes (instrumentality);
as if lacking in agency or self-determination (denial of autonomy, inertness);
as if owned by another (ownership);
as if interchangeable (fungibility);
as if permissible to damage or destroy (violability);
as if there is no need for concern for their feelings and experiences (denial of subjectivity)

firelordozai17 · 2015-01-07T04:21:48+00:00

I dont mean to ask this this in any sort asshole kind of way, but more out of sheer curiosity -- how do you know which girls you can approach? I feel like it's gotta be major difficulty. Also, mad props on that #close!

Kid_Plato · 2015-01-06T18:15:34+00:00

Wow really nice to see a lesbian around these parts. Would love to hear more of your experiences

p.s. I am not a lesbian, just a straight dude. But appreciate the FR none the less

5133937 · 2015-01-06T17:36:44+00:00

Interesting post, and as throwaway mentions not the first such. I wonder the extent to which a lesbian who's really mastered seduction could seduce straight girls. The mind is the most powerful erogenous zone, and fundamentally that is what this is all about.

hipower805 · 2015-01-06T06:56:20+00:00

mojo_magnifico · 2015-01-06T15:48:48+00:00

Where is the part where you seduced her?

Title	[FR] From a Lesbian
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	91
Comments	47
Date	January 6, 2015 5:52 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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