[FR] LMR "I barely even know you"

NickTDS · 2012-04-09T15:01:35+00:00

Freezeouts are lame. It's like a little immature boy not getting his way so he pouts and walks off.

Do they work? Sure, but often because the girl feels guilty and sleeps with you so you aren't upset with her. Personally, I want a woman to have sex with me because she's excited and genuinely wants to.

That being said, just pull back and connect with her for a little. Her hesitation is because she doesn't feel comfortable enough yet. You opened her with something sexual and by the end of the same night was in her bed. She probably feels like you might only want sex or that she's moving a bit fast.

In those situations, hang out and make her feel good emotionally. Take your time to listen to her, get her laughing, and focus on building something deeper. You can still run your hands on her and tease her while doing so. The combination of self-control, caring how she feels, and having her relaxed is important.

Then say 15 minutes later you can try escalating the situation again. Sometimes all it takes is those couple of moments where you respect her and reinforce that you actually like her.

If she's still not ready, don't sweat it. Let her know it's not a big deal and you enjoyed spending time with her. You got a girl into bed the same night and she clearly wants you. When a girl truly interested, she wants to see you again and you can hookup next time. She'll appreciate you more in the long-run for respecting her boundaries.

2012-04-09T17:07:42+00:00

"Yeah its crazy how quickly we connected" Maybe? I uno.

puaCurveBall · 2012-04-09T15:41:10+00:00

"Yeah, isn't this crazy", then escalate.

Attila_TheHipster · 2012-04-09T15:10:10+00:00

'Yet it feels so right'

iceazn187 · 2012-04-09T18:20:33+00:00

Thanks for the tip guys, some of the responses to what she said are great...wish I had known oh well for next time!

iznou · 2012-04-09T19:06:37+00:00

Listen bro, you are in Twilight Zone territory here. Opening girls with "whens the last time you blew somebody" but not having the sexual experience to make a girl comfortable in bed.

Your mission if you choose to accept it: COMMUNICATION.

cygnusness · 2012-04-12T06:40:29+00:00

I've been in this situation only once before and I conquered it in epic fashion after watching Jared Psyche Laurence's presentation about Qualification & Interest.

In the video he shares an anecdote about how he was sharing the evening with a woman who he was able to learn a lot about. Her childhood, relationship with her parents, education, etc. Then at the end of the night, when they were at their most intimate, the woman gives the exact same LMR: "But, you don't even know me!"

At this point Jared concedes to the audience that maybe that's a valid reason to stop. But instead, he decides to repeat back to her anything and everything he's picked up about her that she has told him throughout the night. He mentions her childhood, her relationship with her parents, and her career, and then gives the knockout punch which is where he uses that info to make a qualification of her that he tells her. He tells her that he admires her as a person, or something along those lines. And her jaw drops.

This is exactly what I did whenever I was in bed with a girl at the end of a day 2. After talking for a while and laying in bed (learning her background while she was warming up to the idea of sex), she came at me with the same line:

"But you don't even know me!"

To which I might have honestly caved, if I hadn't seen that Jared Psyche vid earlier that week. I responded with something that was of very similar framework to the Jared response:

"You think I don't know you? I know that you are a student with a full-time job, and that you're the captain of the color guard. I know that you have 4 siblings. That you care for them deeply, and that each member of your family including you has succeeded in the face of incredible adversity. I know that you're a person who values trust, empathy, and determination. And I think that all of those things are admirable about you."

We were having sex around 5 minutes later.

This strategy is for breaking through LMR by mindblowing them with your awesome listening skills that they weren't aware of until you repeat their entire life back to them, and then tell them that you think it's cool. Honestly, it was probably one of the most awesome things I've ever done. Makes you feel like a silver-tongued devil with level 100 speech skill.

iceazn187 · 2012-04-10T08:07:08+00:00

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Mo3 · 2012-04-09T14:38:05+00:00

Freezeout. I'm still a.. advanced beginner myself, but in theory freezing out and doing something else (grabbing something to drink, whatever) should work wonders. Correct me if I'm wrong!

Title	[FR] LMR "I barely even know you"
Author	iceazn187
Upvotes	21
Comments	31
Date	April 9, 2012 2:27 PM UTC (14 years ago)
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