Fuck. Just feel broken rn.

Cesare_MA · 2016-08-03T21:01:58+00:00

Didn't mean to make it so long. Tl;dr at the bottom

Why are you at the mall? Is it for an actual reason or to just pick up girls?

People generally go out to accomplish a specific goal. Most people are at the mall because they need to buy/return a specific thing. If you're going out just to talk to people in a place where people are actually doing shit, they'll pick up on it and it'll turn them off from talking with you.

The paragraph above does a pretty shitty job conveying my message, so I'll just tell you what to do. Next time you go out to anywhere but a bar or nightclub, go out with a purpose, be it to buy groceries or some new shoes, whatever. While you're out completing this defined task, you'll notice people around you that you wanna approach. You'll be much more relaxed when you approach because regardless of whether the interaction is hit or miss, it is not the main reason you went out. So when you go back home you might think you had a horrible interaction with someone, but you won't really care because you went out for something completely different. This is how interactions should go in your day to day life.

Also, if you go out with the intention of approaching people, you'll naturally force a lot of bad interactions. If you go out to buy a new suit jacket, you won't be focused on approaching as many people as possible and will better recognize and take good opportunities to approach. In scenario one you're getting 1 or 2 good interactions while forcing another 20 or so which will most likely fail. In scenario two you're only getting the one or two good approaches because you recognized them as good opportunities.

Tl;dr go out with a specific purpose, not just to pick up girls. Pick up girls while completing that specific purpose. Does not apply to bars and nightclubs.

Deathteck · 2016-08-03T21:09:23+00:00

Ok bro, Start lifitng if you havent already. Get contacts, you gots them lovely blue eyes m8 chicks love that and going to the mall just to pick up girls tends to put alot of pressure on yourself. rather id recommend just going to the mall for whatever just chill for a while and whoever passes by or is near you at the time you have the opportunity to chit chat. Never expect anything and if you are that nervous about approaching the ones you do like start with less attractive women and just have a friendly conversation, do that a couple times and have the same mindset with the hot ones. You aren't ugly or anything but perhaps you are just trapped in you're shell of fear, i have issues with that as well its a everyday process bra get outta that comfort zone

buyableblah · 2016-08-03T21:17:31+00:00

Bro you're a good looking dude. Get in that gym. Get some contacts.

Get the hell out of the mall and into a bar or organized social activity.

If a man approached me in the mall... The likelihood of me even smiling is zero to none.

You'll get it. Don't lose hope.

omegavil · 2016-08-04T02:25:46+00:00

The sting of rejection is nothing compared to the sting of regret. Which is what you'll be feeling now.

LostChas3r · 2016-08-03T20:56:59+00:00

Dont. Give. Up.

Overnight_Delivery · 2016-08-03T21:02:00+00:00

go the fuck back and run down the first girl you see. by run I mean run. what's more important than even approaching a girl is that you don't leave feeling like shit, go fix that right now.

raikmond · 2016-08-03T22:22:43+00:00

Approaching itself is not a goal, but a way to achieve something. There are a lot of ways of "getting" girls, and cold approaches are but one of them. Try other strategies, like going to friends' parties, or go to places where approaching feels more natural, like bars.

Turlast · 2016-08-04T01:19:20+00:00

You gotta jump off the cliff, man. If you continue standing on the edge, you'll look back many yrs later and have regret over not doing it. Embrace the awkwardness now and get better at it. You can do this.

TheManWithThreePlans · 2016-08-04T05:41:46+00:00

Next time you go out:

1) Go places with a purpose. Hit on chicks organically

2) if you see a girl you think is attractive, fuck any kind of time limit or thinking what to say, walk your happy ass over and say something.

3) the first approach of the day is always the most difficult. Back when I was seriously sarging, I would make my first set one where I just said whatever the hell I wanted in an attempt to get rejected. Really takes the edge off.

Title	Fuck. Just feel broken rn.
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Date	August 3, 2016 8:30 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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