FUCK. Will I ever succeed?

Dorman010 · 2014-02-15T16:23:10+00:00

When your game increases, it is not a linear process; you will meet plateaus, then have a sudden spike in improvement and then meet another plateau. These plateaus can last indefinitely for some, and are the most frustrating part of improving your game. However, in order to improve, you need to keep going. It is what separates those who made it from those who gave up halfway.

At this point, I can't go back to being to sexless Beta I used to be.

This is a problem. You seem to correlate your value, as a player and perhaps even as a human being, to how much you get laid. The problem here is that there is an infinite number of factors that are out of your control - the girl might be upset, maybe her dog just died, maybe her boyfriend proposed to her three hours ago and she's out celebrating it in the club/pub. You have no way to know this, of course. In most cases, initially approaching a girl with the idea of "I want to fuck you" shows through.

We humans are an amazingly interesting species. Think about it for a moment - odds of you being born, as you were at birth, are around 1 versus 300 trillion if I recall correctly. Now, look at that, and include all the other random factors that we all have in life - we should not exist in this current form. None of us should. And yet there are over 7 billion of us, each in a most refined and definite form. Each of us has a set of fears, hopes, a history likes and dislikes that is pretty much unique to that person.

As you've noticed, this is mostly inner game stuff, seems to be really popular in Seddit. The main idea here is that your intention shows through; you just want to fuck any attractive girl you see. That's fine, I'm the last person to judge you for that. However, it shows through, and when you tell a girl anything else than "I saw you and wanted to fuck you" when approaching her, it shows through. It is not congruent with what you feel inside, and girls pick up on that very easily. And guess what - girls don't like guys who pretend to be someone they ain't.

As far as your actual outer game/approaching/routines, you need to give us something to work with to give you some feedback.

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-02-15T16:38:34+00:00

Every single approach and seduction attempt you make will fail, until one succeeds. So keep going.

fatalclaw · 2014-02-16T08:32:57+00:00

more approaches, takes years to become good at PU

twelvedayslate · 2014-02-15T14:53:31+00:00

Do you have a friend? Have a friend critique your technique. Or, even better, have a wing man (best: wing woman).

ItsNotAScam · 2014-02-15T21:22:59+00:00

NOT ENOUGH KINO.

bl1y · 2014-02-15T18:31:16+00:00

So I have no idea what's holding me back.

We can't help you with better info. I bet you do have some idea about what's holding you back, or will if you spend more time thinking through your past interactions more carefully.

2014-02-15T23:34:16+00:00

You do any day game? How's your fashion? Body? What's your open to close game plan? How well do you communicate your intent. Do you touch these girls? Try to close every set?

YetzirahToAhssiah · 2014-02-16T05:47:22+00:00

I've been there, man. I've been doing better recently. I became less desperate/invested/outcome dependent, started having more fun, and re-focused on body language, tonality, eye contact, and smiling. When I first started going out, I got a lot of positive responses from girls because these fundamentals were fresh in my head.

Now that I'm focusing more on them again, I'm getting more positive responses.

bigfike · 2014-02-17T03:09:31+00:00

makesN0sense · 2014-02-16T10:08:42+00:00

build your team bro. the first girl is ALWAYS the hardest, but once you get her, your confidence will SOAR and you will be an unstoppable force to be reckoned with. build the attraction, and after you bang(not immediately, like after you guys see each other a couple times and are chillin together), say you just want to be friends, because you're not ready for commitment(I'm pretty young, this might not work if you are older), but still hang out and treat her like your girl.

John-Luke · 2014-02-16T13:57:04+00:00

Progress is progress, it doesn't come naturally for some, keep working at it.

Most importantly, desperation is very smelly and girls have a keen nose for it. Go out and have fun doing it, girls will notice you if they see how full of life you are and confident you are and are more likely to be open towards you.

Its your business if all you want to do is fuck heaps of women but as I said don't be desperate and push it

Antares42 · 2014-02-15T16:08:39+00:00

I honestly simply want to fuck a lot of girls.

This sounds like the opposite of outcome independence. It also makes you sound like a jerk.

Title	FUCK. Will I ever succeed?
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Comments	22
Date	February 15, 2014 2:50 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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