I'm a 22 male from the UK. I started the game when I was 17 for a few months. I did mostly online game with MySpace and Facebook as I wasn't really confident with face to face talking.

I was getting better as before I would always get friend-zoned and I had two girls interested. I then ended up dating one of them for 5 years only to have recently found out that she has been cheating on me for the past month with a 45 year old with 3 kids and a wife (and the fact she's been lying to me for the past 5 years, she never told her parents about me eventhough she said they disliked me and made excuses not to see me towards the end).

Last night I went out clubbing with a few friends and I found it hard to open sets just because of the really loud music. I guess it all depends on the venue but this place I was at was pretty much a whole dance floor and I found it hard to communicate with girls as well as my own friends (alcohol did not help me interepret what they were saying even better).

How does one open sets in that situation? I can't dance to save my life!

As well as that, what can we do once we find ourselves in a relationship? Do we carry on using our techniques on our partners to keep the interested or is it a completely different game? I felt as if I should have at least tried something on my ex cause I'm blaming myself that she lost interest in me... Or would it be safer to assume that she was a little bat shit crazy?